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thezeppo -> RE: How to message dom? (8/26/2016 9:57:10 AM)
Not a domme obviously, but I have only ever messaged people in a vanilla style. I've tried to focus on a vanilla interest either stated outright in the profile or implied theough a username. If someone gives specific instructions in their profile about how they want to be addressed or what they want you to say I follow that. I try to leave the kink out of it though, if you are both on CS then the kink is already obvious. Its the other stuff you need to figure out

DynamicDs -> RE: How to message dom? (8/27/2016 10:04:03 PM)
If you come at me with a list of the things that you wish to do to serve me, it's painfully obvious that the list is about you. Read the profile, follow directions and behave ike a human being when you email me.

MsMayaMaddox -> RE: How to message dom? (8/30/2016 2:48:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SnowRanger Hello A/all, This one is pretty easy really. What would you do face to face? I recognize that society has coarsened recently, but, "Da-Yum Bitch!' is still met with disdain. CS is just a place to find people with similar interests. You still have to start with step one... "Hello, how are you?" We guys seem to think that just because this is CollarSpace we can skip the first 14 steps. Mention something in her profile that piqued your interest. "I see that you listed Chainsaw-Operation in your Lives-For. Do you prefer Husquvarna or Stihl? See? Intelligent questions about her profile will get you points. If you absolutely have to mention a photo, "Nice tits!" isn't going to make it. Asking her about the stone on her necklace would be better. I don't worry about protocol in my first missive. I use I rather than i and you rather than You. If she has preferences, you will know soon enough. DO NOT EVER send her an unsolicited photo of a rooster! Period! The ladies are universally disgusted with "cock shots." That one seems reasonable to me. Good luck in your search, Mike SnowRanger Gave me a good chuckle.

SnowRanger -> RE: How to message dom? (9/15/2016 7:24:07 PM)
Ms. Maya, I am glad that I could brighten your day! Mike SnowRanger

AlphaMaster2u -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 4:20:21 PM)
I think honourifics are important from the start, always Sir or Madame and just state exactly what you are seeking.

OsideGirl -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 4:24:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AlphaMaster2u I think honourifics are important from the start, always Sir or Madame and just state exactly what you are seeking. 1) Sir and Madame are a sign of respect. Respect is earned. 2) Using Sir or Madame implies a power dynamic before there is an agreement of a power dynamic. 3) Using an honorific before there is a power dynamic agreement, clouds the issue if you decide that person isn't for you...because you've already implied that you've accepted a power dynamic.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 4:33:14 PM)
quote: always Sir or Madame LOLOLOLOLOL

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 5:10:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AlphaMaster2u I think honourifics are important from the start, always Sir or Madame and just state exactly what you are seeking. No. Just no.

DarkSteven -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 10:45:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AlphaMaster2u I think honourifics are important from the start, always Sir or Madame and just state exactly what you are seeking. No. 1. Always read the profile. If a Domme requests a protocol, do it. If she doesn't, then address her by her username. 2. Even in vanillaland, you never lead by specifying what relationship you want. Who walks up to a stranger at a party and says they're looking for marriage, for fwb, for a live in without marriage, etc.? Your beginning should state what in their profile or writing caught your attention. If the two of you get along, then start discussing relationships.

DaddyKiss -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 10:56:24 PM)
I really just like them to be polite. It doesn't have to be complicated, just a start to a polite conversation.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 10:58:13 PM)
@DarkSteven Do you ever get tired of being so sensible?

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 11:09:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick @DarkSteven Do you ever get tired of being so sensible? Seriously. I'm kinda sad he lives in CO. :p

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: How to message dom? (10/11/2016 11:11:55 PM)
So move

DarkSteven -> RE: How to message dom? (10/12/2016 1:45:01 AM)
It really feeds my ego to have fangirls. [:)]

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: How to message dom? (10/12/2016 7:21:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick So move CO or WA state are my ultimate goals for places to eventually settle, so it's a definite possibility. Just gotta get me or hubs a great job in one of those states to justify a move.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: How to message dom? (10/12/2016 7:23:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven It really feeds my ego to have fangirls. [:)] Feeding egos is one of my favorite pass times. But I can only feed egos I actually admire. ;)

WickedsDesire -> RE: How to message dom? (10/12/2016 9:07:17 AM)
All will do so on their knees to I. I, forever the complete gentleman, will allow them to put a bucket between their legs to catch their deep throbbing orgasms evoked by simply typing unto I and my absolute glory

Shandirra -> RE: How to message dom? (10/12/2016 4:54:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl 1) Sir and Madame are a sign of respect. Respect is earned. While I agree that respect is earned, let's not discount the importance of treating all humans with a degree of decorum. I make a distinction between respect and courtesy for this reason. Respect is an aspect gained when someone treats me fairly and equitably over a period of time. Courtesy however; is something I extend to all people no matter their orientation, their relation to me, their societal standing or whatever other factor one deems measurable. Let's call it an extension of good manners. The precursor to respect, if you prefer. I do address strangers as Sir or Ma'am as a gesture of courtesy. My momma raised me right. ~ As to protocols; if a potential partner is addressing someone they'd appreciate interacting with, I believe it's good form to follow whatever protocols are outlined in a profile. If none are provided, and it's a profile on here or some other kink site? Then Sir or Madame (Ma'am) is an over reaching faux pas. My advice; approach the recipient as you would a vanilla in public. Like a human being.

OsideGirl -> RE: How to message dom? (10/12/2016 5:08:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shandirra I do address strangers as Sir or Ma'am as a gesture of courtesy. My momma raised me right. I can be polite without addressing someone as Sir or Ma'am. I'll be sure to let my mother know that you think she did it wrong.

Shandirra -> RE: How to message dom? (10/12/2016 8:09:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl I'll be sure to let my mother know that you think she did it wrong. By all means, please do. For you to take my comment personally, shows a lack of upbringing. Or insecurity. Take your pick.

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