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What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in BDSM? - 8/8/2016 4:26:33 AM   
GBaxter


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Status: offline 		I'd be grateful if anyone can describe what's the ideal scene they most like to do in BDSM and why, when they're playing with someone,
either as a Dom or Master, or the ideal scene they most like doing, if they're a sub, or a switch.
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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 4:56:46 AM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		as an old fashion submissive, I always leave it up to whichever Dominant I'm involved with as to what they want. Not all D/s or M/s revolve around sessions.

But one of my fave sessions happened in the middle night when I was sleeping. I was grabbed, chained up and blind folded, then had some erotic light impact play done, it was great because it was a surprise.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 5:21:44 AM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		We don't deal in sessions or scenes at all.
It's not part of our dynamic.
We live it 24/7, not scenes.


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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 7:50:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GBaxter

I'd be grateful if anyone can describe what's the ideal scene they most like to do in BDSM and why, when they're playing with someone,
either as a Dom or Master, or the ideal scene they most like doing, if they're a sub, or a switch.
High energy, good vibes, positive attitude, the right atmosphere and ambiance all help me create or participate in an ideal scene. The why is easy..it's fun..almost as good as a chess match. ;D


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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 8:46:22 AM   
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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 9:32:34 AM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		I have to say that anyone who asks to "describe" a scene or activity without some specific question about it is fishing for wank fodder or because they don't have enough imagination to think of stuff themselves.
And it's usually dominants (or subs asking for their doms) or wannabe's that do this.

If you don't have the tools in your grey cells to do this for yourself, you shouldn't be who you're pretending to be.


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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 1:36:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1
I have to say that anyone who asks to "describe" a scene or activity without some specific question about it is fishing for wank fodder or because they don't have enough imagination to think of stuff themselves.
And it's usually dominants (or subs asking for their doms) or wannabe's that do this.

If you don't have the tools in your grey cells to do this for yourself, you shouldn't be who you're pretending to be.

I'm going the other way. He's not looking for wank fodder. He's looking for ideas to snow submissives into thinking he knows what he's doing. Probably some inexperienced gal that he's trying to hook with some hot talk about his <cough> experiences <cough> that will turn her on.

With this being my suspicion, OP, I won't be ponying up first.



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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 2:24:47 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		That would tally with my second notion - that he hasn't got the imagination to dream it up for himself.

He wants someone to provide him with a 'script' he can learn parrot-fashion.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 2:29:46 PM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		very good point there LadyPact. I guess that's why I only play with experienced Dominants, they know what they are doing and most of them are very imaginative. I guess the inexperienced ones need to hook a submissive first so yeah get stories from everyone else than make it up as he goes a long.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 2:31:01 PM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		you also made a good point as well freedomdwarf, neither thoughts I thought about this morning.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/8/2016 4:49:08 PM   
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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/10/2016 5:34:47 AM   
BrownEyedGirl45


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Status: offline 		I'm not into "scenes", I'm not playing a part, lol. Hate that term. But to kind of answer that, as in what do I like in general, just him being in control. I'm particularly fond of a hand or arm round my throat, and having him do what he wants. That's it.....end scene, haha.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/10/2016 7:08:46 AM   
MariaB


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Wow! Tough crowd in here tonight.


Isn't it just... and then we wonder why this place is so quiet.

When I first came on the scene I looked for ideas. I was never accused of being a wanker or not having an imagination of my own but perhaps that's cos I'm female. I put my hand up and admit that I sometimes borrow ideas from something I've seen or heard about and I don't get all precious if someone wants to use my ideas either, on the contrary, I take it as a compliment.


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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/10/2016 7:30:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think he is necessarily looking for wank fodder or trying to trick a new submissive. Maybe he is just curious. (Although you never know haha). Hmm I don't have a whole lot of experience but I enjoy spanking, so many of my favorite scenes have involved that to some extent.
I do recall a time I was tied by a Japanese rope master in a dark Tokyo club... It was so very sensual and that was definitely a favorite scene of mine.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/10/2016 8:52:05 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		Giving the benefit of the doubt:
I never think of it as scening but the type of "play" that tends to make me all floaty is sensation play.
Silk dragged across skin, spanking that builds slowly and involves nails going across with full body caressing before it builds again.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/10/2016 9:55:07 AM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: MariaB


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

Wow! Tough crowd in here tonight.


Isn't it just... and then we wonder why this place is so quiet.

That's not why the place is "quiet," other than the white noise.


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When I first came on the scene I looked for ideas. I was never accused of being a wanker or not having an imagination of my own but perhaps that's cos I'm female. I put my hand up and admit that I sometimes borrow ideas from something I've seen or heard about and I don't get all precious if someone wants to use my ideas either, on the contrary, I take it as a compliment.

Possible because you are female. Also possible that you 'came ON the scene' and looked for ideas. Which, I'm guessing, also had something to do with you going out and observing what other people did. Stuff that looked like fun and saying, "that looks cool... I want to try that".

But, in doing so, you were showing that you were willing to make the investment.


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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/10/2016 10:28:38 AM   
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When I was new to all of this, I got my hands on everything I could read both in book form and online. I never once asked people to describe "scenes", I asked questions about dynamics, technique, etc. In doing so, people freely told me what their dynamics were like etc. A lot ended up describing "scenes" in their answer.

Perhaps it is the phraseology I used, but I was never once accused of looking for wank fodder. Whether or not this is true of the OP I've got no idea... but the Internet does not lack for bondage blogs, creative writings and various and sundry bondage porn sites... not that I recommend bondage porn as a training ground, but they certainly do not lack for imagination... what is possible in reality is another ballgame altogether.

If the OP really wants wank fodder, there is a plethora to be found.

To the OP:

If you really want to learn, here is a list of books that you may want to read. http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

Also, check in your area to see if there are local groups. You may be able to find a potential mentor to show you the ropes... pun intended.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/14/2016 9:24:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like tying them to the bed. And, as they lay there, all wanton, and expectant of 43 and a half wicked ravishings, I rummage through creatures handbag thence spend all their money and max out their cards on vet bills (robin hoods), 100 inch LCD, and fifty hookers and a shot of pencillan…and when their hand bag is bereft of worth, I am displeased,therefore I thrash them witless with said bag of no worth, then I call all there hot friends and ask if they are skilled in the art of knob gobbling a mostrosity of a cock…Then I sell their phone, and all their friends, and creature of utter wretch, for bars of gold.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/14/2016 10:15:20 AM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		a scene is a session, many kinds of sessions, could be impact session, sensation session, spanking session etc.....

it has nothing to do with playing a part.

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RE: What's the ideal scene that you most like doing in ... - 8/14/2016 10:29:41 AM   
Greta75


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Status: offline 		I like the whole "reluctant captive", I love all types of rape plays.

In a 24/7 D/S dynamic. I got to say, my x-dom ambush me unsuspectedly alot for realistic rape plays. I never know when it's gonna happen or what will happen and I kinda absolutely love it. The trust level gotta be so high too to allow him to freak the hell out of me all the time.

On most regular days, there are protocols and regiments we stick to, which is super fun too for me. As I've always love those things.

All the usual, like no clothes allowed beyond the mat at the front door. Go kneel infront of him and greet him properly. Body inspection, and get collar put on. And then follow his instructions. Whatever he wants. He'll have a different plan every night. Every morning too, we have our routine.

I feel like it's one big continuous scene with many different story lines. Jumping here and there.

And we have a "dom on", and "dom off" dynamic. The default mode is he plays cruel sadistic master.

But if I needed him to be vanilla for me, I can call out for it, by asking for my boyfriend, and he'll snap out of dom mode and just be a regular vanilla boyfriend. Sometimes, I need time out. And fortunately, he was someone who doesn't feel the need to dominate me all day.



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