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Evolution of a Master - 12/6/2004 12:47:37 PM   
BigBadWolf


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I was asked to Write a few words about the life style a while back...
Sadly after my son was murdered I didnt have the heart for it...
That was a year ago this Dec.22nd. and slowly I'm comming back.
So What I Write is just my personal Take on 20+ Years on the life style.

I came to be a master by way of having my nose broken once a week!!!
Way back when.... I use to love to go down on my then Girlfriend later to be Ex-wife.

Lets just say she would go wild....and I loved her reaction...
the down side?
she would throw her hands down to her pubic bone as she came...more times than not hitting me on the bridge of my nose.

Trust me when I say...Its a real Mood killer.

So I got to where I'd tie her hands to the headboard.
Back in the late 70's there were no message boards with tips on how to do things.
so I went through the stages..
first using neckties, then scarfs, belts, laundry cord...ect....
Most worked to some degree but if one snaped I'd have my nose broken again...good news was this way I was down to...broken nose about every two months.

for about two years thats how it went....untill a trip back home....
My Family were all ranchers and my dad a Horse doctor.
on a trip home one summer I had to help him restrain a mustang that got into LOCO WEED.
It makes a hore go wild for a few days.. so much so he may kill you or himself.
SO dad and I set out to hobble said horse...Hobbles being a kind of leg iron for horses.

after a day of trying not to get kick, bit and bumped, we got him in a harness that held him imoble.
now being a twenty something horny young master I got to thinking....I could do this to my lady on a smaller scale!

Two things happened kind of back to back that led to the next stage.
One was it took a while to make leather cuff's as I had to make them myself back then.
and my then new wife was around 6 months preggo with my first son.

I'd heard the stories about expecting women having odd cravings but this one throw me at first.
See I'd just got to where I would tie her up with no hope of escape...meaning no more broken noses.
when on night out of the blue she up and says..."Dear, Would you Whip me with a belt really really hard"?

up untill this point all I ever did was tie her up.
I never thought about whipping her.
I said "well okay but if I hurt you even the littlest you tell me and I'll quit"!
she said "I wont be able too, I'll be gaged"...
?????
Gaged?
"We dont want the nighbors to hear me scream do you:?

Anything for a lady was my motto and it was akward, odd, a bit of a test on both our parts.
but it was new and fun and as we learned together it became awsome.

the point to this little story is simple.
its not how much you know as a Dom or sub.
see the best part is finding what each other likes and doesnt.
its about learning to trust each other
and loving what you do for your love.

In hind sight with twenty+ years behind me including having trained one miss leather and nude usa.
If I had to learn it all over I'd still do it the same way.
with one lady I cared about, willing to explore anything and everything....



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RE: Evolution of a Master - 12/6/2004 1:00:14 PM   
willing2serve


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As a submissive just starting her path of learning, please let me say that you have encouraged me greatly. Thank you, Sir, so very much for sharing, it truly touched me at a time of need. Such beautiful thoughts of evolution.

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RE: Evolution of a Master - 12/6/2004 1:19:10 PM   
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Just an after thought....
see I wrote this for all the new to the life style folks.
we all started some where.
nervious and unsure of ourselfs.
there's nothing wrong with that if partners know up front.

But too offten I'm meeting more and more want-a-be's
who read a book or two and now an expert......

if I were starting I'd rather find some one seeking another to learn with, together, share ideas.
at least when they dont work you can both laugh about what went wrong....

PS we all go through rough spots in life.
I was just reminded of that last year.
the old expression what doesnt kill us makes us stronger ...is BS....
Dealing with the loss of my son kind of tought me not to gloss things over.
spend time with those we love and make sure they know we love them.
dont hold a grudge and dont just sit on the couch and think about how bad things are.
Some times its up to us to take action rather than wait for it to find us ....
:-) you and I will both be okay..you know;-)


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RE: Evolution of a Master - 12/6/2004 1:35:19 PM   
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Thank you for sharing your story, really enjoyed it. I'm very sorry to hear about your son, i can't imagine going through that.

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RE: Evolution of a Master - 12/6/2004 2:30:15 PM   
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These are good words to live by also..............
Dealing with the loss of my son kind of tought me not to gloss things over.
spend time with those we love and make sure they know we love them.
dont hold a grudge and dont just sit on the couch and think about how bad things are.
Some times its up to us to take action rather than wait for it to find us ....
:-) you and I will both be okay..you know;-)

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RE: Evolution of a Master - 12/6/2004 11:25:34 PM   
Estring


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quote:


It makes a hore go wild for a few days

Imagine what it does to a horse!

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RE: Evolution of a Master - 12/7/2004 3:51:35 AM   
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Thank you for sharing. Your words have a lot of merit. I've come back to your post several times, trying to find what to say to you. I can't find any elegant way to say it. What you said and the trial you've been through touched my heart. Take good care of yourself.

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RE: Evolution of a Master - 12/7/2004 5:02:46 AM   
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Sir, cannot imagine the lost and pain of loosing a son. Have 4 sons myself and just can't imagine rubber room here I come. but on lighter side thank you for sharing you starting stry with us gives me hope am a new one in lifestyle and have my first master it is good to know that even if things don't work out for us there is hope to go on and learn from the experience.agin thnkyou for sharing with us

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RE: Evolution of a Master - 12/7/2004 9:40:18 AM   
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One of the things my Husband/Master and I live by, is we never leave one anouther angry or unhappy. You just never know what may happen. We are both very new to this and even though we have read A LOT we certainly would new say we have a clue. I love learning and discovering this with him. Even when it's hard because of our 9 year vanilla life. When people tell me about such and such argument they had I always thry to convence them of how important it is to never let a loved one go when you aren't happy. Always let them know you love them. This life is a amazing a wonderful trip, but it is often tragic. Why make it worse than it has to be?

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