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spideycool69 -> Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 11:41:24 AM)
I am owned by a Mistress online. She has certain rules that i follow like only taking the chastity off once ever month, reporting to her daily, sending tributes weekly and doing random assignments if they come up. One rule i can't seem to follow is watching porn. Although, she has complete access to my computer via team viewer and has restricted access to porn sites via parental control, I have watched porn on my cell. 2 days back she caught me because of my own stupidity. Me, her and other dommes and subs were in a chatroom on a femdom site (won't mention the name) and my cam was on. After chatting for a while, I decided to leave because i wanted to watch porn but i forgot to turn my cam off. When i realized it i was already too late. She was mad at me for breaking one of her rules. There's a penalty coming soon. Before i submitted myself to her i asked her if i could watch porn while serving her. She said no. I agreed because I was just amazed by her beauty and wanted to serve her. I tried resisting porn at first but it didn't work. I didn't tell her because i didn't think it was such a big deal. And, i still don't. I follow rest of her rules. I don't think this would make such a difference.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 12:15:35 PM)
Too fucking bad, you agreed to the rule so either follow it or renegotiate the rules with her.

heavyblinker -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 12:47:03 PM)
I'm not exactly an expert, but concealing things never works well in any relationship... and especially one like this.

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 1:32:34 PM)
Soooo, what you are telling all of us is your Oath has no actual value. It really doesn't matter if She caught you or not. The issue is, you AGREED to a limitation She placed upon you, then you broke Oath behind Her back. YOU know you did it, and you see nothing wrong. Hell, why not break ALL Her rules? Why even seek someone to Dominate you if you have that "Her rules don't matter" attitude? A long distance submissive is only as good as his/her actual compliance. If She decides to keep you I hope She comes up with an effective punishment (And by the way, some of Us HATE submissives who are obsessed by porn because it often portrays unrealistic scenarios, affecting submissives' expectations. It can also draw focus away from the Domme's directives, especially if She wants you to stay Chaste). quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 I am owned by a Mistress online. She has certain rules that i follow like only taking the chastity off once ever month, reporting to her daily, sending tributes weekly and doing random assignments if they come up. One rule i can't seem to follow is watching porn. Although, she has complete access to my computer via team viewer and has restricted access to porn sites via parental control, I have watched porn on my cell. 2 days back she caught me because of my own stupidity. Me, her and other dommes and subs were in a chatroom on a femdom site (won't mention the name) and my cam was on. After chatting for a while, I decided to leave because i wanted to watch porn but i forgot to turn my cam off. When i realized it i was already too late. She was mad at me for breaking one of her rules. There's a penalty coming soon. Before i submitted myself to her i asked her if i could watch porn while serving her. She said no. I agreed because I was just amazed by her beauty and wanted to serve her. I tried resisting porn at first but it didn't work. I didn't tell her because i didn't think it was such a big deal. And, i still don't. I follow rest of her rules. I don't think this would make such a difference.

Alecta -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 1:42:41 PM)
quote: I didn't tell her because i didn't think it was such a big deal. And, i still don't. I follow rest of her rules. I don't think this would make such a difference. 1. If you really didn't think it was a big deal you wouldn't have tried to hide it from her. You only hide things from other people when you know it's wrong or unacceptable to do in your relationship with them. So not only are you breaking her rule, you are lying about it to yourself. 2. If it wasn't a big deal it wouldn't have been a rule. There's no need to have rules about things that aren't a big deal to someone. If a rule was made it's because what it restricts is or should be a big deal to the person placing the rule and to the person following it. 3. If you pick and choose what rules to follow and what rules not to, you are not being a slave. You are not even following rules. You're just doing things you think are fun using "rules" as suggestions.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 2:22:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 I am owned by a Mistress online. She has certain rules that i follow like only taking the chastity off once ever month, reporting to her daily, sending tributes weekly and doing random assignments if they come up. One rule i can't seem to follow is watching porn. Although, she has complete access to my computer via team viewer and has restricted access to porn sites via parental control, I have watched porn on my cell. 2 days back she caught me because of my own stupidity. Me, her and other dommes and subs were in a chatroom on a femdom site (won't mention the name) and my cam was on. After chatting for a while, I decided to leave because i wanted to watch porn but i forgot to turn my cam off. When i realized it i was already too late. She was mad at me for breaking one of her rules. There's a penalty coming soon. Before i submitted myself to her i asked her if i could watch porn while serving her. She said no. I agreed because I was just amazed by her beauty and wanted to serve her. I tried resisting porn at first but it didn't work. I didn't tell her because i didn't think it was such a big deal. And, i still don't. I follow rest of her rules. I don't think this would make such a difference. You are weak and should be ashamed

chastencucked -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 10:18:53 PM)
Male addiction to pornography must be broken. Strict female domination including enforced chastity keeps the male focused on serving Mistress. Male has NO right to orgasm, period.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 10:32:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 I am owned by a Mistress online. She has certain rules that i follow like only taking the chastity off once ever month, reporting to her daily, sending tributes weekly and doing random assignments if they come up. <snip> You are weak and should be ashamed Why should he be ashamed?? It's a perfectly legit fetish. Just because it isn't your barrel of laughs doesn't mean he can't follow it.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 10:38:15 PM)
Would you mind changing your broken record?? We all understand what your fetish is. It doesn't need repeating ad nauseum wherever you can.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/19/2016 11:28:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1 quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 I am owned by a Mistress online. She has certain rules that i follow like only taking the chastity off once ever month, reporting to her daily, sending tributes weekly and doing random assignments if they come up. <snip> You are weak and should be ashamed Why should he be ashamed?? It's a perfectly legit fetish. Just because it isn't your barrel of laughs doesn't mean he can't follow it. He is weak because he broke a rule she set and doesn't think it's a big deal, that his "need" to view and wank off to porn is more important than her rules. That's what he should be ashamed about. What did you think I meant?

MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 12:27:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1 quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 I am owned by a Mistress online. She has certain rules that i follow like only taking the chastity off once ever month, reporting to her daily, sending tributes weekly and doing random assignments if they come up. <snip> You are weak and should be ashamed Why should he be ashamed?? It's a perfectly legit fetish. Just because it isn't your barrel of laughs doesn't mean he can't follow it. The legitimacy of the fetish is not the point. The point is his Dominant said NO PORN, and he AGREED to that...then was secretly breaking his oath.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 12:32:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS quote: ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1 quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl quote: ORIGINAL: spideycool69 I am owned by a Mistress online. She has certain rules that i follow like only taking the chastity off once ever month, reporting to her daily, sending tributes weekly and doing random assignments if they come up. <snip> You are weak and should be ashamed Why should he be ashamed?? It's a perfectly legit fetish. Just because it isn't your barrel of laughs doesn't mean he can't follow it. The legitimacy of the fetish is not the point. The point is his Dominant said NO PORN, and he AGREED to that...then was secretly breaking his oath. Exactly, which was the part I was addressing but Freedomdwarf cut that part out to argue with me about something I wasn't even talking about. I'm confused on why he'd do that when I was clearly addressing the breaking of the rule, not the dynamic the OP agreed to.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 1:31:02 AM)
The point was.... that he obviously didn't want to follow that particular rule. That doesn't automatically make him weak. And as such, shouldn't be told he should be ashamed. But how he and his Domme deal with it is quite another matter.

NookieNotes -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 4:42:24 AM)
I disagree freedomdwarf1. Lying is a weak behavior. It's choosing the course of least resistance over personal integrity and keeping your word. It is weak, and his lack of integrity should shame him. @OP, you may want to consider whether you are a submissive (seems not) or a kinkster who wants to do only certain things that appeal to you at the command of a top or dominant. I know, because I played that game once (i didn't lie, but when it came to something I didn't want to do, I didn't and said so), and realized I don't have a submissive bone in my body.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 10:28:19 AM)
It's not just the lying about the rule, it's him being largely unapologetic about it. He's not sorry he broke the rule, he is sorry he got caught. Weak, shameful behavior. Plus he only agreed to a rule he knew he couldn't follow because his Mistress is attractive. Again, weak reasoning by a weak mind. Shameful. "Before i submitted myself to her i asked her if i could watch porn while serving her. She said no. I agreed because I was just amazed by her beauty and wanted to serve her. I tried resisting porn at first but it didn't work. I didn't tell her because i didn't think it was such a big deal. And, i still don't. I follow rest of her rules. I don't think this would make such a difference."

LadyPact -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 10:37:14 AM)
So, OP, you literally left chatting with your Domme and others to go watch porn? First, that shows the porn is more important than the person you're supposed to be in the dynamic with. Second, you're not breaking one rule. You're breaking two. I mean, unless she's cool with you lying to her about the porn. (Yes, in my opinion, if you are not telling her you are watching it, you are lying by omission.) Third, what's the point of having a Dominant if you are the person deciding which rules are worth following and which aren't?

heavyblinker -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 11:08:10 AM)
Everyone else has already said it, so no need to say it again. I'm not exactly the most confident person in the world when giving advice on BDSM, but it seems to me that if you really want to be owned then you need to put her wants and needs ahead of your own, and that means making sacrifices. Intentionally hiding things that you know violate her conditions is a betrayal of the entire slave/owner dynamic. It doesn't matter if you don't think it makes sense or how well you can rationalize it to yourself, your submission is the most important thing. Instead of privately defying her, a better course of action would be to comply but communicate your feelings to her... however the fact that this subject has already been discussed suggests you probably won't get far. I don't know how patient your mistress is, but porn can be a touchy subject because it's not exactly adding value to your life and some women find it offensive. If I were you, I would be glad that she wasn't asking me to give up something I truly loved.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 5:57:25 PM)
quote: I'm confused on why he'd do that because he has a hate on for you and so will make any nonsensical attack on your posts he can come up with.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 6:43:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick quote: I'm confused on why he'd do that because he has a hate on for you and so will make any nonsensical attack on your posts he can come up with. Oooooooh, that's kinda a turn on. Rwar

mzroilie -> RE: Mistress says no porn but I want to watch it (10/20/2016 7:06:53 PM)
I let my chastity sub watch porn, but I get to decide what. I find the types of porn I choose for him turn him off to watching, so it's pleasing to me. If you make an agreement with a Dom/me or Master/Mistress you should keep it.

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