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RE: If I were yours? - 7/25/2006 6:35:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: TeeGO
...but I also know ridding myself of my old ways is not going to be an easy thing.

This sounds really nitpicky, but one of the first simple things I'd have you change is to take a photo of you in a far more humble, servile, attentive posture for your avatar. Hands on hips, looking stern is not the posture I prefer in a slave, even if he is the alpha boy in the household. I think a fresh reminder of your evolution would be helpful.

Thank you for your comments Ma'am. If I did belong to you I would comply most hastily and with joy.

However, I took this "front" picture like I did for a reason. First it is somewhat incognito so when I pop up in the advertisement on the other side I'm not easily recognized by somebody that could potentially recognize me that is just passing through.. I know long odds on that but still.

Secondly, and I think I could get some good Ladies to vouch for me here, I have never been anything but respectful in this forum. I do not belong to this forum but I still believe in maintaining a level of respect in the "Mistress" forum. My pic is to show I am not weak, that I stand up straight and strong and will not back down from what I believe. Principles are important to me. I am not a sissy, I am not a worm. I am a man, a strong man. I desire a strong Woman to take me in hand and control me, to love me, to make me hers. My heart is to find this strong Woman and yield myself completely to her will. It's what I crave and what I believe will make me complete.

Thirdly this is my face to the world, not to my Domme. I think that my look to the world is a representation of my Domme. All my strength is really hers, she is in control of it. To show my strength to the world, then show the world I yield it completely to her, in my mind makes her look all the more powerful and Dominant.

I realize I am not for everybody, and that's OK.

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/25/2006 8:14:12 PM

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I appreciate your reasoning.....really I do. I'm the one who goes after the cops and military guys as my submissives. They hardly take that submissive stance at their job! However, if he is mine, there is a different air that I wish for him to project with regard to his submission. He is associated with me, and while he can be my alpha boy even in a public SM setting (event, group, etc), I will not stand for arrogance or narcissism. (And that's not to say that I got that from your photo......we don't even know one another. I'm just saying that from my own experience.)

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/25/2006 8:18:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei
The photo stands out though. I love to look down and see a male at my feet who has the capacity to look and be strong and forceful, but at my command... no longer does. There is something so powerful about bringing a strong male to his knees in worship.

Just my thoughts....

Agreed. I have a gentleman that serves me on occasion who is a police commander. He runs a whole department emergency response division. He's a former marine. And he's a force to be reckoned with on the street. I'm the ONLY one he bows to. I just don't need him to post pictures of himself in full SWAT gear and guns ablaze to remind me of who he is and where he places himself for me :-)

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/25/2006 9:33:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: TeeGO
Let me clarify a few of my initial points. The "old way." By that I mean; I’m not young, I’ve lived many years without understanding this aspect of who I am. For over 30 years I had a secret kinky desire that was ever present in my life. Yet I buried it and lived a vanilla life in control of my own destiny. I crave the D/s relationship now, but I also understand changing will not always be an easy process. Some of my old habit, ways of thinking, etc., will probably not go away as easily as I hope. Nothing in life is accomplished without work, without persistence and dedication.

My current sub/boyfriend (35 years old) was very much involved in Gor and was in fact a Gorean Master when I met him. He and his slave/wife were separated at the time. For so long he had buried deep his own submissive nature out of fear of not being able to attract a mate, disappointing his very old school family and not fitting into his macho friends. In some views a submissive male is at the bottom of the barrel (a very WRONG view in my opinion) and thats how he felt, so fear ruled him. Yet he had this secret yearning for a woman to Dominant and control him, he just couldn't get let go of the fear to realize the dream.

Until he met me

Once he and I got involved our relationship as friends was a bit rocky as I couldn't stand his *alpha male* thinking and that damned *natural order* bullshit. It took alot of time and work to break down that barrier. And to pull the wool from his eyes. Women can be Dominant, it's not an act, it's not a perversion by society it is just how some of us are and now he saw this to be true.

Well he discovered on our journey that he is truly a submissive male. He said for once in his life he feels as if he isnt acting, he can finally be himself with someone that he loves and trusts. He knows I respect him as a man, I consider him one hell of a lover and he looks nice in thigh hi's

In short if its worth it you can change and sometimes, for the better. It may take time but it will be worth the investment.

Good luck,

~Lashra

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/25/2006 10:39:57 PM

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OOPS deleted on account of mistaken thread.

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/26/2006 5:34:14 AM

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Thirdly this is my face to the world, not to my Domme. I think that my look to the world is a representation of my Domme. All my strength is really hers, she is in control of it. To show my strength to the world, then show the world I yield it completely to her, in my mind makes her look all the more powerful and Dominant.

I like the idea that to the world you would project a strong, commanding, even a bit scary persona, but to me you would be sweetly submissive. Yes, that is a nice thing. (mmmm very nice thing) I also imagine it somewhat like having a devoted Rottweiller. Protection is another form of service, right? I also like the idea of the extreme contrast. Being in public with a man like yourself, dressed extremely masculine and tough, projecting to everyone that he is the one in control, but underneath the clothes he wears panties or a chastity device or some token of my ownership. Yes, THAT would be divine!

Then again, I like to surprise and confuse people adn keep them guessing.

BTW- I like all your pics

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/26/2006 9:10:17 AM

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*grins* .... foot massages ..... today I demand foot massages ...not those woosy soft little touchy feely stuff ...
a real one with all the reflexology points covered as well as all the lush pampering *smiles* hot water soaking ...scrubs and aromatic oils ... and lots of strong massaging attention

*grins* .... sometimes it is just all about being pampered

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/26/2006 1:16:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: TeeGO
My pic is to show I am not weak, that I stand up straight and strong and will not back down from what I believe. Principles are important to me. I am not a sissy, I am not a worm. I am a man, a strong man.

I totally appreciate this statement. I dont see the point in dominating a man who is weak, who will cow-tow to everything I want and look at the floor and not at me. There is no joy (for me) in dominating someone who is not a challenge to dominate. Its the difference of hunting a lion and hunting a lamb. If I truly am a match for a strong man, if I can truly dominate someone who cant be dominated by just anyone, then I am doing my job and fufilling my purpose. And, you know, really getting off on it.

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/26/2006 1:44:01 PM

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Let me clarify a few of my initial points. The "old way." By that I mean; I’m not young,

And you aren't "old" either.

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/27/2006 5:51:28 PM

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I like my boys to be males .... but once again it just shows the difference between people...

To one domme the way you present can be appealing .. to another its not quite right ..

the best thing is to show the real you ... as complete a picture as possable... I do like boys who share the two sides of themselves ... the outside world view .. and what changes when they submit .. or what is enhanced etc .... Its great to be strong and protective ... but share why it would be mine to control ..

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/27/2006 7:51:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: MzMinx
Its great to be strong and protective ... but share why it would be mine to control ..

I do attempt to do that in my profile. A pic can only show so much. Honestly if I could have one pic as the lead advertisment on the other side and another here in the forums, I would. I just haven't figured out how some are able to do that.

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/27/2006 9:11:24 PM

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*warm smile* .. I would read your profile with that picture ... I look at the combination of words, pictures and posts

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/30/2006 8:51:45 AM

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Hello, TeeGO,

If you and I were ever to establish a rapport and initiate r/t contact, the first thing I'd do is take My expectations of you off of the discussion boards and into private one on one instruction.

My sub training and development methods aren't fodder for the cybermasses. Hell, My basic expectations for simple communication turned into such a CM-discussion-board-tomato-throwing-contest that I most assuredly would never post My basic training principles here!

As has already been expressed, you would never be offered a collar or live in situation until long after your initial training had already commenced and progressed with flying colors.

If you're ever interested, though, you just let Me know!

; )

TexasMaam

Oh: PS: You can choose a discussion board avatar or your own discussion board pic, (one that is different from the profile pic on the other side), by changing your settings. TM

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/30/2006 10:12:59 AM

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Thank you Texas Ma'am. Relocation is impossible for me at this time so Chicagoland is where I am.

Also, I cannot see where I can change the Message board pic settings with an upload. Avatar or not is all I can see. I must be missing something.

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/30/2006 10:34:03 AM

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Also, I cannot see where I can change the Message board pic settings with an upload. Avatar or not is all I can see. I must be missing something.

I like your pic TeeGO....

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/30/2006 10:58:49 AM

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/30/2006 6:41:13 PM

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(shifted, i love your picture. a mistress should have her feet up while relaxing. but the fan you were using the other day is missing from the scene)
sorry, couldn't resist...

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/30/2006 9:31:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: TeeGO
...but I also know ridding myself of my old ways is not going to be an easy thing.

This sounds really nitpicky, but one of the first simple things I'd have you change is to take a photo of you in a far more humble, servile, attentive posture for your avatar. Hands on hips, looking stern is not the posture I prefer in a slave, even if he is the alpha boy in the household. I think a fresh reminder of your evolution would be helpful.

Thats is a fair point but just so you know TeeGO I like the strength and "butch" ness your avatar projects; Those are qualities I admire in a male sub ...not all are looking for houseboys; some want a Honour Guard

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/30/2006 11:07:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dollbecky

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

quote:

ORIGINAL: TeeGO
...but I also know ridding myself of my old ways is not going to be an easy thing.

This sounds really nitpicky, but one of the first simple things I'd have you change is to take a photo of you in a far more humble, servile, attentive posture for your avatar. Hands on hips, looking stern is not the posture I prefer in a slave, even if he is the alpha boy in the household. I think a fresh reminder of your evolution would be helpful.

Thats is a fair point but just so you know TeeGO I like the strength and "butch" ness your avatar projects; Those are qualities I admire in a male sub ...not all are looking for houseboys; some want a Honour Guard

Interestingly enough, ALL of my slaves are butch, tough masculine men. I just prefer for them to project a less harsh appearance concerning their submission outwardly towards others because they are a reflection of me, but that's just me. I've actually been really amused at the conclusions that a number of people have jumped to as result of my comment though....

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RE: If I were yours? - 7/30/2006 11:47:44 PM

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As we had made a connection beforehand and discussed training... I think that the most important thing would be to talk freely about where you would stand, and what your limits are. At first tasks would start out simple, such as housework and in sexual service etc, then gradually as you got used to these things, the tasks would become more demanding. Training is a process that takes more than two weeks, as a 24/7 you would be required to be at my side constantly, in public and at home.
In response to your "old habits" idea... I would not tolerate any back talk or alpha crap. the last thing I or any mistress wants/needs is a sub/slave who will present dominance challenges.
In public you would be two steps behind me, at home you would be constantly in chains for the first few weeks to learn your place with nightly punishment and criticism to show you how to behave and what went wrong that day.

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