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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/24/2016 2:24:58 PM   
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All the women I meet want money. What's the deal?


Because kink dating is like an arranged marriage, with no one to arrange it for you.

It starts with a list of criteria that you want, with no reference to the personality or needs of the other person. It's a tall order. If guys could walk around with their cocks on their sleeves and find enthusiastic women, people would be doing it in the vanilla world as well... but it generally doesn't work.

There isn't any shortcut to what you want. You need to put in the time to search for someone who you like as a person, who's personality is compatible, and who wants the same things out of life as you do... and spend the time to get to know them so you can find out if you are sexually compatible.

People think there is a short cut to sexual compatibility... and they end up wasting just as much time when they do find someone through a kink site, only to find out later that sexual compatibility was the only compatibility they had. And often, they find out that not even that was true.

If you want something real, you have to start from a real place yourself.


Bravo! I have said this numerous times over the years. A D/s relationship based solely on kink with no other level of compatibility will fail just as easily as a vanilla relationship that is missing sexual compatibility. Any D/s based dichotomy must have multiple levels of compatibility to succeed in the long run.


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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/24/2016 3:21:50 PM   
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Here's the thing OP, I bet I could get a woman to meet you using your account.

ML has part of it right - you're mostly likely emailing the "too good to be true" profiles.

Your profile is terrible and somebody interested in actually having a relationship is going to pass it by.

And lastly, every thread you've started is complaining about women.




I haven't read this guys profile, but I don't think you should be criticizing it being as you don't actually have anything written on yours. You may only be here for the boards and that's fine, but don.t be putting people down when in fact they are making more of an effort than you are.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/24/2016 3:27:11 PM   
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Aren't you a special little snowflake.

Osidegirl doesn't need a profile written to satisfy anyone but herself. She's not looking to attract anyone, but the OP is. She is telling him the truth that his profile is not well written, are these things so difficult for you to understand?

Since you don't have a profile showing at all, it doesn't make sense for you to criticize her.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/24/2016 3:42:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Here's the thing OP, I bet I could get a woman to meet you using your account.

ML has part of it right - you're mostly likely emailing the "too good to be true" profiles.

Your profile is terrible and somebody interested in actually having a relationship is going to pass it by.

And lastly, every thread you've started is complaining about women.




I haven't read this guys profile, but I don't think you should be criticizing it being as you don't actually have anything written on yours. You may only be here for the boards and that's fine, but don.t be putting people down when in fact they are making more of an effort than you are.


You do realize Osidegirl is in a relationship and has been for years for as long as I have been on this site. It is a policy of ToS to have a visible profile to post on the boards so that support can contact you. Thus why many of us have profiles stating we are only here for the boards if we aren't looking on the other side.

So why are you criticizing her profile when she isn't looking but the OP is and has asked why it is so hard to find someone? The OP's profile is part of the issue. So yes there is every right to criticize what he does or doesn't have written on his profile.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/24/2016 3:46:56 PM   
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I haven't read this guys profile, but I don't think you should be criticizing it being as you don't actually have anything written on yours.

This is incredibly ironic as your profile is either hidden or suppressed by the site staff. I wonder why that might be.


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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/24/2016 8:09:56 PM   
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Sites like this are very clicky, <snip>

Yes, my clique is full of people who can actually spell the word "clique"


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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/25/2016 2:52:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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Sites like this are very clicky, <snip>

Yes, my clique is full of people who can actually spell the word "clique"



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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/27/2016 11:30:43 PM   
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Klick.

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RE: Why Is It So Hard To Meet Women On This Site? - 10/28/2016 3:19:55 AM   
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Your entire profile is "I want" with a promise at the end to get together so you can share more of what YOU want. Absolutely nothing about what you can bring to the table or what you will do for her.

And you wonder why women are not falling all over themselves to be with you?

And to make it harder you are looking for a switch.

Yea, good luck with that

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