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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/2/2006 8:37:57 PM   
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"Well there are plenty of masochists who just flat dig pain, period. I can't cite any anvil instances but I could regale you with almost comparable ones.
Pain is interesting. etc..."

Well, that is an intersting take. But I guess tha if a person simply enjoys pain then they can just administer it themselves. I mean, there's nothing difficult about smashing one's thumb in a car door, of the person has a mind to do it. And, of course, hammering a nail through one's foot might also work. But, my point is that I don't know anyone who does that! Most of the massochists I know want to be beaten by another person usually while naked of close to it, and usually placed in a vulnerable, submissive position. There is definately a submisive component to it. There may be people who stick pins into thier fingers in an effort to "paint a canvas of pain" but I just haven't seen it, ever. I have to assume that if it exists it is indeed rare.

As for a "sadist who likes to hurt people" well, i'll save the wry observation of redundancy :-) I understand how you mean it. But I still must ask if it's not possible that what a sadist is reacting to is the reaction they get and to some degree to the power that is given them. I mean, a sadist can't really experience anyone else's pain but his/her own. No one can get inside of someone else's pain. I mean, what if you were whipping a submissive within an inch of their life only to find out a month later that the sub actually had a nerve diease that didn't allow them to feel any pain? Could you go back in time and take back the enjoyment you felt because you weren't really producing pain in the person? There really would be no way for you to know at the time of the whipping scene and there never is. Tha's why I tend to think that the enjoyment comes from more that just the giving (or perception of giving) pain.

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/2/2006 8:50:11 PM   
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I am far from a pain slut ... but I can take most anything dished out .... But for me an act of submission can be anything  ( and pleasure for me) Is when I have timed all things to  his arrival , The look in his eyes when he walks in and everything is in its place his drink is in my  hand and is dinner time is less that which it will take for him to enjoy his drink.

Act of submission is when I complete a story  and it has every detail in it of things he had done to me. Watching  him read it and his eyes lighting at portions or the chuckle from a particular incident he remembers as clearly.

And it can be submitting to his whip, a knife or simply sitting at his feet while the news is on ...... to me all the above is submission... and can turn on all my  emotions and well  get me wet ... most times not even being touched

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 9:47:42 AM   
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When i first began my relationship i didn't go into it with any set definition of what i was or  any preconceived expectation of what i wanted.  Thinking back on it all, it was pretty fooish of me i suppose. 

My ex was a dominant/sadist.  In the beginning when he would administer pain i didn't like it much but i did enjoy the submissiveness of it, the "suffering to please him" aspect.  He enjoyed this immensely and would keep upping the ante over the time we were together.  Over time i changed. i started to actually look forward to it, my threshold for it increased tremendously, i even craved it and was disappointed when it didn't happen!  i became i suppose, a pain slut. 

This interesting thing though is, he did not like this change in me, he wanted the "suffering for him" aspect and sought ways to make it hard for me to reach that plateau where i drifted into sub space.  This became very frustrating for me, to say the least. 

i suppose there are different types of sadists.  i have heard many who claim to be sadists say they prefer not to play with masochists because they enjoy it too much!  WOW... where does that leave us masochists who are also submissives to go?? 



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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 9:49:51 AM   
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When i first began my relationship i didn't go into it with any set definition of what i was or  any preconceived expectation of what i wanted.  Thinking back on it all, it was pretty fooish of me i suppose. 

My ex was a dominant/sadist.  In the beginning when he would administer pain i didn't like it much but i did enjoy the submissiveness of it, the "suffering to please him" aspect.  He enjoyed this immensely and would keep upping the ante over the time we were together.  Over time i changed. i started to actually look forward to it, my threshold for it increased tremendously, i even craved it and was disappointed when it didn't happen!  i became i suppose, a pain slut. 

This interesting thing though is, he did not like this change in me, he wanted the "suffering for him" aspect and sought ways to make it hard for me to reach that plateau where i drifted into sub space.  This became very frustrating for me, to say the least. 

i suppose there are different types of sadists.  i have heard many who claim to be sadists say they prefer not to play with masochists because they enjoy it too much!  WOW... where does that leave us masochists who are also submissives to go?? 




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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 4:20:34 PM   
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"Well there are plenty of masochists who just flat dig pain, period. I can't cite any anvil instances but I could regale you with almost comparable ones.
Pain is interesting. etc..."

Well, that is an intersting take. But I guess tha if a person simply enjoys pain then they can just administer it themselves. I mean, there's nothing difficult about smashing one's thumb in a car door, of the person has a mind to do it. And, of course, hammering a nail through one's foot might also work. But, my point is that I don't know anyone who does that! Most of the massochists I know want to be beaten by another person usually while naked of close to it, and usually placed in a vulnerable, submissive position. There is definately a submisive component to it. There may be people who stick pins into thier fingers in an effort to "paint a canvas of pain" but I just haven't seen it, ever. I have to assume that if it exists it is indeed rare.

As for a "sadist who likes to hurt people" well, i'll save the wry observation of redundancy :-) I understand how you mean it. But I still must ask if it's not possible that what a sadist is reacting to is the reaction they get and to some degree to the power that is given them. I mean, a sadist can't really experience anyone else's pain but his/her own. No one can get inside of someone else's pain. I mean, what if you were whipping a submissive within an inch of their life only to find out a month later that the sub actually had a nerve diease that didn't allow them to feel any pain? Could you go back in time and take back the enjoyment you felt because you weren't really producing pain in the person? There really would be no way for you to know at the time of the whipping scene and there never is. Tha's why I tend to think that the enjoyment comes from more that just the giving (or perception of giving) pain.

LAsub


Than you for responding thoughtfully.

You haven't met the people who want to self-adminsiter pain (in non-pathological ways) and they may be rare, but I could make introductions for you.

There's no need to draw such sharp dividing lines though, when the actual picture varies by degree. Just because someone likes pain for its own sake doesn't mean that that person would just as soon do it alone. Some do. Most, as you rightly point out, don't.

I know people who enjoy theatrical productions but who prefer never to go to the theater alone. You may propose some theory that it isn't the play and the acting and so forth that they like. You may say that they are kidding themselves and they are actually dressing up and buying tickets just to appreciate the look on the face of their seat-mate.

I believe that they actually enjoying the play, even though they prefer not to enjoy it alone.

Lots of other masochists, just as you say. avoid pain assiduously unless it is administered by a caring partner under certain special sorts of dynamics. I doubt anyone would deny this.





As for not having access to another person's pain, well what of it?

I don't have access to my partners pain and I don't have access to her pleasure either.

I don't have access to my buddy's experience of the humor he finds in a joke I tell. So? Am I wrong to say I enjoy making a friend laugh, plain and simple?

Should I come on here and explain to you that you don't really enjoy giving your partner pleasure? That you are describing yourself innacurately? That you are really only reacting to thus and such and etc and etc and it is all very abstract but you don't really like giving pleasure?

One could stake out that patch of ground I suppose.

If you say that you enjoy giving pleasure to a partner, just plain enjoy it quite directly before consideration of any further issues which might give even further pleasure and meaning, I'll believe you. If you also appreciate the activity on a number of more complex levels then that's great too.

So, then.

When I offer that a sadist can enjoy giving pain just as anyone may enjoy giving pleasure, I hope it now makes comfortable sense for you to accept it on those terms.



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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 4:28:25 PM   
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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 4:56:32 PM   
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 I enjoy a wonderful combination of both. One of my favorite quotes belongs to a friend on another site and states..."Submissive by nature.....masochist for the fun of it."   I think it's an apt description of my views. 
On the same token, at least in my own experience,  there comes a time that the eroticism of the  pain deepens into  total submission.  The pain stops being the source of the pleasure, the fact that i am submitting my body  beyond my own enjoyment and comfort to sustain his pleasure becomes the source of my own.  At that point i also become like others who have posted that their pleasure comes indirectly.

On a side note, i love  Noahs observation of pain as "interesting" and the fact that it can be used for many things.   I've enjoyed  some interesting results in experimenting with that.

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 5:11:19 PM   
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  One of my favorite forms of play is abrasion play; a few months ago he did an intense abrasion scene on me.  My back was raw and seeping blood when he was done.  The next morning he continued the play, just lightly touching my back, feather light touches, and I was in tears and begging within minutes.
 
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kyra:

If you dont mind my asking...  What is abrasion play?  I mean, I know what abrasion means, but if its not too personal, could you be more specific?

marie.

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 5:40:08 PM   
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kyra:

If you dont mind my asking...  What is abrasion play?  I mean, I know what abrasion means, but if its not too personal, could you be more specific?

marie.


marie,

It is not too personal at all.  Basically it is using anything that will abrade the flesh, sand paper, brushes, fish cleaning gloves, nails, etc.  He has several different types of brushes that he uses, pet grooming brushes, curry comb, soft bristle brush, a metal BBQ brush... the list is limited only by his imagination and he has a very creative imagination.  My favorite are the fish cleaning gloves.  They are rubber gloves designed for gripping fish and they feel exquisite when he uses them.  The BBQ brush he uses to abrade and to smack; when he hits with it, it creates tiny pinholes that seep blood.  Combine all this with a hard flogging and your skin will be extremely sensitive and raw.  For days afterwards the slightest touch can cause me pain.

The sensations can range from soft to excrutiating.  It is a very sensual play for me and I feel a deep connection to him during it.  He is up close and personal, usually touching flesh to flesh.  That night I lost several layers of skin and was bleeding quite a bit from the BBQ brush.  

kyra 

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 7:15:29 PM   
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Than you for responding thoughtfully.

You haven't met the people who want to self-adminsiter pain (in non-pathological ways) and they may be rare, but I could make introductions for you.

There's no need to draw such sharp dividing lines though, when the actual picture varies by degree. Just because someone likes pain for its own sake doesn't mean that that person would just as soon do it alone. Some do. Most, as you rightly point out, don't.

I know people who enjoy theatrical productions but who prefer never to go to the theater alone. You may propose some theory that it isn't the play and the acting and so forth that they like. You may say that they are kidding themselves and they are actually dressing up and buying tickets just to appreciate the look on the face of their seat-mate.

I believe that they actually enjoying the play, even though they prefer not to enjoy it alone.

Lots of other masochists, just as you say. avoid pain assiduously unless it is administered by a caring partner under certain special sorts of dynamics. I doubt anyone would deny this.

As for not having access to another person's pain, well what of it?

I don't have access to my partners pain and I don't have access to her pleasure either.

I don't have access to my buddy's experience of the humor he finds in a joke I tell. So? Am I wrong to say I enjoy making a friend laugh, plain and simple?

Should I come on here and explain to you that you don't really enjoy giving your partner pleasure? That you are describing yourself innacurately? That you are really only reacting to thus and such and etc and etc and it is all very abstract but you don't really like giving pleasure?

One could stake out that patch of ground I suppose.

If you say that you enjoy giving pleasure to a partner, just plain enjoy it quite directly before consideration of any further issues which might give even further pleasure and meaning, I'll believe you. If you also appreciate the activity on a number of more complex levels then that's great too.

So, then.

When I offer that a sadist can enjoy giving pain just as anyone may enjoy giving pleasure, I hope it now makes comfortable sense for you to accept it on those terms.



A compelling argument you make! On some levels I am even convinced. But, of course we have now left off of ordinary discussion and have lapsed into philisophy haven't we? (probably much to the chagrin of the other message posters and readers.) So it comes down to the "nature of reality" and what it means to "know." And we could dance around to the music of morphology, solipsism, and ultimate truth! Lol! But I'll spare you that discussion, as I sense you have already had it.

So, to a degree you must be right of course, but also, to a degree, the theater lover who cannot go alone is watching two theaters--the one on stage, and the one in the seat beside him and it's the combination of the two that he enjoys best. And of course, if we can agree that we cannot enjoy one other's pleasure or pain directly, then we can also say that our motivations are self-motivated. I ejoy giving pleasure, because of what I get out of it. If I "sense" that my partner is getting pleasure out of it, then it makes me fell good (and that is the real and only motivation). I don't like giving pleasure, I like the feeling of giving someone else pleasure. In your case I might express it that you do not enjoy giving pain (since you certainly can't experience anyone elses pain) but that you enjoy the feeling that you get the emotion, the reaction. But I concede that that is probably drawing the line too close.

LAsub

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 7:24:23 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: marieToo
kyra:

If you dont mind my asking...  What is abrasion play?  I mean, I know what abrasion means, but if its not too personal, could you be more specific?

marie.


marie,

It is not too personal at all.  Basically it is using anything that will abrade the flesh, sand paper, brushes, fish cleaning gloves, nails, etc.  He has several different types of brushes that he uses, pet grooming brushes, curry comb, soft bristle brush, a metal BBQ brush... the list is limited only by his imagination and he has a very creative imagination.  My favorite are the fish cleaning gloves.  They are rubber gloves designed for gripping fish and they feel exquisite when he uses them.  The BBQ brush he uses to abrade and to smack; when he hits with it, it creates tiny pinholes that seep blood.  Combine all this with a hard flogging and your skin will be extremely sensitive and raw.  For days afterwards the slightest touch can cause me pain.

The sensations can range from soft to excrutiating.  It is a very sensual play for me and I feel a deep connection to him during it.  He is up close and personal, usually touching flesh to flesh.  That night I lost several layers of skin and was bleeding quite a bit from the BBQ brush.  

kyra 


Thank you very much, kyra. You gave me a very clear and detailed understanding of exactly what I was wondering about.  I appreciate it.   :)

marie.

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 7:30:40 PM   
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I don't like giving pleasure, I like the feeling of giving someone else pleasure. In your case I might express it that you do not enjoy giving pain (since you certainly can't experience anyone elses pain) but that you enjoy the feeling that you get the emotion, the reaction. But I concede that that is probably drawing the line too close.

LAsub


What a totally astute qualification.  Ya know, I always think of this very point when I hear a submissive or slave say something like "Its all about Master.  I love doing things to make his life easier."

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 7:52:57 PM   
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I don't like giving pleasure, I like the feeling of giving someone else pleasure. In your case I might express it that you do not enjoy giving pain (since you certainly can't experience anyone elses pain) but that you enjoy the feeling that you get the emotion, the reaction. But I concede that that is probably drawing the line too close.

LAsub


What a totally astute qualification.  Ya know, I always think of this very point when I hear a submissive or slave say something like "Its all about Master.  I love doing things to make his life easier."


But in a free-will universe where we can't control the options, but always control the choice, then the sub can only choose what he or she wants. It's impossible to choose what they don't want because if they didn't want it (given their range of options) they wouldn't have choosen it.

So, subs are selfishly motivated, just like the rest of humanity? We do things for Dominants because it makes us feel good.

selfishLasub

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 7:56:18 PM   
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I don't like giving pleasure, I like the feeling of giving someone else pleasure. In your case I might express it that you do not enjoy giving pain (since you certainly can't experience anyone elses pain) but that you enjoy the feeling that you get the emotion, the reaction. But I concede that that is probably drawing the line too close.

LAsub


What a totally astute qualification.  Ya know, I always think of this very point when I hear a submissive or slave say something like "Its all about Master.  I love doing things to make his life easier."


But in a free-will universe where we can't control the options, but always control the choice, then the sub can only choose what he or she wants. It's impossible to choose what they don't want because if they didn't want it (given their range of options) they wouldn't have choosen it.

So, subs are selfishly motivated, just like the rest of humanity? We do things for Dominants because it makes us feel good.

selfishLasub



And that is THE most honest way to be. I always think of subs who come across as saintly givers as hypocrytes.

Just another way of puffing up an ego.

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 8:01:05 PM   
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so when it comes together, and that is what us real perverts are ostensibly doing here...............


Like Blimpies...........

It's a beautiful thing..........

Is this common?  (fuck no, it ain't)

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 9:32:07 PM   
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For  me it is both ... i was introduced to bdsm by  a sadist  and i was quite shocked when i one day found that the pain itself had become arousing .   Being  a submissive is who i am ,  serving, pleasing the man i love is the source of my contentment, pain is simply about physical pleasure no comparison in importance .

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 9:57:00 PM   
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I don't like giving pleasure, I like the feeling of giving someone else pleasure. In your case I might express it that you do not enjoy giving pain (since you certainly can't experience anyone elses pain) but that you enjoy the feeling that you get the emotion, the reaction. But I concede that that is probably drawing the line too close.

LAsub


What a totally astute qualification.  Ya know, I always think of this very point when I hear a submissive or slave say something like "Its all about Master.  I love doing things to make his life easier."


But in a free-will universe where we can't control the options, but always control the choice, then the sub can only choose what he or she wants. It's impossible to choose what they don't want because if they didn't want it (given their range of options) they wouldn't have choosen it.

So, subs are selfishly motivated, just like the rest of humanity? We do things for Dominants because it makes us feel good.

selfishLasub



And Im not saying having selfish motivations is a bad thing; it's simply human nature.  If being unselfish in a relationship is what you enjoy, then youre motivated by selfishness.  It cant be wiggled out of.  Its just that simple and  I think submissives/slaves (whatever you call yourself)  should just call it like it really is.

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/3/2006 10:09:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LASub4Real


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ORIGINAL: marieToo

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ORIGINAL: LASub4Real


I don't like giving pleasure, I like the feeling of giving someone else pleasure. In your case I might express it that you do not enjoy giving pain (since you certainly can't experience anyone elses pain) but that you enjoy the feeling that you get the emotion, the reaction. But I concede that that is probably drawing the line too close.

LAsub


What a totally astute qualification.  Ya know, I always think of this very point when I hear a submissive or slave say something like "Its all about Master.  I love doing things to make his life easier."


But in a free-will universe where we can't control the options, but always control the choice, then the sub can only choose what he or she wants. It's impossible to choose what they don't want because if they didn't want it (given their range of options) they wouldn't have choosen it.

So, subs are selfishly motivated, just like the rest of humanity? We do things for Dominants because it makes us feel good.

selfishLasub



And Im not saying having selfish motivations is a bad thing; it's simply human nature.  If being unselfish in a relationship is what you enjoy, then youre motivated by selfishness.  It cant be wiggled out of.  Its just that simple and  I think submissives/slaves (whatever you call yourself)  should just call it like it really is.


I couldn't have said that better myself.

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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/4/2006 6:25:10 PM   
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A compelling argument you make! On some levels I am even convinced. But, of course we have now left off of ordinary discussion and have lapsed into philisophy haven't we? (probably much to the chagrin of the other message posters and readers.) So it comes down to the "nature of reality" and what it means to "know." And we could dance around to the music of morphology, solipsism, and ultimate truth! Lol! But I'll spare you that discussion, as I sense you have already had it.

So, to a degree you must be right of course, but also, to a degree, the theater lover who cannot go alone is watching two theaters--the one on stage, and the one in the seat beside him and it's the combination of the two that he enjoys best. And of course, if we can agree that we cannot enjoy one other's pleasure or pain directly, then we can also say that our motivations are self-motivated. I ejoy giving pleasure, because of what I get out of it. If I "sense" that my partner is getting pleasure out of it, then it makes me fell good (and that is the real and only motivation). I don't like giving pleasure, I like the feeling of giving someone else pleasure. In your case I might express it that you do not enjoy giving pain (since you certainly can't experience anyone elses pain) but that you enjoy the feeling that you get the emotion, the reaction. But I concede that that is probably drawing the line too close.

LAsub
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But in a free-will universe where we can't control the options, but always control the choice, then the sub can only choose what he or she wants. It's impossible to choose what they don't want because if they didn't want it (given their range of options) they wouldn't have choosen it.

So, subs are selfishly motivated, just like the rest of humanity? We do things for Dominants because it makes us feel good.

selfishLasub


But it isn't the case that my friend cannot go to the theatre alone. You smuggled that in. For shame!. He simply chooses not to. Maybe he's a cheap-ass and won't buy his own drinks at intermission, or maybe he made a promise to his dying mother. But honest to God when he settles into that seat he looks neither left nor right but just really plain and simple likes to watch plays.



Yeah, as I composed my response to you I referenced the old brains-in-vats argument for epistemological skepticism but wouldn't you know it the guy who owns my vat made me delete that part.

There is really no reason to accept your reductionist theory of human motivation. That is to say no formulation of logic would compel it in that your argument in favor of it is fatally flawed. You may certainly have your own personal psychological reasons to accept it, which are none of my business. You even pointed to the reason why there is no ((non-psycho) logical) reason to accept your argument when you said something like: "you can't wiggle out of it".

Let me back up a moment and point out that what is being relied upon at this point is analytic philosophy (whereas the main thrust of my post was a linguistic, not an analytic point--but hell you seem like a decent sort; we can talk this way for a bit if you like.) Analytic philosophers and scientists--people who rely on this modality to approach truth--have long recognized that any argument (or theory) must be in principle falsifiable to have probative value (be worth a rat's ass.) Yours, as you so generously reveal, is not in principle falsifiable. So it has no probative force. For the unwashed voyeurs in the audience, that means that when formally analyzed it don't prove nuthin'.

That isn't just this carpenter's opinion, all you uncritical relativists out there. It is an explanation of how one must proceed if one wants to call upon analytic philosophical moves to buttress a claim about what is true. Just like it wouldn't be a statement of opinion if I said you don't get five strikes at bat and double rent on Park Place in baseball.

That's the nature and failing of all reductionist arguments. They set the terms a certain way so that if you accept the terms the conclusion is not in dispute. It really isn't an argumentation at all. It is a kind of intellectual ambush for the unwary. I'm not calling you names or anything, because reductionist claims are often made by the unwary as well.

They look like ass-kicking arguments. But when looked at closely they yurn out to suck dead monkey dick. (It isn't that unmentionable practice if the monkey is dead, right? Or is that other practice unmentionable too?)

This is not to say that the claims made based on reductionist arguments are therefore false. They might just happen to be true. The point is that the argument made in favor of the claim is not actually supporting it. Like if I made some cockamamy theory about how my black rooster makes the sun appear over the horizon by crowing each morning, and then conclude that if my rooster crows tomorrow at first light then the sun will indeed rise. My claim about the sun's appearance may be right as rain but my argumentation is way fucked and lends no probative (proving-ish) force to my claim about the likely progress of tomorrow morning. (LASub4rEAL that digression was not intended for your benefit; please don't take offense.)

But if we're gonna dabble in analytic philosophy we had orta {I'll bet Hugh Laurie's character never says "orta," eh? though he may say aorta} confront its entire legacy, part of which is to refrain from accepting any truth claim on the basis of a reductionist argument.

I could just as well say that every time you THINK you're doing something for selfish reasons, deep down you are doing it to please someone else. If I decide to hold this, no counter-example will defeat me because what I call a conclusion is really just a premise appearing out of place and in a silly moustache. You can't wiggle out of it of my theory of altruism any more than I can wiggle out of your theory of selfishness. Not becaue "my" theory prooves shit--which it surely doesn't--but because it is no more than a little parlor game, a maze with no exit except the door you came in through, just like your theory.

I could reject your free-will universe in the same sort of way (as many have tried to do.)

We are made of physical stuff.
All stuff obey laws of physics.
Every thought and wiggle is the only thought or wiggle that could possibly follow the previous thought/wiggle, based upon the operation of those laws.

One can bring in post-newtonian physics to cloud the issue but it only moves the problem back behind one more curtain, to put it in FrankBaumian terms.

And it certainly holds no interest for me as a guy who rejects the theory of causation, but that's another thread.

Presented with two equally valid (?) arguments: your's for selfishness and mine for altruism, absent a good reason (objectively good, formally probative ... as opposed to "aligned with one's prejudice," for example) to prefer one we must either reject both or admit that we accept one for reasons that we might call pre-logical or supra-logical or whatever, but dispassionate reason, exercised to the extent of it's range, can't conclude that your reduction to selfishness is the deal.

The stab at argumentation which you and others make along your lines is as I said not an argumentation at all, in an important sense. Instead it cashes out as a statement of opinion dressed up in logical looking clothes.

So when we notice that both (your and "my") arguments are fatally flawed in their reductionist nature we must in good conscience reject them both--or admit to ourselves and others that we are taking the conclusion (which is really a premise, on faith.)

And this is cut and dried. The argument has NO probative value. It cannot even be entertained as one constructive element in an inductive proof.

The argument may serve to convince someone unclever or unschooled enough not to recognize its nature, but then a missionary's card tricks might serve to help convince a gullible convert. That doesn't mean that card tricks actually demonstrate the existence of God (though I could whip you up an unassailable reductionist argument to that effect if you are that masochistic.)

So you see, I also favor calling a thing what it is.

And yeah, this is philosophy we're doing now. And it is the crappy kind, in my opinion. I don't look to analytics for anything constructively worthwhile. But to use analytic tools to refute an analytic claim seems fair game. It is just good form to take your opponent on his own ground when you can, yeah?

By the way, we're doing analytic philosophy but some of us are trying to draw scientific conclusions about human psychology based on it. That's another sketchy enterprise, in my view.

But what the fuck; a subbie with a dexterous mind. That's the kind I like.
I'm confident that under the right hands you could be taught to think with precision--if your pride didn't get in the way. Since I've seen no evidence of anything but straightforwardness and a keen mind on your part I'd say the prognosis is encouraging {oops; that was probly way House-ian.}

I look forward to your future posts on whateverthehell takes your interest.



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RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? - 8/4/2006 6:59:31 PM   
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LASub.....Ummm.....I think you took the heat for my "wiggle" comment.  sorry!!

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