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What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 5:59:07 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		with all the complaints here about non-responsiveness on this site, what is the point in even trying? people take time out of their day to read...and yes, even respond...to someone's ad only to get ignored. there is no courtesy here.

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:03:39 PM   
chantrea


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Status: offline 		i'd respond, if for nothing else to make friends, but my mail doesn't work...le sigh

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:04:13 PM   
MasterKalif


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Status: offline 		michael, that is totally true, although sometimes people reply....the problem is when they typically refer you to yahoo, I think that is a code that they simple want to ignore you....at least with me, going on yahoo is almost a no-no now and a complete waste of time. Subs and slaves...it is so easy to just say "no thanks" then everyone can move on, no regrets....

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:06:26 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		people don't have any courtesy towards others. i reply to everyone, even to say "no, thank you" but i'm one-in-a-million

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:11:40 PM   
abytchgoddess4u


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2
with all the complaints here about non-responsiveness on this site, what is the point in even trying? people take time out of their day to read...and yes, even respond...to someone's ad only to get ignored. there is no courtesy here.


Well, you'll never get what you purport to want without replying...that's pretty much the main reason.

I respond to every email I receive. If they have responded in they way I request in my profile, they get a very polite reply...sometimes with interest, sometimes not. If they don't respond the way I ask...they get, "Deleted for inapropriate reply."

I would suggest that you may not be getting answers b/c your ad says you are married and want a no-strings situation. Most of us don't want that. If you respond to someone who does, or a Pro...you might get better results.


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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:15:53 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		it's not any different than being married...and i'm sure married people don't get the cold shoulder like i do (before anyone starts placing the "self-pity" label on yet another of my posts...DON'T...it's an opinion AND an observation...peddle that line someplace else)

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:32:18 PM   
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michael, welcome to the wonderful world of online interactions. If you truly desire advice, then pay attention.

  1. You're married seeking "no-strings". To many dommes, that means sex without the benefit of a committed relationship. Few, if any of us, want that.
  2. You  may be replying to ladies that you do not fit their specifications. Distance, age, marital status, their mail filters may catch you, etc., etc. Why should they waste their time on replying when you probably didn't take enough time to consider what they want?
  3. Your profile is fairly bland. There's not a whole to interest anyone. Nor do you stress what you can offer someone. On the whole? It's too average to entice a lady.

I could go on, but you get the points. If you just want someone to scene with; try a pro-dominant. Seek out someone that comes highly recommended.


Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...





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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:33:24 PM   
litleone8620


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Status: offline 		Look, you can't expect every single one of your e-mails to be responded to. That is delusional. Just like in meat life, you're going to find people who are rude online. It's about the equivalent of not having a polite smile returned on the street; or a thank you wave after you let another car in on the highway.

You can spout on about how you respond to every e-mail you get, even if it's just to say, "no, thank you". Fine, whatever. I used to do that too. Until i started getting mail back, demanding why i'm rejecting them, and how i'm lucky that they even e-mailed me in the first place.

And i don't respond to e-mail that makes it obvious my profile wasn't read. Waste of time.

Just consider yourself lucky that you didn't take the time out of your obviously busy schedule to get to know this person who didn't e-mail you back. They saved you X amount of time it would take to reject them later.


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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:34:31 PM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		im sorry Mike- that dating sceen in general is just ruff.

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:35:21 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		1. i'm not married... i have a gf and everything is spelled out in my profile.
2. people just don't have any courtesy for anyone here.
3. married people do not seem to have the same problems as me.
4. i write to people that i seem to match their criteria or are local to me and, with a couple of exceptions, just get ignored.


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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:42:22 PM   
SexyRed


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

1. i'm not married... i have a gf and everything is spelled out in my profile.
2. people just don't have any courtesy for anyone here.
3. married people do not seem to have the same problems as me.



I am not sure why you think you are the only one having a problem. Ill manners and rudeness are univeral and go all over the map. It happens to men, women, subs, Doms, switches, everything in between and beyond.

You may complain about not getting replies, but as a woman I will tell you I get many emails and I reply to all of them, even the rude ones. The shock to me are the ones who write me and it goes nowhere. Today in fact, here is a scenario:

ME: opens collarme email from Dom. It says, wow you are pretty.
I read his profile, decide to write back. I write, Thank you so much. Would you like to chat?
HIM: I wish you were here with me in ________.
ME: Thanks, but it would be better to decide that after we chat for a bit, no?
HIM: ok.
ME: can you send me a photo?
HIM: sure, here it is.
ME: thank you for the photo. would you like to continue chatting now?
HIM: your very welcome.

And then nothing happened. One could say that I could have continued being proactive with him but he wrote me and ostensibly thought I was attractive and wanted to talk. He had no photo on his profile and gladly sent one. My saying thank you and do you want to continue chatting indicated that he should have taken the ball and run. He did not.

To me, this type of thing is worse than not getting replies back, because of all the fits and starts. Nothing rude went on here in the above exchange, but it just went BLAH.

The online dating scene is the pits, truly.

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:50:27 PM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		i have not run into anyone local on this site.  i find the message boards here very nice tho.

in general- the dating sceen here is= well- the good stuff is picked out.

tho- there can be happiness in being single. th0 a regular fling is better then the unending 1 nighter thing.

i would guess woman get so many replies they have a hard time keeping up with them

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:50:56 PM   
SavageFaerie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterKalif

michael, that is totally true, although sometimes people reply....the problem is when they typically refer you to yahoo, I think that is a code that they simple want to ignore you....at least with me, going on yahoo is almost a no-no now and a complete waste of time. Subs and slaves...it is so easy to just say "no thanks" then everyone can move on, no regrets....


Not true on yahoo for me....I will not give it out unless I feel good doing it...It mainly how I keep up with family and friends..I dont want it clogged with just anyone.

I dont answer all some just dont rate an answer, if there is genuine interest I will reply, like another...nothing wrong with networking.

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:52:12 PM   
SexyRed


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pahunkboy


in general- the dating sceen here is= well- the good stuff is picked out.




I would not generalize and say all the "good stuff" is picked out. Some of the "good stuff" just have not met each other.

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:52:33 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		I think many people who are using CM to look for a partner suffer from fatigue, and have moments where they lose faith.  But I'll tell you -- from my own experience -- that being in a bad mood about it will only work against you.

Finding a partner here means being willing to send out message after message, and having a little patience to wait through someone else's initial skepticism. 

For me, the patience comes in wading through emails, 75-80% of which are simply not what I am looking for.  People who clearly fall outside what I state I am looking for in my profile are not responded to.  It's a matter of saving my energy.  If they had read more carefully to begin with, they could have saved even more energy!  It lacks courtesy to get a message from one of these folks, the person who is married, far away, 57, interested in cyber and doesn't take time to write carefully when I've stated that I want local, single, below 45, service and attention to writing.  In those cases, it is absolutely appropriate to ignore their letter.

It is rare to get a letter that responds to statements that I make in my profile.  When I get one, I *always* respond to it.

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 6:56:26 PM   
pahunkboy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SexyRed

quote:

ORIGINAL: pahunkboy


in general- the dating sceen here is= well- the good stuff is picked out.




I would not generalize and say all the "good stuff" is picked out. Some of the "good stuff" just have not met each other.


i like your attitude. a good attirtude is very important in life.

thanks!!! :-)

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 7:06:22 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		I reply to all...

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 7:10:59 PM   
MasterKalif


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SavageFaerie

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterKalif

michael, that is totally true, although sometimes people reply....the problem is when they typically refer you to yahoo, I think that is a code that they simple want to ignore you....at least with me, going on yahoo is almost a no-no now and a complete waste of time. Subs and slaves...it is so easy to just say "no thanks" then everyone can move on, no regrets....


Not true on yahoo for me....I will not give it out unless I feel good doing it...It mainly how I keep up with family and friends..I dont want it clogged with just anyone.

I dont answer all some just dont rate an answer, if there is genuine interest I will reply, like another...nothing wrong with networking.


I am glad that you are like that, really, few do as you do :). One time on msn messenger one slave who told me to contact her on there, when she finally came online and I could "message" her, she doesnt remember me, asking me where I know her from, and once I tell her CM she gets mad and tells me that she is at work and can't mention those things or talk. Very weird...I mean how could I know she would log in at work??  and then poof she dissappears, doesnt answer emails from CM and is never online. Such is the thing on yahoo messenger again and again "oh lets chat on yahoo" and then they are never online, and if they do go online its a three line exchange and then they dissappear or dont answer. Its so ridiculous that whenever someone mentions that we should chat on there I refuse or state that I will continue to use the mail section of this website...

I mean why would someone engage on such a waste of time? beyond me...even as a "joke" its boring.

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 7:19:00 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		You've been around and seen more than enough threads on "People don't respond to my emails! They suck!" to realize the reality of the situation and the futility of threads such as this.

But it's one more example of you whining about how the world sucks and is against you and another reason why you'll never get into a relationship with someone else.

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RE: What is the point in responding to someone's ad here? - 7/30/2006 7:20:04 PM   
litleone8620


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Status: offline 		I'm with the Sageling. If i'm going to give out any of my messenger adresses, then it means i feel comfortable enough with that person to talk more and i'm not one to blow off people i've given them out to.

The lack of common courtesy isn't restricted to just CM, or even online life. You're going to have to wade through the thorns to get to the rose. Patience really comes in handy.

If you're serious about finding  the submissive/slave/dom/Master,  you'll wade though the thorns, and in the end, the rose ends up smelling that much sweeter.


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