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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:38:09 PM   
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In Reading you have pretty easy access to London by train and tube, TRP. There are events going on there that are specifically Femdom/malesub. I think these might prove more fruitful for you than straight munches. Once there, though, you have to switch on the 'normal, friendly and sane' vibes as best as you can - till you know that the 'way is clear'. That's what I've learned, anyway.


He still won't find someone if he displays his impatience and frustration.

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:40:10 PM   
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In Reading you have pretty easy access to London by train and tube, TRP. There are events going on there that are specifically Femdom/malesub. I think these might prove more fruitful for you than straight munches. Once there, though, you have to switch on the 'normal, friendly and sane' vibes as best as you can - till you know that the 'way is clear'. That's what I've learned, anyway.


He still won't find someone if he displays his impatience and frustration.


No, he will not. He has to crank up the friendliness and pleasantness. God knows, it's difficult enough for me at times, too - but there we are. Just has to be done.


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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:40:19 PM   
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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:41:10 PM   
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been to many events in london / kent / essex / the midlands . mostly all couples there so you end up wandering round on your own. no good.


Hang on, there's one I went to that I thought was really good. I'll see if I can find the details ....

.... Club Pedestal. https://fetlife.com/groups/9417

- Have you tried that? I went there a few years ago and it was great.

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:42:29 PM   
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im very patient. ive been waiting and searching for years and nothing ever happens. so it gets to a point when you have to say something and start to wonder if this lifestyle is really in existence. From what i can see very few GENUINE lifetyle dommes in the uk , certainly bareley any on this site , and most are either married or not single


Well, in that case, who is the common denominator in this equation? It is you. Your approach is not working for whatever reason. Perhaps you should look for what it is you are doing wrong. Ranting and raving about fakes and scammers isn't the way to impress anyone... had you come here to actually discuss your approach to meeting someone, you would be getting some great advice.

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:44:29 PM   
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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:45:35 PM   
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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:47:02 PM   
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but its true. 99% on here are fake and are just interested in money

Even if that is the case, focus on the things YOU can change instead of fixating on the things you can't. Until you do that, your situation is unlikely to ever change.

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:48:27 PM   
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im only as negative as i am because of the way ive been treated by all the fakes and scammers on this website. Show me someone genuine for a change.

And you think women that have many, many, many choices are going to find that attractive?

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:52:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		anyway , have to go off now, thankyou for all the comments.

need to sleep - working in the morning. im not a findomme unlike many on here. will be back tommorow. going to my basket. goodnight

puppy

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 5:58:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why not try a different approach as Gauge suggested............begin talking with people, on here AND in munches, in an open and friendly fashion and don't bore straight in like a bull in a china shop. Make friends first and let the friendships develop somewhat before you begin to hint at who and what you are. Who know, you may find the other person/people may broach the subject before you get around to it.
I met one of my slaves when I was in England when she was working on the radio for a cab company. We became friends, then lovers and then she asked me to tie and spank her and it developed from there.
Another was an air-hostess ( as they were in those days) that I met on a flight to Canada, arranged to meet for drinks when I returned and a similar thing happened with her.
Try it trp, it might just work and if it doesn't, what have you lost ?
Whatever you do though, stop bitching, whingeing and whining. It affects your whole attitude and shows when you meet or talk with others

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 6:01:40 PM   
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but its true. 99% on here are fake and are just interested in money


Have you been reading what I am telling you? OK, I'll explain. The way you weed through the fakes, which there are a lot of them, is to be yourself in your approach. Forget the kink and read their profile and pick something out, non-kink and talk about that or ask a question. If they have a picture in an obvious vacation spot, ask where it was taken or mention that you love the beach or mountains. You speak online just like you would approach someone you do not know in real life. Most of the scammers will not take the time with you, so, you block them, and move on. Don't be cookie cutter by your approach either, be original, get creative, you both are on a kink site, not mentioning kink in the first email might make you stand out... in fact, I believe that the female dominants on this site will tell you that it will make you stand out... because they get the same shit from all the men trying to be subly, and they have heard it all before.

Oddly, the above will work in real life too. Curb your impatience and put some time into getting to know someone. Chatting with someone is fine, but if you are at a kink function, it is a given that you are all kinky, so while you can talk about kink, you really don't have to.

I would also revise your profile. Blacklisting is not allowed, and puts you in a bad light right off the bat. You also talk very little about yourself, but a whole lot about kink. Remove the parts about asking for money, it is not going to stop the fakes anyway... and gives it a negative feel overall after the blacklisting you do. Talk about you, do you like to read? Cook? Sew? Go hiking? Biking? Movies? Favorite music, your favorite color... and so on. Your profile gives a potential dominant exactly nothing to work with except reading a profile that they have read hundreds of times before. Want to catch someone's eye? Be different. Be genuine.

Whatever you have been doing is not working, time to put a new plan into action.

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 6:12:39 PM   
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Also, stop using the word "genuine" because "genuine" is an amorphous term and what may be genuine for me, might not be genuine for you. Instead, you can describe what you would like your dominant to be for you... I know I said not to talk about kink, but you should talk a little bit about what it is you seek. However, you do not have to mention a lot of kink in explaining this, for instance: I am looking for a partner, a friend and someone that I can spend time with. She should be a gentle and understanding partner, and a firm handed dominant. See? 3 words referred to kink.

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 6:15:01 PM   
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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/29/2016 6:15:36 PM   
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Whatever you have been doing is not working, time to put a new plan into action.

Being a ball of anger never works.

But, beyond that...since not being interested in him or failure to meet his "idea"of what real is means that you're going to have to deal with being called fake and a scammer...why would a woman that has enough choices to pick and choose who she deals with,deal with someone that displays that kind of attitude before they even spoken?

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/30/2016 1:16:53 AM   
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"Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home and fuck the prom queen."

LOL. Yeah, YOU probably would but that's 'cause you've got game.


OP, before I give you a ration of sh^t, I do have to tell you, that is the cutest dang puppy on your profile.

Now that I have that out of the way...

Are you willing to entertain, just the slightest possibility, that you might be going about this the wrong way?

There are several people on this thread, myself included, who aren't pro-dommes, fin dommes, or anything else. We don't session by the hour or any of that crap.life

However, for every one of us, there are a hundred of you. Let that sink in really, REALLY good. And, all of you are like the puppies in the box. "Pick me! Pick me!"

What you really have to do is stand out, rather than those other 99.

Every lifestyle fem-D that I know who is dating, has a reason she picked the guy who is in her life. You want to be that guy.



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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/30/2016 9:01:35 AM   
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been to munches , been to fetish speed dating , been on fetlife , posted ads , been to fetish clubs and events........... no mistress!!!


You know what, I used to teach in on of my counties largest, and best riding schools. From time to time I'd get asked by certain clients which riding school I could tell them to go to that had 'push button horses' because ours were too much like hard work. That they were fed up old nags, and that they'd never learn anything on them.

I would tell them that I couldn't recommend anywhere for them. Not because there were no other places, but because there was nothing wrong with our safe, dependable, well trained young school horses. That Even with the most highly trained 'push button ride' you couldn't just get on it, sit there, look pretty, and have it instantly do all the work for you. I'd then get on their horse and ride it to show them that there was absolutely nothing wrong with the horse. Only to have them say 'But it knows you're the instructor' I'd point out that no, I'm the one that knows what order to push the buttons, and that's what I've been trying to teach them.

You see, if all the sites fail you, and all the real life places fail you, it's not that the world is full of fakes, and things don't work. It's just that you're insisting on pushing all the buttons in the wrong order.

Needles

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/30/2016 9:58:10 AM   
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im very patient. i've been waiting and searching for years and nothing ever happens. so it gets to a point when you have to say something


Yeah spoken like you understand what you are saying, ever think past your negative attitude on your replies, how you look to the general population your pissing on for not meeting YOUR standards, if you have been searching for years and nothing has come to fruition, perhaps its you and not someone else that is faulty, i see it plain as day, so does everyone else here
why cant you?
=============================instead of writing that scathing reply back to me in response to this post, step back and look at all your ramblings here and realize it, breathe it in, allow yourself to see it as a new person would or a seasoned pro would as well...

yeah we get the idea your mad, but we're not to blame for your short comings and you are not on any quest here to better the site or its members or the community in your self absorbed bratty manner, this site wasn't built to serve you and because you don't get your way when you want it, does not mean it should be torn down and rebuilt so you can con someone into taking you... this lifestyle needs to be lived, by all parties, and it takes a lot of work, both on the sub and on the Dom side, and if a Domme see's you being bratty, self absorbed, needy, whiny, yeah your not going to find them easily they want someone who will respect them and not make presumptions when the scene or the topic changes, you are not seeking to be owned you are just looking to get your jollies as a player IMO

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/30/2016 1:33:05 PM   
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yes been to pedestal. mostly full of couples


I didn't find that the time I attended. Actually it seemed to be full of gangs of females. Jolly agreeable!

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RE: FAKES & SCAMMERS - 8/30/2016 2:01:49 PM   
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