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Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/10/2016 9:31:44 PM

WMDom26CA

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All the women I meet want money. What's the deal?

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/10/2016 9:35:09 PM

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How many women have you really met face to face that demanded your cash?

Edited. Sorry. I tend to make typos when laughing.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/10/2016 9:49:23 PM

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How many women have you really met face to face that demanded your cash?

Edited. Sorry. I tend to make typos when laughing.

???? they ask for cash when you write to them. they want u to deposit it into their account. it's so sad

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/10/2016 9:52:34 PM

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You're in the LA area, aren't you?

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/10/2016 9:58:10 PM

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Yes

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 2:28:51 AM

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you are obviously in the wrong place, or maybe just very immature, GROW UP, GET A LIFE, GET OUT. XX

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 4:18:09 AM

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All the women I meet want money. What's the deal?

You ask "Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site?"

It's not. If you really want to.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 4:22:56 AM

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Or you could just get some advice on where to meet kinky people in your area and see if you can use your social skills to convince them that you are worth spending time on.

You do realise that there is a constant stream of people asking questions like yours?

I get random emails every so often from "women", who may or may not be women, asking me to submit to them, and implying that a financial contribution would seal the deal. Comes with the territory.

Feel free to research old threads. You will get all the helpful (and unhelpful) advice you could possibly want.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 4:53:56 AM

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Are you furiously emailing all those 5ft3, 23 year olds - the ones with oddly professionally posed pics?

I have to say, once I figured out how to spot the obvious fakes, I discovered that it's really pretty easy to get to know people and meet them.

I've made a bunch of good friends on this site, and have had some very kinky schtuff too.

I think your approach probably needs to be refined.

I took a look at your profile.... And the first thing I'd suggest is that you put yourself in the shoes of a woman - Try to think about the things she might be looking for in a profile.

By way of a starter, my first impression of your profile is that you're curiously switchy, you seem to be solely interested in kink (no hint of what kind of actual relationship you want), so... I'd recommend you have a good old think about the profile.

Yes, there are bazillions of events going on in your part of the world, and loads of places where you can meet similarly kinky folk, but with a better profile, and a more refined approach, a smart looking fellah like you should have no problem meeting people.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 7:09:54 AM

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And then, after all that, at the end of the day you might have to consider the slim possibility that the only women who would be willing to indulge you in the things you want are those who want to be paid for them.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 7:18:09 AM

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WMDom26CA can i apologise for the lack of empathy shown to you, if that is indeed you and your not on some repetitive cycle asking this over and over again on here/

Why are genuine women so rare on here, why are genuine women so rare on here that are looking. This site has been around 12-13 years, I think?

Any time I have run the figures I come up with somewhere between 10-40% and that include all the professional ladies (who are not fakes) but does include errant money vortexes. Hmm this takes me time to do but let us see what it returns nowadays.

If I searched all of Scotland – population 5 millions which is comparable with any English region, or American state for people being on in the last month without spitting them into categories. Real, undecided, guy pretending he is a women, money vortex, whore – legitimate fin dommes who makes time and effort in eg forums I exclude.

Women parameters all open signed on since 1st October
Genuine or probably (they may be looking or not or single or not) 6
All the rest 24

Men – same parameters
Grand total only 200

Women 6
Men 200

~ratio 33 men to one women

You have your answer

Why won’t genuine women join here, remain on here - is another question

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 7:59:58 AM

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Meet them in person. Online is shit
True story

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 8:36:23 AM

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All the women I meet want money. What's the deal?

Just curious but do you read their profiles before messaging them?

I ask because about 80% of those profiles will mention that they expect some form of compensation.

So if you are not reading profiles and just sending out random messages (or assuming that you are the exception to their profile), that's all on you.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 8:43:01 AM

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All the women I meet want money. What's the deal?

The deal is this; I peeked your profile. It's a wishlist of fetishes/fantasies you want fulfilled. It speaks to nothing of the human being behind the words. Merely typing words into a profile doesn't mean it's been filled out. Yours is desperately empty.

Most women that are lifestyle versus professional want a connection beyond the mere physical. Put more of yourself into the work and you might get something more than bloodsuckers trying to drain you dry.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 8:44:10 AM

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Yes

She is gonna come on here, and tell you that LA is the kink capitol of the world, and give you the names of some clubs and be nice about it.

There is more kink out there than Collarspace. This is really a place for us to crack jokes and be fucking rude as hell to each other.

Its not a real fuck site. Like...........oh, all the other fuck sites people want money.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 8:45:41 AM

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Because there's so few real women and even fewer subs or slaves. It's all a bunch of fat fuckers jackin off in their grannys basement while watchin porn

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 8:51:00 AM

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When all else fails, read the directions:
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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 9:02:33 AM

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On a personal note I believe WMDom26CA to that not being him and caught in an eternal sock loop on here - my opinion.

But that excuses no good advice from the rest of ye.

To reiterate - OP his picture, methinks, stolen, and his profile is utter shite. I would have expected the opposite approach myself - observe those who have this and there worlds the rest may be hurled into a volcano for they make these places an atrocity

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 9:19:50 AM

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Here's the thing OP, I bet I could get a woman to meet you using your account.

ML has part of it right - you're mostly likely emailing the "too good to be true" profiles.

Your profile is terrible and somebody interested in actually having a relationship is going to pass it by.

And lastly, every thread you've started is complaining about women.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/11/2016 9:23:17 AM

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All the women I meet want money. What's the deal?

Because you're not offering women anything they want, so all women who are here looking for a relationship (whether romantic or play only) aren't interest in you, and all you're getting is hookers who think they might make a buck on you.

What your profile is doing is equivalent to walking into a vanilla singles bar and have the first thing you say to any woman you talk to be:

I want a woman to fuck tonight. A woman who will blow me. Who is willing to do doggy style. Who can easily take anal.

How many takers are you going to get with that kind of opening statement?

It's a singles bar, yes. The women are there to hook up with men, yes. When they hook up with a man they like, they're eventually going to want to fuck him, yes.

But if a guy opens with that, there's not way in hell HE will be the guy they end up fucking.

Appropriate opening conversations instead revolve around work, hobbies, life, sports, etc, etc. The women want to get to know the guy FIRST, and decide whether or not they like him FIRST, before any talk of sex is on the table.

The women on here aren't any different than that. They might be kinky, but they're still women.
They still want to get to know a guy before any talk of sex is on the table. They're still not interested in having nothing but a sexual relationship with him (well the vast majority aren't at least). They still want romance. And dating. And mutual shared interest. And being able to see a future with him. And then, after that is satisfied, they want some hot kinky sex too... but that's not the only thing they want from a man.

You're offering nothing that women want. You've got a big sign around your neck saying: I want to get off!!!!!
And so, any hooker who passes you will throw you a line: I'll blow you for $50 babe.

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