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Milesnmiles -> RE: Barbara Kay: No consequences for women who “stealth” men (5/15/2017 6:37:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles
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While that is all very admirable, reality is that your profile says you are 68yo, and that was in 2013 which would make you 72 today (as CM does not update age), just how fair (to the child & to the mother) is it to have a child at your age (should that happen) when you would need to live to 90yo just to make it to the kid's 18th birthday? and interesting that you havent had any kids, given how you feel about them.. Just an observation..
I don't do anything to be admirable, I do things because that is who I am.
If you want to know how old I am just ask, I'll be 70 in October.
As for how fair it is to have child at my age, I'm not in a wheel chair and my father died when I was 18 months old but he loved me as long as he was alive. There is no way of knowing how long life will be or how it will turn out for anyone.
As for not having children, I have always wanted a wife and children but as I was doing other things it never happened. Not a regret, I was just enjoying doing other things.
Life is filled with choices and my life choices just didn't lead to children or at least not yet.
Sure there are people that have kids into their much older years but imo each persons situation needs to be taken into consideration, their health, age, financial capabilities, lifestyle choices, etc... if you arent alive to nurture and guide them into adulthood, that can turn out badly for the child.. a big part of being a good parent is being there for them when they need you.. of course no one knows how long they will live for but there are actuarial charts on the likelihood of when you will die.. the older you get, the higher the risk.. If you die when the child is young you dump all the responsibility and financial burden on the mother, if there isnt a good financial cushion then the mother & child could end up on welfare.. I expect it wasnt easy for your mother raising an 18 month old when your father died.. I grew up very poor and would never want to have kids of my own go thru that.. jmo..
As I've said, any time a male and a female have sex there is a chance of children and I'm not ready to give up sex any time soon, so if a child is the result of sex that I have, I will be happy about it and will do my best to provide that child with the loving environment that all children deserve.
We were poor but Mom never let us know it. Mom never let money be the measure of our riches.
We lived in a house that didn't have ceiling, we could look up and see the rafters and bottom side of the roof but Mom taught us the beauty of the sound of rain on the roof and one day she hung a swing from the ceiling joists, so my sister and I could swing indoors when it was raining. How many of the "richest" children in the world had a indoor swing?
Children only need one thing, to know that they are not a burden to their parents but are loved and wanted and are actually a source of great joy to their parents.
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