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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

Hi JessieMe,
 
> Ok..let me see.. if someone told me these are my extreme
> fantasies when I have not gotten far enough into a relationship
> to really understand the context of them.. yeah.... I would run
> screaming as well...

Right, but I don't understand why?  It is a common fantasy. 
A lot of females share my fantasy. I mean they fantasize 
having it happen to them.  It is just a fantasy. No one really 
wants to do it, or really wants to have it done to them in real
life.  In the fantasy, there is no blood, and the pain is erotic,
not like it would really be in real life.
 
> Are you REALLY telling people these things early on??
 
Yes.
 
> If your goal is to keep them hanging around long enough
> to think you are sane.. WHY?

Because I am 100% open.  I hide nothing from other people.
I don't think I have a reason to hide anything.    There is no
reason to believe that people who have this fantasy are not
sane.   Do a Google search for the words: "female,"
"spit" "long pig" "barbeque."  You will see how many people
have this fantasy.  
 

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Hi there,
> but it all boils down to the fact that Dominants NEED to be in charge.

> Maybe you are simply a fetishist, and not a Dominant at all.

I need to be in charge, but I am very accomadating. I don't know if that
makes any sense. I need to call the final shot. I need to be captain.
But I value a strong first mate, and cherish input and criticism.

Best regards,
Michael

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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

Hi there,

     Thanks for the words of encouragement.  I never heard of a DaddyDom.   What is it?   I would rather
have a partner that acts like a grown women, than a little girl, though I'm flexible.   I part of the thing is I
am more into bdsm, into into D/s.   Everytime, I tell a sub, I'm not a superdom dom type, they tell me that
they need the super dom type.  After a while, it gets pretty discouraging.   I am an erotic, sexual sadist.  
Everytime I've ssid this to a sub, they say "How aweful" and run in the opposite direction.  I feel a lot
of guilt about sexual desires and my sexual fantasies.  I could never really hurt someone for four reasons:
1. It is against the law, 2. Anything actually physically damaging is a major turn-off.  3. Most importantly,
I could never do anything that causes anyone emotional pain, and 4. It would violate my moral code
which I have dedicated my life to following.  Despite this, every time I have ever told a sub I was
a sexual sadist, they have invariably said, "How awful" and run in the opposite direction.  Finally,
I have a "rape fantasy."   Now, I know rape is a horrible crime, and may women are destroyed by it
and suffer lifelong depression from it.  Still, having the fantasy is not exactly the same as being a
rapist.  Yet, every time I have said this, the sub becomes indignant, and tells me how awful I am.
They say rape is all about power, and not about sex.   That might be true, but it turns me on
thinking about the power, such criminals have over their victims.  I crave having that kind of
power.    On the other hand, I am not a violent person.  In fact, I am pretty much incapable
of violence.  I would have thought, that this, too, was an asset, but find a lot of females a
ttracted to really violent. abusive guys.  I managed a hotel, and saw this over and over again.

 I don't know. I remain unconvinced there is a place for me in the bdsm world, even though
I have been obsessed with it from before I even knew it existed outside my fantasy.

With love, lashes, and endless hugs,
Michael

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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

I would have the female lay on my bed with a short piece of
broom stick exiting her mouth, and the round end of a
long lubricated broomstick slowly and carefully inserted
below into her. I would pour mineral oil over her body.  Then
rub it all over with my hand.  Thenn I would tenderize her
meat by lightly tapping a wooden meat tenderizer all over
her body.  Then I would slowly heat the mineral oil all over
her body with a blow dryer.  When one side is "cooked," 
she would turn over, and let me "cook" the other side.  I
supply enough heat till the oil is erotically hot all over her
body but not painful.  I might use an aromatic oil. Then
when she is well-cooked,   I would wipe the mineral oil
off, and cover her body with chocolate syrup, and "eat"
her--lick and nibble the chocolate off her body.  (When I
first wrote this, I misspelled "nibble"as "nipple," Freudian
slip, I suppose.)
 

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ORIGINAL: BenignPlague

I don't recall where I heard the expression, but it was something like "people want to get to know the whole you, but they don't want to do it all at once".  Go at your own pace, if you're looking for someone who can handle that all at once, don't feel pressured to lean to one side or another just to increase the hits on your profile.

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

We just had a thread on here all about LABLES. I'm amazed that people would so readly suggest you put yourself into a box.  SHAME on THEM!  :) (and you know who you are!~) LOL

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ORIGINAL: Noah

Anybody want to hear about my thing I want to do to subbies with my Lionel model train transformer, pine sap and a barbershop quartet?