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Greta75 -> RE: Dominants that are sexual prudes (10/30/2016 9:49:04 PM)
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You are also absolutely wrong. Majority of men in the casual sex world in my country also won't hook up with a woman who openly admits she has multiple partners. Most want exclusive casual too. That's my experience. They want an exclusive casual as they want to go raw, that is usually the key thing.
Disease is something that can be tested for, so no issues. Before I went into a full time D/S exclusive relationship with my x-dom. I had all my tests done and doctor of his choice and I am not worried, as the man needs to assured as well that I am safe. As I got a strict no liquid exchange policy. No kissing (bleeding gums is dangerous), no oral giving or receiving. No mouth or tongue contact on my body. Strict hygiene practices of washing with disinfectant before sex. And obviously condoms are compulsory.
All these practices really makes a huge difference in protecting yourself. Considering I've never had an accident, in terms of pregnancy either, and I have never taken birth control when I am casual, I took birth control when I am in exclusive relationships but never when casual, as for me, it's also warning the man, that I am not in any birth control, CONDOMS are non-negotiable.
I am super responsible when it comes to sex. NO accidents and No diseases. And I believe all these elements are controllable to quite a large extent. And the other thing is, considering all the conditions I have for sex. Men who have alot of sexual partners will never put up with my conditions as they can easily find women who don't have half of the conditions that I have. But generally the guys who dabble with me, feel safe with me, precisely because they know I practice such strict standards of safety and they themselves believe in all these precautions too.
On top of that, most of my sexual plays involves toys, and not actual penetrative sex. Men uses dildos. I can't cum from penetrative sex anyway, so many guys see no point. Many men I dabble with just enjoy giving orgasms to a woman, and don't need to cum themselves. I enjoy dildos better as they can be customised and shaped to hit my gspot better.
The type of man I want to be with, would be someone who likes a woman to be sexual and enjoying her sexuality freely.
So no, it wouldn't be the type of man I want to be with, if he believes in no sex before love. He needs to believe sex and love are not connected or related.
I also prefer men who have had alot of sexual partners themselves. I am not suitable for guys who barely sleep around. I can't relate to them. We would have different value systems and beliefs towards sexuality. If we have kids together later, there will be mix messages. I want my daughter to feel empowered, to have sex IF she enjoys having sex without guilt, at the same time, be strong enough to never feel peer pressured into having sex at all, IF her choice is to wait for love. Basically there are pressure from both camps as a teenager, and I want her to just stay true to herself and do what is authentic to herself.
I don't need a silly husband contradicting me telling her she's a slut if she gives away her virginity before marriage.
My best sex was telling me that one of his daughters openly sleeps around and openly enjoy sex. It's so sex positive. While another daughter has chosen to wait till marriage. He is supportive of both. That's the kind of man I want.
I need a man who can enjoy sex without love but also knows how to protect himself and keep himself safe.
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