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RE: Power and places - 7/24/2006 7:42:32 PM

cheshireboy

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it is a hard adjustment to make mentally...and i know that in the past i have had that same issue...so what i did was as soon as i left work, i started listening to music that help get me in the right mind frame, plus it gave me time to defrag and from then on out i was fine.

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RE: Power and places - 7/24/2006 8:18:25 PM

ownedgirlie

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ORIGINAL: Archer

A slave I respect greatly who is a litigation lawyer, hows that for powerfull, deals with it like this.

Every morning she begins the day with this mantra "Everything I do today I do in service to my Owner." The work she does is also a service to her owner and thus it is required that she do it well and to the best of her ability.

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This is exactly as I have been taught to think as well. I do my job to the best of my ability as part of my service to Master. He wants me to excel. He wants me to be strong. He wants me to manage people and go after the promotions. The stronger and more "powerful" I become outside of him, the higher value he places on my submission to him. The way he sees it, if I were submitting to everyone out there, then my submission is easy to come by and doesn't mean so much to him as if I am in charge all day, only to melt at his feet the moment he is present.

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RE: Power and places - 7/24/2006 9:46:25 PM

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Just to give perspective as I am a dominant rather than a submisive, my line of work has me going from the few high paying contracts that come around from time to time and the low paying safetynet jobs in between those jobs. From the BDSM perspective many of those contracts are a subserviant role, and a few are masterfull roles. Now granted I do get a very strong sence of achievement when I land those dominant roles for eployment, it feels damn good. But I have to pay the bills and keep the electricity on so I do what needs to be done to keep a roof over my head.

One thing though that comes to mind is recently someone in my local group had stated. The one really cool thing about this community is that you are who you are and that is what people see. Almost everywhere else in the vanilla world you are what you do, you are defined by what you do for a living, how much money do you make, what car do you drive, how big is the house that you live in. In this community it really is not about that, it is about who you are, what makes you tick, what makes you human. That is realy a very neat thing to have in your life.

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RE: Power and places - 7/25/2006 7:49:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: hisforever

Ok, although I agree with ALMOST what all you are saying, let me say this. I am a very smart individual (other then when it comes to spelling, I cannot figure out why LOL). My IQ is quite high. I always read and quest for knowledge, HOWEVER, I am a stay at home mom, who runs a household of five.

Hisforever, thank you! i encountered the same idea that if you've been blessed with brains, you are doing a disservice to yourself and the world to not have high profile employment and "using your brain". i think you can probably do no more far-reaching work than raising a well informend, happy, adjusted brood of children. for petes sake, it's only 20 years of your life, and if you spend 20 years doing missionary work in blumibia, it would be considered wonderful, but take that time span to devote to full time home-stuff, and it's wasting your brain.

i always wanted to say what? So children should only be raised by stooopid mommies? lol.

(carry on, sorry for the off topic rant)

Back to topic, power is a continum. When i worked outside, i was boss over some, subordinate to others. The best Dominants i know are subject to higher-ups at work, and for some reason, middle management seems to be ideal for matured Doms. They know how to work well with others, and understand the duality of power-flow.

Ever notice the chest-beating Dominats often can't hold jobs, and get in continual power-struggles at work? They only see power as running one way, and they buck the system to make it do what they think it should.

In BDSM, as in all life, a balance is what creates success. That seems to apply to submissives and slaves as well as the Big D's.

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