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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/2/2006 4:23:44 AM   
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Hi there,
 
    Someone here sent me a message asking to hear more of my scenerios.
I some to her , and was going to post them here, but don't want to offend

anyone here with smut or bore them to tears.  I am far from an old pro.
How I wish.  I only posted here to see if any sub might have an interest
in me.  Frankly, it is very hard to play alone.  I came to this website
because I heard some guy met his sub here.  I don't really have a lot
of time to spend online.  So, I plan to move on.  It would be nice to hear
from friendly subs looking for a guy like me.  Of course, I'd be happy
with just one sub.
 
   So, there you have it.  I am who I am.  I am obviously not everyone's
piece of Holloween candy.  I like elctric play.  I found Lionel train
transformers cause too much pain.  Some can output enough
current to cause ventricular fibulation and death, but this is not
too likely especially if you use one or more mega ohm resisters
in series.  Other electric devices output safer, more erotic
stimulation, like those used by chiropracters.  The first electric
device I ever used was a train transformer, but I wouldn't go
back to one now.  Very crude.  Probably useful for professional
interrogators.  I like violet wands.  I like dilation, and vibrators
tied in place pressing on the cervix. 
 
With love, lashes and endless hugs,
Michael

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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/2/2006 7:46:34 AM   
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hmmm I have read the posts on this thread and am a little confused. Michael, you started the OP wondering if anyone is interested in a mildly dom top.  Fair enough.  A few more posts from you and I get the feeling you aren't quite as mild as you say you are, you have some interesting fantasies however they may not appeal to all people.  You mention that early in your contact with subs you let them know some of your fantasies and that these seem to scare them off. Big hint, ease into the information you share with people.... hello how are you may not be the appropriate time to say 'by the way, I have a fantasy of seeing you trussed up like a pig and being roasted'. There is no need to be dishonest, simply take some of the pressure off yourself to reveal everything about yourself immediately.  This isn't all about the mad race to find a dom or domme or top of slave or bottom or sub or switch or any other permutation I may have missed out.  Talk with people on this site as friends and learn from them.
I wish you well
wanders

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RE: Have I scared you away yet? - 8/2/2006 9:00:38 AM   
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quote:

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I am at a standstill.  Without a sub or a partner it is hard to get far.


There's a lot you can do while you're searching. Get educated.

http://www.fetishexchange.org  and  http://gloria-brame.com/

Is a good place to start.

Also be aware that CM is not the only website where you can meet subs.
But it IS the only one that is totally free.




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RE: Have I scared you away yet? - 8/2/2006 9:51:48 AM   
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Nope, not scared yet, sir.

You sound like a decent guy who will one day make a fine dominant, perhaps master.

If I may, I'd like to offer a little advice.

- Don't press those internet porn sites as interests. "Roasting over the pit on skewers" They are fantasies, entertainment.  OK, you explained your milder version.  Yet, if I were you - leave that out. If it has to be a cartoon to be viewed legally - don't say it.
At least until you know her well (done, but its rare  ) 

-Especially as a new inexperienced top, please go slowly in word and actions. best to both be safe.

- You can be a nice guy and a sadist. Sensual sadist may sound more appealing.

-Daddy Dom has nothing to do with children. A caring, comforting, supportive attitude can surely be alligned with being nasty, hard, forceful +

- ravish may be a better word than rape for this venue. Some don't understand consentual "rape" and how exciting forceful passion.

Anyway: best of luck to you!
Respectfully, fawne

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RE: Have I scared you away yet? - 8/2/2006 11:15:34 AM   
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Fast reply:

Why ... oh  why ... do I get the feeling that there's a little tweaking going on here, and it's not nipples gettin' tweaked ...

FHky


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RE: Have I scared you away yet? - 8/2/2006 2:56:02 PM   
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FirmHandKY: Sincerely - heck, it doesn't matter if it is a silly 7th grader posting for summer giggles on a hot day.

Someone, somewhere may learn something , JMHO
Plus, it is kind of funny. in a weird, silly way? 

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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/2/2006 6:40:21 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

    Someone here sent me a message asking to hear more of my scenerios.


Your fantasies seem quite detailed and the method of operation of telling submissives about them may very well work out for You. 

However, another approach would be to share only simple easily achievable fantasies that could readily be made reality.  Especially non-explicit fantasies.  This way you could actually accomplish mild fantasies with a partner in real life before exploring the 1,001 Nights of Pleasure.   Trust would be built up in real time interaction before going on to more elaborate ideas.  I don't feel this is misleading or hiding the real you, rather it is a natural progression of trust and desire. 

What's a "non-explicit" fantasy?  It could be something as simple as telling her what to wear to Your first meeting in a public place such as the typical white blouse, black skirt, black stockings and black high heels.  If that is a fantasy of Yours then the first meeting could fulfill it.  Things like that.  Work on the simple fantasies before the elaborate multi-hour BDSM sex marathon fantasies.  Keep the simple fantasies detailed and the elaborate fantasies general until the time comes to explore them. 

Good luck to You.     

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RE: Have I scared you away yet? - 8/2/2006 7:20:08 PM   
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Dear Fawne and others,
 
> Nope, not scared yet, sir.
 
Thanks.  I appreciate the vote of confidence.  
I don't know if I am worthy of being called Sir, just yet.
 
Thank you all for your advice. 
 
> Don't press those internet porn sites as interests.
 
I don't.  I know no one will believe me, I almost never visit
porn sites.  I visited a few, years ago.  And downlaoded
a ten or twenty binaries from newsgroups the very first
time I encountered them.  I don't visit porn sites mainly,
because my own imagination does a better job.  And
I like things R-rated, not X-rated.  All the advertisements

on porn sites gross me out.  I don't like see naked guys
getting head.   I don't like seeing naked guys period.
And you can't go to a porn site without seeing naked
guys or guys cuming.  I have no interest in normal
porn sites and bdsm porn sites would just make me
focus on what I am missing.
 
I learned about Dolcet many years ago from alt.torture.  
It was a newsgroup that did not allow binaries (pictures). 
But I had the fantasy long before I was ever introduced to
Dolcet. 
 
> -Daddy Dom has nothing to do with children. A caring,
> comforting, supportive attitude can surely be alligned
> with being nasty, hard, forceful +

Okay, but I once talked to a sub who wanted a Daddy
Dom and she fled as son as she heard I like what tops
do.   Which I found very strange, because she wanted
done to her exactly what I like to do, but she wanted
a guy to do this exclusively for her satisfaction, not his.
 
Thank you Fawne for your kind words and good advice.
 
With love, lashes and endless hugs,
michael
 
> If it has to be a cartoon to be viewed legally - don't say it.
 
I guess so.  It just so goes against my grain not to say
whatever is on my mind, except things I think will hurt people's
feelings.  It is my nature to be totally honest and upfront.
Okay, I am not totally honest and upfront about everything.
But I hide very few things.  But you are right.  
 
I will keep such things secret, even though the truth is my
imagination knows few bounds and few limits.  It is hard
for me to understand why people can't differentiate between
fantasy and reality.
 
Anyone here remember Calvin and Hobbes?   Can't we admit
to having day dreams of robbing banks, Brinks trucks, taking
vengence on some boss, (or for females) some ex-boyfriend, or
some place of business, or some tormentor.  This is normal.
 
Maybe, I am the only person with a criminal mind who
imagines just about everything.  Maybe, that is why I am so
understanding because I see a little bit of myself in EVERY
human, and a little bit of EVERY human in myself.  I feel I
understand every criminal.  Does that make me a criminal?
Maybe.  But I'm not very dangerous, and do not intentionally
break the law. In fact, I am one of the least dangerous people
there are.  I never get into physical confrontations with others.
 
The CIA and the Department of Defense ought to consult me
because I worried about the Russians bringing disassembled
nuclear weapons to the Uninted States across deserted part
of the Canadian border long ago.  Building a missle defense
system to protect against nuclear missles from N. Korea is
ridiculous because if N. Korea wanted to nuke us all they
would have to do is put their atomic bombs aboard luxury
sailboats, and slowly sail them into all US ports and Naval
Bases, and anonymously detonate them.  The Russians
never had to launch Intercountballistic missles at the US.
They could have assembled nukes in every US city. 
 
I could catch Osama bin Ladin in a month.   I would crash
an advance fighter jet or bomber near the border between
Afgahnistan and Turkey where it would be found by those
sympathetic to bin Ladin, and claim the pilot and plane are
missing in action.  I would secretly rescue the pilot and
leave the body of a recently killed American soldier in Iraq
to make it look like we were unable to find the plane, and
pilot.  I would scramble as many American aircraft as
possible making it known that an intensive rescue operation
was underway.  The plane would a trojan nuke.  No, not
a nuke covered with a condom, but the exterior of an
atomic or hydrogen bomb.  Inside the bomb would ge
a GPS locater, a senstive mirophone, a satellite transmitter
that transmited information in very short bursts once
every hour like a Martian space probe.  It would have
pin hole hidden cameras.  Surely, bin Ladin's sympathizers
would get the information to bin Ladin that they captured
a real live atomic bomb, and bin Ladin could not resist
the temptation to see it himself.  Once he was in close
proximity to the bomb, we would send a signal to it, and
it would detonate.  Of course, it would only contain a
regular bomb inside.
 
On 9/11, I wrote a famous physicist predicting Islamic
terrorists would nuke NY city sometime in the next
twenty years.  I think 9/11 saved us from that ever
happening.  When 9/11 happened I thanked God,
because I thought that would wake America up to
the existing threat.  Now, I fear N. Korea will sell
plutonium to some anti-American terrorists.  We
should nuke N. Korea.  If we don't, there is a very
good chance we will lose LA, NY, Miami, San Diego,
Hawaii, and Norfolk.  When we are anonymously
nuked what will we do?  Will we nuke N. Korea
then when we know they can can nuke us back,
and we are not sure they are behind the attack?
Once Iran and N. Korea build nuclear arsenals,
say hello to Mad Max.  I hope this is all just
overly negative paranoid speculation.  But I have
a habit of making correct predictions.  When
Gorbechev resigned to Borris Yelsten.  I predicted
East and West Berlin would unite in a few years.
Everyone said I was crazy.  Of couse, today, it
looks obvious, but back then no one thought it
would ever happen.  It is the nature of human
beings to think things that have never happened
will never happen.
 
> You can be a nice guy and a sadist. Sensual
> sadist may sound more appealing.ravish may
> be a better word than rape for this venue.
 
I hate euphamisms, but I will take your advice.
My hope was I would find a female with the
same fantasies.  There was a time you couldn't
tell a female about bdsm without scaring her
off.  I would have thought those in the bdsm
community would easily understand the
difference between fantasy and reality.  Look
at how vanilla people look at bdsm.  The
difference between my fantasy and reality
is the exact same difference between getting
tortured for real and what we do. 
 
Don't subs have extreme fantasies?  Or are
they just afraid to confess them to strangers.
The few females I've been with said I'm the
only person in the world they felt comfortable
telling their innermost thoughts because I
am so open and honest myself, and so
non-judgmental.  I hate the barriers people
put up between themselves.  Why can't we
all admit to having extreme fantasies, and
feel comfortable bearing our souls to others.
 
Maybe because others take advantage of our
weakness, or we fear ridicule or judgment. 
 
 
 

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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/2/2006 7:34:03 PM   
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Hi MissAbby,

> Your fantasies seem quite detailed and the method of operation of telling
> submissives about them may very well work out for You. 

Not really.  On a first meeting, I would be happy to meet them with
one of their male or female friends at a bookstore or coffee shop.
Or take them to dinner.  Or to visit my local fetish club.  I don't
normally go there, because I hate going alone.  I don't mind
showing them where I live.  I wouldn't mind visiting them.  I'm
flexible and open.
 
With love,
michael

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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/2/2006 10:26:58 PM   
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Those seem like good first meeting ideas.  I wish You well in Your endeavors.   

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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/3/2006 12:01:34 AM   
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Also, I would recommend that everything that is to take place in a first private play session be negotiated ahead of time.  The duration should not be longer than three hours.  The sub should have a friend pick her up.  She should have a friend call her halfway through the session.  Or she should have someone she trusts with her to act as a "safety."  There are a lot of ways to improve the chances of not having a bad first scene.  The first scene could be held in a top-rated hotel room.  That way, the guy has to register for the room, so he knows police can always find him.  Such hotels have cameras in the hallway.  Everything should be agreed upon and put down on paper and signed so there can be no misunderstanding. 

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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/3/2006 4:17:25 AM   
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Personally, as a novice, I plan on taking things even slower than that. 

My first scene with a submissive would probably be as simple as a mild foot worship scenario.  Hopefully, W/we would have met enough times in public to already feel comfortable around each other.  I'd wear a pair of My beautiful chanel heels and he would remove them, massage My feet and paint My toenails. 

This would take maybe half hour at the most.  Simple, achievable, a step to bigger things. 

That's just My plan of action;  Your mileage may vary.         

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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/3/2006 7:42:06 AM   
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Hi Miss Abby,
 
     I think a scene like that would have turned me off to bdsm
forever.  Which only goes to show there are many people here
with many needs, and many tastes.  Nothing wrong with your
first scenerio, I'm sure a lot of subs would enjoy it.
 
Best regards,
Michael

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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/3/2006 7:57:17 AM   
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quote:

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Hi Miss Abby,
 
     I think a scene like that would have turned me off to bdsm
forever.  /font]
 
Best regards,
Michael

Well, just as you said after your roasted-girl-on-a-spit scene was said to be a little too much for some people to um, swallow, if you Google "foot fetish" I have a feeling you will be impressed with the number of information out there for the vast number of people who really really get off on that kink.

So, you kinda just gave yourself some advice without realizing.

Chill out, acknowledge that the women who arent into your fantasies are just not into them and keep your eyes open for someone who digs your kink.

Meanwhile, if you feel the need to post your fantasies, there is a nice feature on your profile called a "journal" where anyone who wants to read them (ie the mystery woman who asked for more of them here) can read them in the comfort and privacy of your profile.


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RE: A place for a mildly dom, top? - 8/3/2006 8:41:10 AM   
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Hi Justheather,

Oh, yes, I know there are a lot of men into foot worship, that it
is a very popular fetish, much more popular than the things that
interest me.  I don't know why you thought I didn't know this.
 
I have a feeling you misunderstood what I was trying to say.  
 
Best regards,
Michael

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