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LadyPact -> RE: How To Dismiss A Submissive (3/21/2017 2:09:16 PM)
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ORIGINAL: NoirMetal
I'm in accord with some of the other posters however. I'd have to find a lot more value than just the body to let someone that intimately into my life. It can take as much as a year to lose 30 pounds, and the individual really needs to be healthy for themselves. Same reason I run from wounded birds, and "forever children." I'll never be strong enough to bear the full weight of two.
I'm not looking at the weight issue as much as some of the other posters are. I think that issue, as a specific, has potential to spiral the thread out of control, rather than the general issue of wanting to dismiss the s-type/want her out of the house thing.
Unfortunately, I have to admit that I was dumb enough to do this at one time. Different angle. I was told at the time that one of the factors was the person was looking at losing his (and his family's) medical insurance coverage. (I never really knew and still don't if that was actually true.) I was told he had secured a full time position in my area. (I had no way to verify that at the time and that definitely turned out not to be true.) I wasn't terribly big on the idea but eventually, I said ok. I did set it up as a rental agreement situation that was very modest and affordable on the other person's part. (Room and board, three hundred dollars a month. Pretty decent deal for anybody in the USA.) That had to be renegotiated at a later date and increased because it was costing my husband and I to have the person stay with us, which I didn't find acceptable. It was never a thing where my husband and I said we were going to financially support the individual.
As the months went on, the problems just continually increased. A number of incidents about disobedience and bad behavior. Dishonestly about a number of things. Manipulation tactics. Interference with my relationship between my husband and myself. Taking things that didn't belong to him. Inability to remain employed. (It was one of the conditions.) Things like tasks not being done to my standards. Just ridiculous things that nobody would put up with from somebody staying with them. I was reprimanding and punishing way more than anybody should ever have to. I was completely unhappy.
I say this because, literally, I've had to do this. I couldn't tell you what the last thing I punished the individual was for, but if I recall correctly, I really did break the punishment paddle on his @ss, and told the person he would get my further decision on the matter the following day. (My stance on punishment isn't necessarily it's done and over. It is also the time that both parties should consider whether the dynamic is viable or not.) When my husband was able to be present, the three of us sat at my kitchen table. The individual was told I was finished with the dynamic and he had through when his contribution to household cost was paid to leave. I cried some frustration tears for failing as a Dominant for about fifteen minutes, took a nap, and that was it. I have never once missed the person, regretted my decision, or felt bad about the person not being in my life. In fact, I was immediately happier that very same day.
I didn't have to worry about any of the stuff about the person being entitled to stay past that. The other person had his own residence elsewhere, name wasn't on any documents, no utilities, or much that could prove residence. I'm already married, so no common law concerns. The person didn't leave with less than what he came with.
The other part about things the individual did after he left, is probably better for another day. A lot of people on the forums are familiar with the stalking, outing, harassment, and twenty other things that would make people go pale. It wasn't a big secret to people in my local community, my family, or people on the forums. It's just a little long of a story to tell and I'm off to work.
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