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Greta75 -> RE: Is submission really a 'gift' ? (10/4/2016 8:51:23 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent
I think you hit on a very interesting point -- "more about finding someone to serve their kink." their kink = submission or acting submissive.
Ironically, yes I know I am on a BDSM site, but I have never thought about D/s as kink. So seeing someone suggest it in terms of being a kink, was interesting. I really don't get the whole kink thing - I mean don't get me wrong, I understand what they are -- I just don't get why things are seen as kink instead of just normal lol.
Just to clarify, D/s simply is what it is and its life -- for me, how some men and women exist in a relationship or how some people exist in a relationship. Its not abnormal or kinky or whatever other non-average adjective people apply to it. It incorporates a life of control and controlled.
But thinking of it in terms of being a kink -- yeah, I can see where it being a gift can come into play. It will be interesting viewing discussions and responses of people with this new way of seeing submission or someone speaking about being a submissive. Serving their kink. That is a really interesting view.
It's how you process kink. I knew I was into bdsm since a child. Since I had memories. I had barbies tied upside down naked, and whipped, and I already had all the full imagination of things in bdsm that I enjoy.
So to me, my kinks are like being gay. I didn't choose them. They are there when I was born. And they will be there for life. It's not a passing fancy. It's a part of me. I have never changed, my preferences, what I love. Has been exactly the same since I was 5 yr old, since I had memories.
In terms of a traditional relationship, where a man is the leader, and I am his support system. Again, I grew up and was taught equality. The real world teaches you as a woman to be independent, be your own woman, take charge, basically, alot of things I feel inside contradicts what the world is promoting for woman these days. But I was groomed to be that strong independent woman. As that is the world I grew up in. My own mother is the breadwinner of my family. She makes twice as much money as my dad, still cooks, does everything, like seriously...., she is super woman, in terms of her capabilities, my dad does absolutely nothing, she takes care of everything, like the man in the house. Except for her mothering skills, she might be the embodiment of what's expected of a modern woman these days. To just be incredible and capable of everything and anything that a man seriously becomes irrelevant in her life, except if she wants sex. So I still call it kink, because it's not what is in today's times and world and the direction the world is moving towards, normal at all.
But whether vanilla or BDSM, I prefer to be with someone who sees me as a gift. I want to be with a man, whom I see him as a precious gift to me! Because, I want to be with someone who I will treasure. And not be with someone I would take for granted.
If I don't think someone's friendship to me, or someone's love for me is a precious gift. Then clearly in my opinion, I probably don't care about this person.
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