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ORIGINAL: moreplease
What is also confusing me is that i would think there would have to be a certain amount of mutual 'adoration' in any D/s relationship...for that level of trust and devotion that i yearn to achieve, anyway. 

How will i know if my 'adoration' crosses that line? 
How do i stop it from happening?
Any comments or thoughts on the matter are appreciated.

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ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

Are there going to be orgasms involved? before orgasms are involved even in the meeting stages your brain releases chemicals, adrenaline dopamine and seritonin.
 
Adrenaline
The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.

Dopamine
Helen Fisher asked newly ‘love struck’ couples to have their brains examined and discovered they have high levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine!

Serotonin
And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts. 

And my guess if you are talking about "play" out side the marriage you are already flushing with these chemicals already...
 
but the killer is Oxytocin - "The cuddle hormone"...if you have orgasms you will release this chemical and this is the one that deepens the feelings of attachment and create strong bonds....
 
No judgment (ok maybe sympathy a little for the poor saps at home) but just know what you are getting into...because i have never had any success telling myself who i should and should not fall in love with.
 

Tigress,

Did you know they did brain scans on people who were having sex?  Interestingly enough, women having sex created oxytocin and the area of the brain that is associated with love showed an increase in activity.

In the brains of men, however, pure adreniline was created and nothing more than the primal regions of the brain were activated.

The conclusions of the study indicated that women will almost surely fall in love with a man if she reaches an orgasm with him enough times.  A man, reaching orgasm the same amount of times with the same woman will not be "programmed" in the same way to love her.

My guess is that it is natures way of bonding a woman to the father of her child (Old instincts die hard).

Now....any more cake?

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ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

Tigress,

Did you know they did brain scans on people who were having sex?  Interestingly enough, women having sex created oxytocin and the area of the brain that is associated with love showed an increase in activity.

In the brains of men, however, pure adreniline was created and nothing more than the primal regions of the brain were activated.

The conclusions of the study indicated that women will almost surely fall in love with a man if she reaches an orgasm with him enough times.  A man, reaching orgasm the same amount of times with the same woman will not be "programmed" in the same way to love her.

My guess is that it is natures way of bonding a woman to the father of her child (Old instincts die hard).

Now....any more cake?

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ORIGINAL: akisha

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ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

Tigress,

Did you know they did brain scans on people who were having sex?  Interestingly enough, women having sex created oxytocin and the area of the brain that is associated with love showed an increase in activity.

In the brains of men, however, pure adreniline was created and nothing more than the primal regions of the brain were activated.

The conclusions of the study indicated that women will almost surely fall in love with a man if she reaches an orgasm with him enough times.  A man, reaching orgasm the same amount of times with the same woman will not be "programmed" in the same way to love her.

My guess is that it is natures way of bonding a woman to the father of her child (Old instincts die hard).

Now....any more cake?

Well dang, I think i have a male brain

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

*tosses a football to akisha's brain*

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ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

The conclusions of the study indicated that women will almost surely fall in love with a man if she reaches an orgasm with him enough times.  A man, reaching orgasm the same amount of times with the same woman will not be "programmed" in the same way to love her.

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

The conclusions of the study indicated that women will almost surely fall in love with a man if she reaches an orgasm with him enough times.  A man, reaching orgasm the same amount of times with the same woman will not be "programmed" in the same way to love her.

Now that made me laugh! what about us sluts? tee hee

(in reply to KnightofMists)

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ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1

Now that made me laugh! what about us sluts? tee hee

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I think there can be wonderful relationships and collarings that reside outside of love.  Love is different for different people.  One person's great affection may equate to another person's love.  Love has not been easy for me to find.  I can submit to someone whom I feel great affection for, but I don't need to be in love in order to do it and in order to do it properly.