AAkasha
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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold
darren,
Welcome to the forums and stay here!
By all means, you should browse profiles and then write according the the instructions and/or style of the Domina who interests you.
For Myself, I have, at this point, completely outlined what I expect to see in a letter of introduction and petition. Even with that, I still rarely (very rarely) receive anything that even approaches the simple guidelines I have already spelled out to make it as easy as possible. I am talking maybe three or four simple paragraphs which cover the information I require. In addition, I state that I will not look for the boys, therefore, I expect the boys to seek Me out. There really is a method to My madness!
That said, being an active participant on these forums will get you noticed a lot faster than those who just sit back and wait for replies to their many one liners sent out over and over, sometimes to the same Ladies! Of course you need to have something intelligent to say, and presentation is very important! *Smile*
I was in Bath just last week. Perhaps you were the cute boy I winked at on the street?
These are good points and subs need to really listen to this. I don't know of many femdoms that have the time or desire to actively seek submissive partners, but I know of a lot of femdoms that expect to be courted and pursued - or, that a submissive should show enough initiative to pursue her.
Many submissives find this approach to be contrary to their very submissive nature. These submissives are often alone for a very long time, because their only hope is that they get "recognized" by a femdom and then she decides she must have him, and a very intense pursuit begins. This is mostly a male fantasy. This is even more so a fantasy if the submissive, by his nature, is more introverted, not "out there" and being seen, or is not actively marketing himself. A submissive that really works hard to self promote (in an effective way, not as a turn off), make himself well known and develop desire and mystery -- well, he might get a few femdoms seeking him out. But that's still very, very unlikely.
Submissives that also don't recognize the need to compete are also going to be at a loss. Just like in the vanilla world, if not more, a man must compete for the attention and favor of a woman if he is one of many. This is just the sad reality. In a competitive environment, many subs want to take a "sit back and wait/observe" approach -- and they end up left behind while their more aggressive and gregarious competition see more results.
Subs need to question whether or not this desire to be pursued is part of their submissive fantasy and how can they break out of it. Sure, every sub dreams that a dominant woman will take notice and pursue him and conquer him, or show enough interest that there's no need for him to risk his ego or face possible rejection. But a submissive that thinks this approach is going to pay off in the long run is going to be disappointed, unless he is so incredibly charming, charismatic, gorgeous or wealthy that women do take notice simply by his mere presence, effectively getting his foot into the door.
Akasha
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