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Wayward5oul -> RE: No Decency LEFT (1/31/2017 2:22:26 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr
Because of either dishonesty or a serious lapse of memory (yours, not mine), I have deigned to only answer some of your points.
I will admit to the occasional lapse of memory now and then. Who doesn't? But there is no serious lapse of memory involved here, at least not on my part. Some things that I have already provided as explanation that I will repeat for you again, though. And no dishonesty on my part. Admittedly we have have 'alternative' views on some things.
I am as weary of this as you are, but as you deigned to, I to will take the time to respond.
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I'm granting that this one is probably a mistake, but if you're going to argue timing, you should probably come with accurate facts.
First mail = 4:46 AM. You read it at 11:10. I won't go into your argument that you can't log on, while at work since, you're trying to claim, now that you were at work, from before the first e-mail until after the second.
No inaccuracies here. Simply preferences for handling things, but nothing that contradicts anything that I have said nor is unreasonable.
As this is a bdsm site, most work filters block access to such a site from their computers. I can log on from my phone if on break or away from the building, which is how I read the email then. But since I thought a proper response would require more than one or two quick sentences, I decided to wait and answer from home as it can be a pain to write that much from a phone, and can take more time. And under no circumstances did I think that sending an evening response, seeing as how it would still be a same day response, was unreasonable. All of which I have already stated.
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Second mail = 1:43 PM (almost two O'Clock) You didn't read that until after 5 PM. I'm guessing you can only sneak online at work at certain times?
Actually, I just chose to concentrate on work the rest of the time I was at work. I don't know why you feel the need to imply that I 'sneak' at anything. As you yourself said, I read the 1st email at 11:10, which is a typical lunch hour, and people do get to have some of their own time at work and walk away from their desks, even leave their buildings and eat elsewhere. Make phone calls. Check their phones for messages. All of which I have already stated.
And no, I am not at work today, or I would not be writing this right now.
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See, now you're going to make me do something I shouldn't have to do. I have to make the text of the e-mail public because you're mis-characterising what I said to you:
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To:
Wayward5oul
Dated:
11/27/16 1:43 PM
No reply. Color me "shocked" I thought you were different than the rest of the knuckle-draggers, but I decided to handle it, privately instead of trying to humiliate you in public.
I wasn't saying you should "be glad that I[sic] were was not humiliating you [sic] on the public boards". I was saying that I chose to handle it like an adult while you had assumed the role of petulant, virtue-signaling, cry-baby.
My bad. I didn't intentionally try to mis-characterize what you said, but what you quoted here is what your actual statement was. I concede that. I guess the 'knuckledragger' comment, combined with your need to mention the possibility of public humiliation in the first place, made it difficult for me to consider that you were handling it like an adult.
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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul
And I am no coward. I made public and private apologies. I made private apologies directly to the other poster, which you can verify with him if you feel the need to. And I would have made apologies to you as well, had I had the chance. But an email asking for clarification at 4am, then an email calling me a knuckledragger and blocking me at 1pm leaves no recourse for direct, private apology.
At which time I did go on the board and make a public apology, naming each of you. I did so despite your second email to me, and I did so knowing you had me on hide and would not see the public apology, as I felt it was the right thing to, regardless of anything else.
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again, it was closer to 2 PM
My bad. Forgive me. You gave me from 4am to 2pm on a weekday to respond before calling me a knuckledragger.
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I didn't want a private apology, you dimwit. I made that quite clear and trying to handle it that way IS a cowards way out. That's not open to discussion, as far as I am concerned.
Again, the name-calling. You say you handle things like an adult, yet you freely throw insulting names around, among other things.
Regarding the private apology, again. No, you did not ask for one. . I have clearly stated that you emailed me privately asking for clarification about a post I made. The feeling I got from reading your email was that there was an unfair implication in my post, and upon reading my post again, I felt you had a point. That wasn't my intention with the post, but the way I wrote it, I made it sound like it. That was on me. At which point I decided to respond to you when I got home and had the chance to answer your question properly, and it was my decision to offer a direct apology with that, with one on the board as well. The private one was not one you asked for. Again, a preference that I have for handling things.
I don't really understand why you keep saying that the private apology was a coward's way out. If that was all there was to this, then yes, I would agree. A public error requires a public correction. I did make a public apology, as I have repeatedly stated. Nowhere is it stated that a person can only make one or the other. I chose to cover all my bases. Or attempted to.
Frankly, I did not expect you to see the public post, as you made it clear that would not be the case. But that didn't mean that I shouldn't make it. So again, this whole 'coward' thing is not applicable here, and just more unjustified name-calling.
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That the other poster accepted your private apology is, by very virtue of the word "private", between you and that poster. That poster doesn't tell me how to react to people any more than you do.
Agreed. I only mentioned it to point out that despite having already accepted my private apology, I extended a public one as well to that poster. Because I felt both were due. A private one does not negate a public one.
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Lastly, I'm disgusted that you felt the need to make this a public issue (and forced me to temporarily abandon one of my tenets) when all I did was say something that was (admittedly only slightly) complementary (saying that you'd shown some decency).
As I stated earlier in the thread, this whole thread seems like it is about nothing more than bestowing judgment on others, not discussion. And yes, stating that someone is showing 'a touch of decency' is nothing more than a back-handed compliment, and I do not for one second think that you are not smart enough to know that. So sorry if I do not respond positively to condescension.
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It was a way of also giving you "props", even though you'd behaved as a jack-ass (or jenny) to me, in the past.
I am comfortable with the efforts that I made then to correct my errors, which I admit to making. I made errors, and admitted both privately and publicly to them, all within a space of a few hours, despite having just received an insulting email from you. It wasn't until I was treated to a condescending comment by you, after being told you had me on hidden, that I chose to bring this up. Since then, you have repeatedly called me coward despite having posted a public apology weeks ago, called me dishonest though I have yet to see where I have lied, a dimwit,...etc.
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So, take your sanctimonious, I'm-a-victim, bullshit and keep it where you like your apologies ... private.
A little sanctimonious, yeah. But nowhere near your level.
Victim? Nah. Like I said, I made what efforts I could earlier. I would have preferred to have been able to talk it out with you then, as I believed I could have handled it better and would have like to have had the chance to express that to you. I don't always agree with you on this board, but you and I have had the occasional pleasant private exchange. That said, nothing in this thread surprises me.
Again, the 'private' nonsense.
I know. I'm dismissed. And gladly so.
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