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CreativeDominant -> RE: Adding People to Your Favorites (9/1/2006 7:24:28 AM)
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ORIGINAL: secretsss
I am absolutely amazed at the so-called dominants who get offended by a sub or slave adding them to their favorites.
I rejoined this community after a 6 month hiatus and now I am beginning to remember why I left all those months ago.
Today was a lazy Saturday, another storm running through St. Louis. So, I decided to read profiles. I read many of them and everytime that I ran across one that was particularly interesting, I would add it to my favorites. I added 7 people to my favorites, 3 subs and 4 dominants. My thinking was that I could go back and re-read them another time and maybe muster the courage to write a few emails.
Now, I am not here to find my soul-mate or life partner. My profile clearly states that I am just here to make friends and have some intellectual conversations. I am long time member of the d/s sub-culture. I found d/s when I was 22 and I will soon be 40. So, let's not count the actual years. Of course, I feel most comfortable on d/s sites, discussing d/s and bdsm related topics. Oops didn't mean to digress. Anyway, all three of the submissives (2 ladies and 1 male) wrote very nice letters of introduction, after noticing that I added them to my favorites. Two very nasty wannabee male dominants wrote to berate me for not asking their permission before adding their name to my favorites list. Is this what d/s has come to? Have dominants become this insecure? Are manners now reserved for submissives? Can someone please shed some light on this matter?
To end on a positive note, it looks like I am on my way to making three new friends. Thank goodness for subbies.
secrets
Addressing the dominants and their behavior: as to whether or not they are insecure or not...maybe. They are definitely rude and puffed up with their own importance and a false sense of what dominance means in terms of how they relate to others.
As for manners being reserved for submissives: don't want to hijack the thread as this has been discussed on other threads (LA, where are you?) but rudeness is becoming a more and more common thing seen nowadays, whether it be from dominants or submissives. Sadly, it seems to be creeping its way inexorably into the culture because it is accepted by so many...not only those on the receiving end who, instead of fighting it just decide "Oh well, this is the way it is" to those on the giving end, who often use "This is the real me...and if you can't handle that, you're the one with a problem. I refuse to use an insincere veneer of courtesy when I don't even know you" as their reasoning behind their behavior.
Friends are always good. Sometimes friends become something more, sometimes they don't...but friends that are sincerely friends and who have differing as well as similar interests are always good.
I have not added anyone to my favorites list and I am not sure why except that I have just been too involved in answering mail and posting on the forums with the little time I do have that I don't take the time to learn how to add someone. I am going to have to go back and read how to do so though because there are those on here that I do admire and who I'd like to have on the list of My Favorites.
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