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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

But yet I don't see any women wanting random sex. Why not?

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Why are women different in this regard?

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Please no need to criticize my profile or posts that I made. I would honestly like an honest opinion.

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ORIGINAL: ilovestarbucks

It's 50% men and 50% women. But yet I don't see any women wanting random sex. Why not?

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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss

Kind of like supply and demand. We want what we cannot easily get and value that which is not plentiful. Men want sexual release/feel good and have a hard time finding it and women want a connection/relationship with another person. There are LOTS of men offering sex and, because it is important to THEM, men don't understand why females don't place the same value on it. Fact is--most of the world is heterosexual so they have no choice but to get their sex from a woman...You now have flooded the market with "product" pushing down the perceived value with abundance. Women are luckier because they can and do get emotional connections with both genders so...there is never an even exchange rate because one is in a better bargaining position.

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ORIGINAL: Quiette

Dunno if this helps but, we all want the same thing. To feel good (in whatever form that comes in). If I don't think I'll feel good with someone, I don't get wet for them and I kinda need that to happen lol. Just like you need to get hard (for sex anyway). How easy is it for a guy to pop a boner, though? It's really just that simple. Convince me through your looks and actions that I would have a fun time with you and I'll totally go for it. I think most other women will agree.

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But yet I don't see any women wanting random sex. Why not?

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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But yet I don't see any women wanting random sex. Why not?

Maybe because all a woman has to do to get random sex is go to a bar and say yes.

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Women are usually mental creatures

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ORIGINAL: KitsapReign

Women have been bred over the millions of years to have a whore mentality. Just today on Facebook my cousin - a woman - liked a picture that said "A well tailored suit is to women what lingerie is to men." It's true. Lingerie sexually objectifies women. Well Tailored suits financially objectify men. Women want money, men want sex. Women want rich men, men was hot women. Even on here, women supposedly claiming to be slaves saying "you have to EARN my submission." Why? YOU should have to fucking EARN my dominance! These women are whoring out their submission. Women want their wedding ring - it's the symbol of their worth, how much they can whore themselves for. Women want financial security. Well you know what? Men want financial security too, but they dont' go around picking their mates based on her income do they? they don't judge their sons wives by how much money she makes, they want their sons to have a hot wife. Women judge their son in laws by how much money they make. They want their daughters to be successful whores.

Women are hardwired to be whores. Vanilla women, kinky women. Don't let them tell you they want some emotional connection. If they did, they wouldn't be wetting their panties over the buff stud. They'd be fucking that really nice guy with the fat gut but the heart as big as the world. Nope, only if that guy with the fat gut and the big heart has a fat pocketbook to go with it.

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

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ORIGINAL: cloverodella

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For men there's little risk in no-name casual sex. Men are not going to be branded a whore if it's found out they practice casual sex, a reputation that can have long-lasting effects.

Among other things, women have to worry about the risk of pregnancy - even using multiple forms of birth control can fail. Even if I wanted casual sex, I'm going to exercise standards - I don't want to have to raise a kid with some rando loser who will bitch and moan about child support. Each sex act may come with a lifetime commitment that is harder on the woman.

Then there's the fact that so many men try to get out of using condoms. Forget pregnancy, those men don't care about STIs and protecting their own dick, much less their current and future sexual partners. If a guy doesn't care enough about his own health to wear condoms, he's not worthy of any sexual partner. I don't understand how men can be so flippant and in the moment that they "forget" they need a condom, but then I remember they can't end up pregnant, and are at less risk than HIV than the woman with PIV sex.

Women are not your fetish delivery systems. Women want to enjoy the sex they have, too -- it's not just about what HE wants. We're looking for partners who will satisfy us. In this post, OP, you're looking for a casual partner for what sounds to be specific fetishes that even pros aren't willing to go for. All BDSM counts on trust, and that isn't developed with a random partner. You're forgetting that if a woman couldn't find a partner to satisfy her kink, she'd need to go without or pay a pro, too. And not all of us women can just pick up a casual partner -- I wouldn't have the slightest clue how.

Plenty of women want sex but don't get it. We just don't whine about it everywhere. Women are conditioned to think there's something wrong with us that we need to change first to be desirable -- ie: i'm too fat, too ungly, too bitchy, too loud, etc. -- we blame ourselves. Meanwhile, men complain that they can't get their dick wet without any self-examination of themselves, or if what they're bringing to the table is enough, only to blame the women for "their shallowness". Men like this think that having a dick entitles them to sex, and if they're not getting it, it's anyone's fault but their own.

In what you describe, OP, based on this post, you do not want to put in the effort of getting to know a woman because you're oh so busy, but expect her to want to hop on your dick in any way you want, because you want it. That kind of attitude is unattractive, no matter how good-looking or "high status" you are. There's no guarantee of finding a sexual partner just for being alive and horny.

Instead of trying to figure out why women don't just for a scenario that caters to you, work on being a generally better person and more desirable partner. It's the same advice I'd give a woman if the roles were reversed.