Draciron
Posts: 21
Joined: 12/28/2004 Status: offline
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I think that's exactly it. They're not really Dominant, so they compensate by being an asshole. I've seen plenty of male "Doms" with that attitude too. I generally do not blame popular media for much, but in this case I'm going to throw a dart right at it. D/s shocks people and Nillas focus on the whips and chains aspect, not understanding the mechanics of D/s at all. While there are some folks who really dig the humiliation aspect of D/s as a primary kink, this is misconstrued by novices and Nillas to mean that people want an ahole/bitch to just be a dick about everything. I'm guessing there are some folks who dig that though, so I'm not going to judge. If they do more power too them. I can see where it'd be offensive to most subs. It is also generally a sign of inexperience with the community. On the flip side, tolerance is kind of a necessary unevil of D/s. I have no comprehension of how a male sub's mind works. That doesn't mean I'm going to disparage them for being who they are. We all share a commonality if we are here. In general posts like the lead post on this thread where a private communication is taken out of context and whoever said it gets put in the stocks for public humiliation is rather distasteful in my opinion unless the post is a warning about unsafe actions or activity. One of my peeves about the D/s community is how quick it is to lynch fellow members on minor infractions instead of taking a mentoring role to grow the community and make it a safer community for all.
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