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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 6:12:18 PM   
WickedsDesire


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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 7:48:14 PM   
PaulWG


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Status: offline 		In response to tributes, if any "girl" ever asks me for a tribute I just assume that they are trying to scam me and have no intention of meeting me at all. I also assume that a lot of these people are just using fake profile pictures of more attractive people and that isn't how they really look like in real life. I would have to say 99% of the people that I've messaged on this website so far have asked me to tribute to them. The rest live to far away from me to actually meet up.

This one "girl" i'm talking to now is being very persistent saying she wants me to pay her $300 or $300 worth of toys to prove I'm serious and she won't even let me see her face and meet in person in a public area before I buy the toys. I'm not an idiot so I never give money to anyone before I actually meet them in person because as far as I know it's a man just using a girl's picture to scam people and even if she is the girl in the picture I wouldn't just give her my money with nothing in return for it. That's not what I'm looking for. I'm looking for a woman who actually loves bdsm so much that she would do it for free with me. I have no interest in women who charge for bdsm. To me that makes me feel like they must not really love bdsm if you have to pay them cash to do it with you. I have no interest in women like that.

Tbh, financial dommes disgust me. When I hear someone is a financial domme I just assume that all they want is easy money but they aren't willing to give anything in return for it. They want all of your money but they refuse to have sex with you, they refuse to get naked for you, or to do anything sexual with you at all. They just want your money and they will take as much of it from you as you'll give to them until you are completely empty and then they will kick you to the curb and let you starve to death for all they care. You'd be getting much more for your money by just hiring an escort or prostitute and tell them to do bdsm with you than you would giving your money to a financial domme because the escort/prostitute would at least fuck you if you asked her too.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 8:29:01 PM   
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All I see are people going around asking for tributes and I just feel like its wrong.

So just move on to the next person, those demanding tributes are clearly not for you. See how easy that is?

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 8:30:36 PM   
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I just dont see why this site is so fixated on tributes and financial domination

the site isn't, there's just a shit load of young self-proclaimed Findommes on the site.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/1/2016 9:31:09 PM   
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I'm looking for a woman who actually loves bdsm so much that she would do it for free with me.


OK, if she loves bdsm so much, why isnt she already doing it, there is only so many hours in a day. The chances are she is taken.

If you found a woman who loved bdsm so much, how would you interest her enough to want to "play" with you.

Do you want sex from her, or to get naked for you or do something sexual? do you want a "relationship" or to be your fetish delivery system?

Do you think that there should be dommes out there ready to play with you after a simple email? or a coffee?

While I am sure they are out there, I would say they are probably in a distinct minority.

I havent played in over a year....I enjoy "playing" with others, But in the convos Ive had since then, none have tickled my brain enough to get me to want to meet, let alone get my vibe on with.
Thats choice and reality.

DO you go to events and get to know the "players" who WILL flog(or whatever) you the same evening they meet you.

If you dont want to shell out 300$ for new toys, DONT.

You have a choice, this is money, not your life.
as Dizzy said
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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick
So just move on to the next person, those demanding tributes are clearly not for you. See how easy that is?

edited to add, this was directed at PaulWG, not Dizzy, just in case anyone is confused

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/3/2016 12:23:54 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Ya know, every time I read one of these "rants" about fin kink, I want to tell the writer of the OP to exchange the word "money" for needles. Or cbt, or any other darn thing that doesn't turn everyone's crank.

OP, it's like any other kink. If you're not into it, don't engage.


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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/3/2016 3:01:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: VarkazX

Instisting women be my personal fetish delivery system. That's funny. From everything that ive been learning from the kinksters in my area, a BDSM relationship is just as time consuming and takes just as much trust as a normal relationship. All I see are people going around asking for tributes and I just feel like its wrong. Like theres no love or care. You can not deny that a large amount of people use this site just to get things they dont want to pay for. And its wrong.

Yea people are going to claim you are just looking for an easy lay. That's because 90% of the men who start threads pissing and moaning about fin dommes are usually mad because they have found out that just being male and willing to play isn't necessarily going to get anyone interested. The only females? who are willing to interact with them want cash first. They don't want to admit the problem might be with them so they blame the fins.

As to whether it's wrong or not, that's really not your call to make. That is between the two people in the relationship. If you are not into it, then stay away from those who are. It's pretty simple if you think about it.

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I dont want a Dom or Domme to spend thousands of dollars for my fetishes. Domination can be done without the toys, and outfits, and things like that.


That's great, make sure you let whoever you hook up with know that. To some people props and clothes are a big part of the fun so I am sure you will understand if they continue to use them despite your disapproval.

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Domination and submission is a mindset. Money is not needed in a D/s relationship.

I guess if you don't want to go anywhere, eat anything,or do anything, then ya not needed at all. But tell me, when you want to meet someone and get to know them what do you say? Do you want to meet down at the local park and sit around talking? Don't expect food or drink though cause I don't think a relationship should cost me anything.


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I just dont see why this site is so fixated on tributes and financial domination, when it is near non-existent on other sites. It makes Collarspace seem like a scam.



And it will until you have been to enough site to realize they are all the same. And honestly until they make software that can tell if a person is sincere or not it will continue to be that way. At this point you have 2 choices. You can continue to piss and moan about it or you can ignore the ones you are not interested and focus on the ones you want.

Just keep in mind that everything you post is available for other to views from now on and could possible affect any interest they may have had in you.

Oh and you might want to rethink the whole "a relationship shouldn't cost me money" mentality you've got going on there. Especially if you have any plans of having a family one day.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/3/2016 3:22:24 AM   
longwayhome


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Status: offline 		Exactly. (What thishereboi and LP said.)

Nobody is twisting your arm or holding a gun to your head.

People asking for money up front might seem more visible and be more willing to make first contact with you. Well that's not surprising as they are often the ones with the time (and financial interest) in doing so.

It's really simple. If you think someone is actually offering a service they will carry through with you have a choice about whether it's what you want. (There are plenty of pros offering perfectly honest commercial transactions.) If you think you are being scammed then steer clear.

And ffs don't moan about it. The internet is full of scams. Hell, daily life is full of scams. You can just side step them and get on your way. Unfortunately you are not in possession of a magic wand so you can't make them go away.

You have the right to say no.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/3/2016 3:37:58 AM   
WickedsDesire


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Status: offline 		Listen, op and the rest of you
1. Op I warned you and a few others never to do this again on here. ( I will overlook no more than two credible-linked identities) do you believe this to be unfair scum?
2. You chose to do so. I will ask once why? I would answer that one if it was me...but heh free will eh!
3. I prefer those asking your questions to be on the higher ground..mind your tongue

If I catch any of the "genuine" regulars on here enabling this prick you will incur my absolute wrath

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/3/2016 4:11:31 AM   
longwayhome


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Status: offline 		I know it's not new phenomenon, and this is not necessarily directed at the OP, but there is an constant stream of people complaining about how they posted themselves on CS and they can't find a partner.

They seem to think that if they push the right button they are entitled to be delivered a range of suitable people for them to make a choice. It's almost as if they think a compatible partner is a human right, or they are acting like consumers, complaining about the universe failing to deliver for them.

Even better they seem to want to make the minimal investment in the process, both financially (which is understandable, especially if you don't have the cash) but also emotionally.

If you live in a city you might see hundreds of people a day. How many of them are really compatible with you? How many are in a position to have a relationship with you? And you need to actually make the effort to speak to people, get to know them, give them the impression that you might be worth knowing and not just looking for a tailored relationship to add to your other possessions. You need to be the sort of person for they would want to bother spending their time with, not by changing your entire identity but by giving of yourself, and caring about their interests and needs. You would think this stuff would be pretty obvious to a fully grown human.

Sending a out a note with your personal requirements out into the internet, like a realtionship shopping list, and hoping someone else wants to bite might work, but that kind of success is a bonus not an entitlement.

Just because this is a "special interest" site you don't get a written guarantee of meeting someone. If you're single and interested in sports, do you complain if nobody asks you for a date when you go to a sports bar, or the ones who do only like football and you're a baseball fan? No, you suck it up, and drink somewhere else if the beer's crap and the seats are uncomfortable. (I know that's a really shit analogy but I'm on a roll.)

Don't get me wrong if someone wants a relationship and they don't have one, they have my heartfelt sympathy. What I'm not doing is not rushing out to find them a complaints form for the Guild of Dommes (or whatever other group they fancy spending their time with).

Fuck me, can people not get off their butts and interact with the world?

Rant over.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/3/2016 9:06:46 AM   
Danemora


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OP, what two people do within the realm of their relationship is honestly NONE of your concern. Their kink clearly isn't your kink...but your kinks are not the only permitted kinks in the world either. Build a bridge and just get the fuck over it.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/3/2016 10:19:22 PM   
TNDommeK


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ORIGINAL: Danemora

Build a bridge and just get the fuck over it.


I'm stealing the shit out of this!

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/7/2016 1:38:14 PM   
MaiaDollars


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Status: offline 		Well, here is my opinion.
I'm into female domination since I was a girl... and I'm into financial domination since I was 21 or 22 years old.
You can read my story and the way I started in domination in the "introduce yourself" post, I posted it today because I'm new at this community.

First of all, is important to say that every person (and every relationship) is unique, odd. And every person sees this kind of sexuality in a different way.
There are several ways to live this, I guess.
Which one is the right one? That only depends on the relationship that each domina builds with each one of their servants. Each relationship has its own codes. You build together. That's why you can't accept a slave immediately...you have to build a relationship (specially trust) first.

For me, domination started as a child. I've always been obsessed with control, with controlling my own acts, my own words, to analyze EVERYTHING...and of course, that leads me to try to control everything around me. Specially people. I'm a very mental person, and the only way I find to feel great and empowered and with my emotions balanced, is through control. As an adult, I started with the financial domination because is a very good way to control other adult's life...you control almost every aspect there: where they go, their social life, what they do during the day, what they eat, what they buy, their free time, etc. You control their emotions too, because If you control their money you can make them feel like they can loose everything form one moment to the other If you want...but in my case OF COURSE I don't want my pets to loose everything! And they know it. They know that I CAN, but they also know that I would never do that.

Maybe many people can't understand this, but I feel love for my 4 pets. They serve me with loyalty and they make everything to make me happy, and I give them what they want...my attention. I give them tasks, I talk with them about art because I like them to be cultured, and I gave them tasks to keep them health and fit too.
I love control, and they love being controlled. They trust me and my criterion to organize their lives, they feel useful making me happy and knowing that I accept them. They pay my bills, they buy me things, they do as much as possible to catch my attention and make me feel safe and IN CONTROL of every situation of my life.
Some of them enjoys when I get a little cruel and sarcastic, and some other not. Some of them just want me to organize their lives very strictly, but they don't want me to humiliate them. Each relationship is unique. I listen to them and their needs and I put some discipline in their lives. And they show how grateful they are by sending money.
I never accept a slave just because he pays. There MUST be a connection first.

I never talk to some sub guy for the first time calling him "slave"...I don't do because I only call that way to MY OWN SLAVES, TO MY SERVANTS...not a random guy I don't even know.
I don't ask for a tribute to talk the first time to ANYONE...the financial relationship starts by itself once the guys really becomes my slave. We make happy each other. Slave serve to my goals in life, to my empowerment and my freedom to decide through money...and I give the slave exactly what he needs. Is a win/win relationship.

Other important aspect: I'm very careful about letting other "owned slaves" get too close, because I respect the other dominas and their relationships. I would be angry if someone tries to steal the control of one of my slaves...so I respect the other relationships.

This is MY OWN perspective of this, I hope it helps you (at least a little) to understand what happens in my mind. But well, as I said before...this is only MY OWN EXPERIENCE.
Regards!

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/23/2016 2:28:46 PM   
priestessblack1


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Status: offline 		Agreeing with like: yeeeeeeeaaaah

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/23/2016 2:34:36 PM   
priestessblack1


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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Money is not needed? Someone has to buy the toys. That cock cage you want her to use on you? It's not free. Go buy it yourself.

But she could diy it from twigs and tree sap.
Hahaha hahahaha hahahaha

Greatlilbabygirl you are too much....speak truth though

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/23/2016 2:45:23 PM   
priestessblack1


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

The issue for me with the FinDucks:

Financial Domination can be an integral part of a power dynamic relationship. However, with the FinDucks, it is the entirety of the relationship and it's a business transaction where the "submissive", most of the time, gets nothing in return. In most cases they're not really Dominant, simply here to get a paycheck. (and will simply close the profile and open a new one to start over)

That said, there are people here that do it and do it well. K is one of them, Ish is another.

Here here.....most times these subs do not spend their time to research the fetish well.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/23/2016 2:58:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: longwayhome
Fuck me, can people not get off their butts and interact with the world?

Naaaaa. Too much effort for most people these days.

Button.... Press.... Instant Amazon Air Delivery.
Didn't work??
Bitch, whine and moan at the site for not supplying said instant delivery.... for free.


I have frequently seen people texting/tweeting each other when sitting at the same coffee table.
Yeah... really!! Like... WTF??
Can't they put their fucking phones down for one freakin second and just Ummm.... TALK??
As in, open gob and make gutteral sounds that make some sense.
A lot of people these days just don't know how to talk.
Yanno, that funny ancient activity called 'making conversation'.


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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/24/2016 3:00:44 AM   
seeks2serveBBW


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Status: offline 		I think people try to complicate D/s relationships far to much. In essence a D/s relationship is one where one partner takes a lead / dominant role and the other submits to them, the level of submission is up to them as individuals.

I have little personal experience of Pro Dommes and what I do have I found quite cold and clinical, but for a lot of subs that's probably enough, for me though, I prefer something more personal. On one occasion I was licking a Dominants boots and all I could think was "how many other men have knelt here licking these boots".

Also you need to remember that to a Pro Domme your a client paying for a service and most of them aren't dominant in their vanilla lives, in the real world lifestyle Dommes are very few and far between.

D/s is an adult game and should be seen as such.


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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/24/2016 10:32:55 AM   
Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: kiwisub22

You have to wonder that if she doesn't have any self control how does she think she can be a findom.

If it was an honest post, I think that was the point she was trying to make, a lesson she learned after trying it out.

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RE: Tributes and Financial Domination - 10/24/2016 10:34:51 AM   
Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK


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ORIGINAL: Danemora

Build a bridge and just get the fuck over it.


I'm stealing the shit out of this!

Oh I am too!

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