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ORIGINAL: Shandirra

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
1) Sir and Madame are a sign of respect. Respect is earned.

While I agree that respect is earned, let's not discount the importance of treating all humans with a degree of decorum. I make a distinction between respect and courtesy for this reason.

Respect is an aspect gained when someone treats me fairly and equitably over a period of time. Courtesy however; is something I extend to all people no matter their orientation, their relation to me, their societal standing or whatever other factor one deems measurable. Let's call it an extension of good manners. The precursor to respect, if you prefer.

I do address strangers as Sir or Ma'am as a gesture of courtesy. My momma raised me right.

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As to protocols; if a potential partner is addressing someone they'd appreciate interacting with, I believe it's good form to follow whatever protocols are outlined in a profile. If none are provided, and it's a profile on here or some other kink site? Then Sir or Madame (Ma'am) is an over reaching faux pas. My advice; approach the recipient as you would a vanilla in public. Like a human being.