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What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 6:07:58 AM   
wildnhard


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Joined: 7/7/2006
Status: offline 		Hi ladies that are submissive and slave oriented
I have been browsing some of the subs profiles here and
want to know what is the best way for a an  Alpha male to present himself to get your attention?
Do you want to know the real guy? 
What should a guy not put in and what should he make sure to put in .



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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 7:17:36 AM   
hizgeorgiapeach


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wildnhard
I ... want to know what is the best way for a an  Alpha male to present himself to get your attention?

 
Via 100% honesty about himself, his needs, his expectations, his desires.  Polite respect, humor, and a good sense of perspective about priorities goes a long way as well.  However, you're going to get a different answer from everyone that you happen to ask.
 
quote:


Do you want to know the real guy? 


Well, it would be a waste of time to get to know the Fake guy, now wouldn't it?  Not to mention irritating in the extreme, when the mask came off and the real guy came out of the closet.

quote:


What should a guy not put in and what should he make sure to put in .

 
Must haves : the truth about experience level, attitudes, etc.
Must avoids : self agrandizement , pissing and moaning about others rather than presenting yourself, and anything that amounts to a demand placed on those you aren't already in a relationship with.

(I'd also suggest avoiding that last one in email as well.)

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 8:09:36 AM   
aleshaDreams


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Joined: 2/19/2006
Status: offline 		Response to the OP:

Keep it real, what your expectations, desires, needs might be.  Be as honest with yourself in your profile as any submissive/slave will expect.  What experience level you have, and something about personal attributes/activities in the real world (sports, hobbies, etc).  Be honest at ALL costs, as any lies or disceptions can and probably will come back to haunt you.

Best wishes in your journey.

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Oh yeah don't demand the person that you communicate with call you 'master' / 'sir' this will come at its deservant time.  There are some 'masters' out there, and there are many self professed 'masters' - keep your perspective real!  Don't  inflate your ego when communicating or trying to attract a submissive/slave......... this is very much about a relationship between 2 people or more depending on your kink.

oh and a [omg laughable moment] for me and pet peeve when reading profiles or initial contact is this line 'I am not like any other Dom/Master' or something similiar.  Truth of my experience is that just in stating the above is that the self professed has just thrown Himself in a box with the rest.  And, if you chose to use that line, be prepared to back it it/defend it.  That one just riddles me roflmao :)

And my very personal initial assessment, I think you should put some clothes on for your avator/profile picture.  Mind you this is a personal first assessment, which to me would be also a bypass of your profile.  But like I state it is my personal preference as I have little interest in seeing the flesh until the mind can work with it.


< Message edited by aleshaDreams -- 7/25/2006 8:26:11 AM >

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 10:52:34 AM   
afeathr


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Joined: 6/1/2006
From: Southern California
Status: offline 		Wow... there really is a lot to this question, much more than I could put into words.

However, honesty is always good even if it reveals something that seems a little odd... A nicely done pic is always good too... something that speaks of who you are, as opposed to just your appearance.  You should present yourself, in your profile, as who you are and what you have to bring to the table...  I agree with leaving out the commands and "Domliness" until the appropriate time.  Most subs/slaves are looking for more than just being topped.  AND if you are not looking for a 'relationship' be sure to be upfront about that as well to not lead anyone on just to get into a scene with them.

I could go on and on all day about this, but....

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 11:48:36 AM   
BenignPlague


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Joined: 5/10/2005
Status: offline 		Well that's certainly unfortunate.

I just sent a message that started with "I'm sure you'll get tons of emails having just joined the site, and I didn't want mine to get tossed with the bathwater" or something to that extent.  But from what it sounds like, the majority of reported male emails tend to be things like "listen bitch" or "call me master" type things, so I genuinely thought mine was different.

"You're special, just like everybody else"

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 11:52:02 AM   
MistressSassy66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BenignPlague

Well that's certainly unfortunate.

I just sent a message that started with "I'm sure you'll get tons of emails having just joined the site, and I didn't want mine to get tossed with the bathwater" or something to that extent.  But from what it sounds like, the majority of reported male emails tend to be things like "listen bitch" or "call me master" type things, so I genuinely thought mine was different.

"You're special, just like everybody else"





I personally would rather see the part I'm sure you get......

Then the listen Bitch. But thats just this Ones opinion.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 1:21:13 PM   
OsideGirl


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Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline 		I want to know about you, the person, and a detailed description of who you're looking for.

No fluffy stories.

No pontification of  what D/s, a submissive or a Dominant is.

No descriptions of your sexual prowess or penis size.


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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 2:09:08 PM   
kisshou


Posts: 2425
Joined: 2/11/2005
Status: offline 		I don't care if there is a picture posted or not but if there is a picture (as in your case) please be fully dressed.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 3:09:20 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


Posts: 3054
Joined: 10/1/2005
Status: offline 		Kind of have to go along with a couple of people here..Your appearance is attractive, however I prefer to see at first someone who is dressed ,undressed to me just says you are simply seeking sex not a relationship..so if you are simply seeking sex leave it..if not..clothing is a good option. I do like that you smiled..that is nice too many try to give you that stern frowning look in their pictures..(apologies to those who do not smile in their pics, just my opinion)Avoid using words such as "true".."fake"...they truly create a firestorm (grin).Honesty of course..do not be afraid to say exactly what you seek..otherwise you will not find it..Honesty in who you are, your experience..ie:if you are married,if you have never had experience in D/s M/s BDSM..etc.and foremost integrity,straightforwardness,and manners go a long way...best wishes...Tempting

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/25/2006 4:46:17 PM   
SavageEu


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Status: offline 		Actually I had a similar question. In my journal entries I usually write about what I'm thinking about at the time. If I say something about meeting an interesting sub, or mention something like the difference between new and experienced subs and saying that I find newer subs interesting, does that automatically make potential subs think I have already made up my mind on these things. I do not look on these as absolutes. If I find an interesting sub ,and say so, that does not mean that she is absolutely the one and all other subs I am just playing around with or that I am not still looking. Along the same lines saying that a newer sub would be interesting does not mean experienced subs should just go away. 

Are these types of things bad to put in journals because they might make it seem that I would only take newer subs or something like that? It is not how I mean them of course I am open to anyone I find interesting. But I know that with breif glances at a profile the impression might be that if you are experienced you need not respond.



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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 2:50:51 AM   
nephandi


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From: Cold and magickal Norway in a town near Bergen!
Status: offline 		i would like to see the vanilla guy to, his intrests beside swinging a whip, BDSM is wonderful but life is filled whit other tings to, and i would want somone with whom i shared some intrests, ofcourse i have a fiance and i not looking, but if i were, that is what i would want.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 3:09:46 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I just don't want to see a picture of his fucking penis.  Christ Almighty.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 3:15:41 AM   
Riff


Posts: 51
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		I can tell you from personal experience that it really doesn't matter what you put in your profile. You can be as honest and real as possible and still hardly anyone pays attention to your profile.

I have more switches and fem dommes in my admirers list than I do submissives.

I might be jaded but hardly anyone bothers to read it properly... especially those claiming to be "true" and/or "genuine"

Good luck son



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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 5:12:25 AM   
irishbynature


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I just don't want to see a picture of his fucking penis.  Christ Almighty.

BRAVO!

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 5:27:32 AM   
LL1aintbehavin


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Status: offline 		wildnhard.
What i like to see in a Dominants profile (or anyone's profile that i look at), is something different.  i want to get a glimpse into who this person is, what their thoughts of life are, not just limited to lifestyle thoughts and what turns them on.

i hate going into a profile and there is a one liner - exploring my Dominant side.

To me that says nothing about the person and does not make me want to have any further contact with them.  i like ones that are original and unique and make me smile.

Just my personal opinion of course.

aintbehavin

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 6:02:48 PM   
SweetEscravo


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Status: offline 		I think its great when anyone- not just dom/mes have other stuff about themselves in the profile.  When the entire profile consists of something like "I am a dom/top/master/daddy looking for a slave/slut/sub so bow down to me", it's an instant turn off.  I like to get to know people- their vanilla selves as well as the kinky selves.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 6:14:30 PM   
suggababy23


Posts: 73
Joined: 10/16/2005
Status: offline 		Correct spelling and grammar!

It shows that you pay attention to the details, which I find very attractive in a Dom.

And like everyone else has already said..honesty. Just be honest about what you want and need out of a sub.

Best of luck!
~sugga

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 6:17:37 PM   
LTRsubNW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: suggababy23

Correct spelling and grammar!

It shows that you pay attention to the details, which I find very attractive in a Dom.


YAYUS!!!!

Here here (and there there as well).

(Goes for them Domme types as well!)

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/26/2006 7:58:01 PM   
mellian


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Joined: 9/6/2004
Status: offline 		Not sure as the profiles I have been interested were different from each other and saying/suggesting different things. I guess it would be honesty, well thought out, non-stereotypical, unique and interesting, more than just their bdsm interests, within range like Ottawa or Montreal at the least, and so on.


-mellian


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Since my pic link doesn't work, here is my profile:

http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/50276/details.htm

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 1:21:52 PM   
wildnhard


Posts: 6
Joined: 7/7/2006
Status: offline 		Just to prove that Doms do listen, contrary to some subs opinions LOL
I have taken the comments to heart and updated my profile. I have detailed more about who I am but there is still so much mystery man here I can assure you .

Ladies it goes both ways, when I look at a woman's profile especially a bi female I would like to see her express how she feels about her duality, I would also like to see more of who she is presented as a whole person. Too many of you put things like I am a slave?
Ok so what does that tell me.
Even the slave oriented submisissives know the kind of Dom they need ?



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