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secretsss -> Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 7:03:40 PM)
I am absolutely amazed at the so-called dominants who get offended by a sub or slave adding them to their favorites. I rejoined this community after a 6 month hiatus and now I am beginning to remember why I left all those months ago. Today was a lazy Saturday, another storm running through St. Louis. So, I decided to read profiles. I read many of them and everytime that I ran across one that was particularly interesting, I would add it to my favorites. I added 7 people to my favorites, 3 subs and 4 dominants. My thinking was that I could go back and re-read them another time and maybe muster the courage to write a few emails. Now, I am not here to find my soul-mate or life partner. My profile clearly states that I am just here to make friends and have some intellectual conversations. I am long time member of the d/s sub-culture. I found d/s when I was 22 and I will soon be 40. So, let's not count the actual years. Of course, I feel most comfortable on d/s sites, discussing d/s and bdsm related topics. Oops didn't mean to digress. Anyway, all three of the submissives (2 ladies and 1 male) wrote very nice letters of introduction, after noticing that I added them to my favorites. Two very nasty wannabee male dominants wrote to berate me for not asking their permission before adding their name to my favorites list. Is this what d/s has come to? Have dominants become this insecure? Are manners now reserved for submissives? Can someone please shed some light on this matter? To end on a positive note, it looks like I am on my way to making three new friends. Thank goodness for subbies. secrets

SirDarkside357 -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 7:08:13 PM)
Bad manners are not just a BDSM thing today...they are spreading everywhere like wildfire....maybe it's because manners are not being taught to the children as much today as they use to be...I don't know....anyway, you can add me to ya favorites anytime...but few ever do. WEG

angelic -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 7:14:07 PM)
well... shoot, i didn't know there was a 'notification' when favorites are added[&:]

Level -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 7:22:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: secretsss I am absolutely amazed at the so-called dominants who get offended by a sub or slave adding them to their favorites. I rejoined this community after a 6 month hiatus and now I am beginning to remember why I left all those months ago. Today was a lazy Saturday, another storm running through St. Louis. So, I decided to read profiles. I read many of them and everytime that I ran across one that was particularly interesting, I would add it to my favorites. I added 7 people to my favorites, 3 subs and 4 dominants. My thinking was that I could go back and re-read them another time and maybe muster the courage to write a few emails. Now, I am not here to find my soul-mate or life partner. My profile clearly states that I am just here to make friends and have some intellectual conversations. I am long time member of the d/s sub-culture. I found d/s when I was 22 and I will soon be 40. So, let's not count the actual years. Of course, I feel most comfortable on d/s sites, discussing d/s and bdsm related topics. Oops didn't mean to digress. Anyway, all three of the submissives (2 ladies and 1 male) wrote very nice letters of introduction, after noticing that I added them to my favorites. Two very nasty wannabee male dominants wrote to berate me for not asking their permission before adding their name to my favorites list. Is this what d/s has come to? Have dominants become this insecure? Are manners now reserved for submissives? Can someone please shed some light on this matter? To end on a positive note, it looks like I am on my way to making three new friends. Thank goodness for subbies. secrets If you've been in the lifestyle that long, and have to ask if all dominants are insecure assholes, I have to say you must not have met a whole bunch of people. Or just had some horrifically bad luck...... It's likely they're dipsticks that think being a blowhard is how a dominant is supposed to act, don't you think?

MistressLorelei -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 7:22:48 PM)
I have no problem when anyone adds me to his or her 'favorites' list, but I don't often e-mail those who do, because most don't seem like a potential match. I am more likely to respond to a thoughtful e-mail from a submissive, addressing me, my interests, or my forums postings specifically. I do find that there are many Doms and Dommes with a holier than thou attitude. I would be be thankful you got a hint of their true colors before you wasted more time getting to know them. It's really a blessing in a rude disguise.

popeye1250 -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 7:27:10 PM)
Ahhhh! You belong to the D/s SUB Culture! That would explain it!!!

deltadawn -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 7:29:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: secretsss I am absolutely amazed at the so-called dominants who get offended by a sub or slave adding them to their favorites. I rejoined this community after a 6 month hiatus and now I am beginning to remember why I left all those months ago. Today was a lazy Saturday, another storm running through St. Louis. So, I decided to read profiles. I read many of them and everytime that I ran across one that was particularly interesting, I would add it to my favorites. I added 7 people to my favorites, 3 subs and 4 dominants. My thinking was that I could go back and re-read them another time and maybe muster the courage to write a few emails. Now, I am not here to find my soul-mate or life partner. My profile clearly states that I am just here to make friends and have some intellectual conversations. I am long time member of the d/s sub-culture. I found d/s when I was 22 and I will soon be 40. So, let's not count the actual years. Of course, I feel most comfortable on d/s sites, discussing d/s and bdsm related topics. Oops didn't mean to digress. Anyway, all three of the submissives (2 ladies and 1 male) wrote very nice letters of introduction, after noticing that I added them to my favorites. Two very nasty wannabee male dominants wrote to berate me for not asking their permission before adding their name to my favorites list. Is this what d/s has come to? Have dominants become this insecure? Are manners now reserved for submissives? Can someone please shed some light on this matter? To end on a positive note, it looks like I am on my way to making three new friends. Thank goodness for subbies. secrets Maybe the better question to ask is this.. "Do you believe everyone who opens an account on Collar-me is really a Dom or a submissive?" Be glad that you weeded out the few that probably are not. dawn

littlesarbonn -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 8:05:02 PM)
I got yelled at by one woman for adding her to my favorites list. Well, after that, she wasn't one of my favorites anymore. It's really not a big deal.

BBBTBW -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 8:25:19 PM)
One of the reasons I ask people not to add me to their favorites is because Collarme has a limit to the amount of people you can have on your admirers list before it starts bumping people off. There are people that have added me to their favorites list that I haven't ever spoken to and I can't remove them. Some of those people aren't active enough to respond to an e-mail if I send them one and yet others have me blocked so that I cannot send them an e-mail. Those are the reasons I ask that people don't add me until we have spoken and I have given them permission. Littlesarbonn, I am probably the one that yelled at you....but if you had read my profile it clearly asks that you don't add me until we have had a conversation. I don't think up to this point we have had one. I don't believe I was rude, perhaps it was perceived that way. I probably just asked you to remove me like I have done others when they add me without benefit of a conversation. Anyway, this may shed some light on why people don't want to be added until they have given permission. I don't add people unless we have talked and agreed that we want to talk again and I would like the same consideration. Ms Loren

littlesarbonn -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 8:31:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BBBTBW Littlesarbonn, I am probably the one that yelled at you....but if you had read my profile it clearly asks that you don't add me until we have had a conversation. I don't think up to this point we have had one. I don't believe I was rude, perhaps it was perceived that way. I probably just asked you to remove me like I have done others when they add me without benefit of a conversation. No, it wasn't you. You've never been on my favorite list. Don't take it as an insult, but I've never heard of you before today. The person who threw a fit, threw a fit about everything. One read of her profile, and you'd see that. That's actually why I made it a favorite. I wanted to read that profile again. It was hilarious. It was like the person reading it was already married to her, and she was planning a divorce.

BBBTBW -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 8:39:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn quote: ORIGINAL: BBBTBW Littlesarbonn, I am probably the one that yelled at you....but if you had read my profile it clearly asks that you don't add me until we have had a conversation. I don't think up to this point we have had one. I don't believe I was rude, perhaps it was perceived that way. I probably just asked you to remove me like I have done others when they add me without benefit of a conversation. No, it wasn't you. You've never been on my favorite list. Don't take it as an insult, but I've never heard of you before today. The person who threw a fit, threw a fit about everything. One read of her profile, and you'd see that. That's actually why I made it a favorite. I wanted to read that profile again. It was hilarious. It was like the person reading it was already married to her, and she was planning a divorce. not insulted at all....perhaps I have just seen your name on the message boards....

littlesarbonn -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 8:46:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BBBTBW quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn quote: ORIGINAL: BBBTBW Littlesarbonn, I am probably the one that yelled at you....but if you had read my profile it clearly asks that you don't add me until we have had a conversation. I don't think up to this point we have had one. I don't believe I was rude, perhaps it was perceived that way. I probably just asked you to remove me like I have done others when they add me without benefit of a conversation. No, it wasn't you. You've never been on my favorite list. Don't take it as an insult, but I've never heard of you before today. The person who threw a fit, threw a fit about everything. One read of her profile, and you'd see that. That's actually why I made it a favorite. I wanted to read that profile again. It was hilarious. It was like the person reading it was already married to her, and she was planning a divorce. not insulted at all....perhaps I have just seen your name on the message boards.... Or it could have been America's Most Wanted. Wait...(checks current name)...no, this one is clean, so it was probably the message boards.

Eir -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 8:55:50 PM)
Well I add very few to my faivorets and those that are on my faivorets list are worth being there :) On the other hand there are alot of people taht add me to their faivorets list... I don't mind it, must mean that there is something special about my profile

Homestead -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 9:06:45 PM)
I just come here for the forums, I don't even keep an active profile. You can't be much more "not looking" than that-and I like the option.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 9:53:09 PM)
Ok..you asked for it you got it!...now you will be added to my favs list!..Have long thought .......hmmm.....oops never mind..do not wish to hijack..lol...to the OP...I am on a few lists as well some who have approached me and some who have not..I simply wait until they do if ever..and some who have me on there that I know we did not mesh so to speak..I think they just forgot..lol...anyway..I say do as you wish with your own lists...and damn the torpedoes...!!!!..Tempting

amativedame -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 9:59:43 PM)
What you can choose to do (in order to prevent other people from getting "bumped off") is to "hide" those you don't want to view in your admirers list. Downside to that will be that they won't come up in a search... but odds are if you were to hide them like that, would you really want them to come up in a search? lol

SweetDommes -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 10:51:14 PM)
I've been known to send a "hey, noticed you added us, why didn't you message us?" e-mail to people that seem to be potentially compatable, but I can't imagine sending a nasty letter to anyone because of it. As for not being able to remove them from your admirers list ... why do you need to? don't click on it and you won't know that they are there LOL

SexyRed -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/29/2006 10:52:34 PM)
there are a lot of people on my admirers list and and hardly any of them has ventured to speak with me. I don't write them either to ask why they listed me. The few that I recognize are those I communicated with from the message boards, but everyone else is a mystery to me.

SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/30/2006 12:12:20 AM)
Actually you can remove people from your admirers list. Simply click on their name to pull up their profile and then click either the Hide user or Block user button. The profile will no longer show up on your list of admirers.

Noah -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (7/30/2006 12:24:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amativedame What you can choose to do (in order to prevent other people from getting "bumped off") is to "hide" those you don't want to view in your admirers list. Downside to that will be that they won't come up in a search... but odds are if you were to hide them like that, would you really want them to come up in a search? lol People seem to need to be reminded about this feature. Thanks amativedame. As for the original post: If the subject of the thread is the demise of manners I think it is reasonable to point out how rude it seems to me that anyone would assume the right to control someone else's lists. My lists are my lists. Your lists are your lists. Is there a simpler and more polite way to view all this?

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