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Tributes and Financial Domination - 9/30/2016 8:57:36 PM   
VarkazX


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Status: offline 		So this is just going to be a fairly one sided rant on the lifestyle of Financial Domination and Tributes. I can not say that I have much experience in the lifestyle, but what I do understand is that the relationship between a Dom/sub, Master/slave, Daddy/little, Owner/pet, or however you describe your relationship in the BDSM community, that the relationship is built on trust and a strong bond with one another. I just do not understand the appeal of a Financial Domination situation. I can understand how it can be a kink to some people, and in a way, its one of the more absolute forms of Domination and submission. I however do not understand how people who are not in it for a true love of Domination and submission are still around. To me it seems like very attractive men and women are abusing this system just for financial gain or for a twisted version of a sugar daddy. But instead of a sugar momma or daddy being in control of what they provide for the person, the person is forcing the money out of their sugar slave. The only way financial domination is acceptable is if you know the person, can trust them with your well being and know that they wont leave you homeless and out on the street. Someone who cares for you, and understands how far to take it. Certain people out there do not care about you. They do not care about your well being or how much you make. They dont keep track of your finances to make sure they are not bankrupting you. All they want is your credit card information and your hard earned money. But you see, when they do take all your money and dump you to the curb, you cannot get that money back. You handed over your information willingly for some shot at seeing someone tits or a nice cock. Its not worth it. My main point behind Financial Domination as a whole is be careful with who you do it with. Make sure you know you can trust them. But now lets talk about something even sketchier than financial domination. "Tributes". The fuck is tribute? You're telling me that I have to pay money on a amazon gift card, or buy you some fancy clothes or jewelry just for you to command me around and me to get a quick jack off? Are you fuckin mad? Wheres the love? Where is the connection? Where is the getting to know each other and building a bond with your Dominant? Ill tell you where it is. In the fuckin garbage. Ill tell you that the IMVU chat-rooms, yeah that god awful avatar chat-room site, the lifestyle on there has more substance. Because there you dont have to pay for some girl to get on camera and tell you to jack off. Hell, there are videos online, JOIs and things of that nature for that. "Dont even send me a message if you dont send me tribute first." "If you think that we are going to play, let alone talk without a tribute, then you are wrong." Im sorry, but what the fuck? Yeah I am a submissive. Yeah Im a guy who takes it. But good fucking god how egotistical and greedy are these people who ask for tribute. They think that they are perfect enough and worthy enough for "Tribute." To anyone who thinks that tributes arnt that bad, or you are one of the Dom/Dommes that ask for tribute. Do you not understand that the BDSM lifestyle is built on one principle? Respect for one another. You have to get to know the submissive and understand them in and out, just like they have to do that with you. Asking for tribute from people you do not know shows that you are greedy. A trait that no one wants in a friend, family member, significant other, let alone a Dominant. To the people who give these "Dominants" tribute, dont fall for the trap. There are kind and loving Dominants out there, who are looking for a relationship rather than your money. They want you for you, and want your submission to be earned rather than given to them.

In summery, If you are the type who likes financial domination, please make sure you are Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Make sure the partner controlling your finances are making sure to have your best interest at heart. Cause thats what a true dominant does. As far as tributes go. Its a scam. All of it is. If they are a true Dominant, who cares about the aspects of Domination and submission then they will try to earn your respect and care, rather then telling you that they are better than you and deserve gifts. If they say that you need money to talk to them, just look at it like those "Prince from Nigeria" emails. They dont want anything but your money. There are people out there who Dominate for the pure joy of domination. Those who live and breathe it and love it with every ounce. Its just sad to see about 6/10 profiles on Collarspace say that you need a tribute, while on sites like Recon and Fetlife, theres nothing like that. I love this site and everything about it. Ive been on here for a long time. I just wish that we could turn this site around and stop giving those greedy people, who care nothing about this lifestyle, what they want. Anyways, thats enough ranting. You all have a nice night. Be safe~
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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 12:47:02 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Um, thank you for your PSA, after three years of membership.

You do realize that we have some experience and have already made up our minds?

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 2:59:30 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		You should pay tribute to the paragraph God, because oh my, do you need him.

As for the body of the work, bah, more femdom whining.
Lets get this shit straight folks-A sucker is born every minute, you can't outlaw dumb, and nobody is holding a gun to this idiots heads forcing them to hand over cash. Their lust addled minds and spunk filled testes are doing all the thinking and hey, WTF am I to stand in the way of such forces

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 3:59:52 AM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		I'm beginning to think that's exactly what it is, they fall for this crap whatever it is, because I can't read his ramblings. They fall for it because they are lust filled, they think with their cocks and not their heads.

OP-I can't read your text ramblings. Separate the words into coherent sentences please.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 6:40:24 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		So you don't think money is power? Try running for President without it and see how far you get.

Tributes are a sign that you're sincere and not planning to leave the woman sitting alone at Starbucks. Because huge numbers of sub males set up meets and are no shows. And then contact the same woman six months later with a specious excuse hoping to do it all over again.

If the men were of higher quality, the women wouldn't be this jaded.

And yeah, I'm betting he's another one that wants the domme to spend thousands of dollars to fulfill his fetishes when they do nothing for her. Dude, thigh high leather boots and corsets are neither cheap nor comfortable. If you want her to indulge you with them, then stop being such a miser and buy them. They're for your benefit after all. Not hers.

Another cheapskate insisting that women be his personal fetish delivery system.

< Message edited by DesFIP -- 10/1/2016 6:43:59 AM >

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 7:02:11 AM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		Taking into consideration the OP is 19 with little to no experience (his words) then it's easy to see where this comes from. A guy with no experience wanting his fantasies/fetishes fulfilled, searching for a live-in D/s relationship. Likely the only messages he gets are from findommes/tribute dommes.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 10:50:56 AM   
stef


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Status: offline 		Riveting material. Perhaps we'll all be treated to another wall of text treatise in the future about how water is wet or perhaps even that fire is hot.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 11:00:25 AM   
VarkazX


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Status: offline 		Instisting women be my personal fetish delivery system. That's funny. From everything that ive been learning from the kinksters in my area, a BDSM relationship is just as time consuming and takes just as much trust as a normal relationship. All I see are people going around asking for tributes and I just feel like its wrong. Like theres no love or care. You can not deny that a large amount of people use this site just to get things they dont want to pay for. And its wrong.

I dont want a Dom or Domme to spend thousands of dollars for my fetishes. Domination can be done without the toys, and outfits, and things like that. Domination and submission is a mindset. Money is not needed in a D/s relationship. I just dont see why this site is so fixated on tributes and financial domination, when it is near non-existent on other sites. It makes Collarspace seem like a scam.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 11:48:08 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Money is not needed? Someone has to buy the toys. That cock cage you want her to use on you? It's not free. Go buy it yourself.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 11:49:04 AM   
Greatlilbabygirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Money is not needed? Someone has to buy the toys. That cock cage you want her to use on you? It's not free. Go buy it yourself.

But she could diy it from twigs and tree sap.
Hahaha hahahaha hahahaha

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 12:25:45 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		I couldnt get past the first two lines...but Im gonna go out on a limb here and assume his topic is the same as the other asshats who have no clue what the findomme fetish is about. Lemme guess, you found a hot ass domme, got interested enough to write her (prolly didnt read her profile)and found out you had to pay, now your pissy? If Im wrong Ill admit it, but I highly doubt it.

Listen kid, Im very happy that you are experiencing BDSM and learning about it, but do just that, LEARN about it. Regardless of dumbasses born every minute, there are groups that have 1000 plus people in them that are strictly for the fetish. Even pay princesses have a place in this lifestyle. One cardinal rule about this lifestyle is to remember that "everybodys kink may not be yours, but you dont bash them for it" (unless of course it involves minors..then Im bashing the shit outta you and callin the cops) but you get my drift...

resolution: move on, learn and experience.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 12:29:54 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: VarkazX
I just dont see why this site is so fixated on tributes and financial domination, when it is near non-existent on other sites.



If you think it's not on other sites, then you haven't been looking.




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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 12:41:54 PM   
DaddyKiss


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Status: offline 		I receive tributes but only in person and very small gifts that are intended to be used on the subs who provide them. Having someone DO something for me is really the best tribute in my opinion.
Surely though, if I had the legs for it, I'd be collecting the cash too! ;-)

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 12:48:10 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		The issue for me with the FinDucks:

Financial Domination can be an integral part of a power dynamic relationship. However, with the FinDucks, it is the entirety of the relationship and it's a business transaction where the "submissive", most of the time, gets nothing in return. In most cases they're not really Dominant, simply here to get a paycheck. (and will simply close the profile and open a new one to start over)

That said, there are people here that do it and do it well. K is one of them, Ish is another.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 1:28:37 PM   
WickedsDesire


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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 2:52:41 PM   
MaryMaryProDom


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Status: offline 		@VarkazX
FinDom is a very difficult and I've had several submissives but each one I blew it. The first one lived 2,000 miles from me and mailed me a $500 pre-paid credit card and I was to take out what I wanted for that month. Money for hair, nails, etc. For that month I would control him and tell him what to do via emails. However, as soon as I got the card I spent everything on the first day. Since I already spent the money I had no desire to control him. I asked him for more but he wouldn't do it.
The second one was very similar - as soon as I got the card I spent everything. It was really stupid of me because if I had the self-discipline to take out little by little, I could have kept both as customers. Month after month. But I blew it.

FinDom takes self-discipline and takes a lot of practice. It's not as easy as you think.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 3:00:38 PM   
MariaB


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MaryMaryProDom

@VarkazX
FinDom is a very difficult and I've had several submissives but each one I blew it. The first one lived 2,000 miles from me and mailed me a $500 pre-paid credit card and I was to take out what I wanted for that month. Money for hair, nails, etc. For that month I would control him and tell him what to do via emails. However, as soon as I got the card I spent everything on the first day. Since I already spent the money I had no desire to control him. I asked him for more but he wouldn't do it.
The second one was very similar - as soon as I got the card I spent everything. It was really stupid of me because if I had the self-discipline to take out little by little, I could have kept both as customers. Month after month. But I blew it.

FinDom takes self-discipline and takes a lot of practice. It's not as easy as you think.


This has to be a wind up


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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 3:21:51 PM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		12 years and I await one modicum of reality, or one modicum of reality meeting another of substance present thyself many dogs breath



only i can verify myself for i am can anyothers

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 4:29:23 PM   
stef


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ORIGINAL: MariaB

This has to be a wind up


It's very stinky bait. They need some sucker to send them another Green Dot card so they can afford new bait.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 6:03:01 PM   
kiwisub22


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Status: offline 		You have to wonder that if she doesn't have any self control how does she think she can be a findom.

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