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Noah -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/4/2006 7:34:42 PM)


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ORIGINAL: marieToo

LASub.....Ummm.....I think you took the heat for my "wiggle" comment.  sorry!!


Ooops. My bad.

All the same I suspect he'd subscribe to it (get it: "subscribe").
You two are such intellectual bedfellows.

Under the right guidance, though, I could probably be taught to attribute clearly.

So anyway do you get it, marie?






LASub4Real -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/4/2006 7:56:15 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: marieToo

LASub.....Ummm.....I think you took the heat for my "wiggle" comment.  sorry!!


Mon plaisir. Aucune douleur est gaspillé dans le service d'une belle femme.

My pleasure. No suffering is wasted in service of a beautiful woman :-)
(everything sounds better in French.) lol.

LAsub




marieToo -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/4/2006 8:23:56 PM)

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marieToo -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/4/2006 10:33:41 PM)

Yes, I get it, Noah.   You went to see a play with a rooster who likes to cockadoodledo when the sun comes up.  So this dumb fucking rooster starts thinking that the sun comes up due to his calling it, but the fact is if a sun rises and no rooster is there to see it, it woulda fuckin risen any damn way, but given the fact that a dumb ass rooster isnt there to call it, everyone assumes that the sun didnt really rise.  Now,  this dumb fuckin rooster of yours loves to get beat but likes to think its for your pleasure and not his own. Since the rooster bends over to take your whipping but doesnt smile while its happening, it means that he didnt really like it, thereby proving that he did it all for you and was not self (rooster)-motivated.  




Noah -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/5/2006 12:01:16 AM)


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ORIGINAL: marieToo

Yes, I get it, Noah.   You went to see a play with a rooster who likes to cockadoodledo when the sun comes up.  So this dumb fucking rooster starts thinking that the sun comes up due to his calling it, but the fact is if a sun rises and no rooster is there to see it, it woulda fuckin risen any damn way, but given the fact that a dumb ass rooster isnt there to call it, everyone assumes that the sun didnt really rise.  Now,  this dumb fuckin rooster of yours loves to get beat but likes to think its for your pleasure and not his own. Since the rooster bends over to take your whipping but doesnt smile while its happening, it means that he didnt really like it, thereby proving that he did it all for you and was not self (rooster)-motivated.  


So glad to see that your sense of humor was returned all starched and pressed.




SenseofBelonging -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/5/2006 9:05:25 AM)

i do not enjoy the sting of Her crop, but i crave Her administration of punishment. i do not enjoy the pain as She pounds into me with Her strapon, but i crave Her use of me. it's not the pain i crave, it is Her attention and i will submit to anything She desires to gain it.




LASub4Real -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/5/2006 1:36:15 PM)


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But it isn't the case that my friend cannot go to the theatre alone. You smuggled that in. For shame!. He simply chooses not to. Maybe he's a cheap-ass and won't buy his own drinks at intermission, or maybe he made a promise to his dying mother. But honest to God when he settles into that seat he looks neither left nor right but just really plain and simple likes to watch plays.

Yeah, as I composed my response to you I referenced the old brains-in-vats argument for epistemological skepticism but wouldn't you know it the guy who owns my vat made me delete that part.

There is really no reason to accept your reductionist theory of human motivation. That is to say no formulation of logic would compel it in that your argument in favor of it is fatally flawed. You may certainly have your own personal psychological reasons to accept it, which are none of my business. You even pointed to the reason why there is no ((non-psycho) logical) reason to accept your argument when you said something like: "you can't wiggle out of it".

Let me back up a moment and point out that what is being relied upon at this point is analytic philosophy (whereas the main thrust of my post was a linguistic, not an analytic point--but hell you seem like a decent sort; we can talk this way for a bit if you like.) Analytic philosophers and scientists--people who rely on this modality to approach truth--have long recognized that any argument (or theory) must be in principle falsifiable to have probative value (be worth a rat's ass.) Yours, as you so generously reveal, is not in principle falsifiable. So it has no probative force. For the unwashed voyeurs in the audience, that means that when formally analyzed it don't prove nuthin'.

That isn't just this carpenter's opinion, all you uncritical relativists out there. It is an explanation of how one must proceed if one wants to call upon analytic philosophical moves to buttress a claim about what is true. Just like it wouldn't be a statement of opinion if I said you don't get five strikes at bat and double rent on Park Place in baseball.

That's the nature and failing of all reductionist arguments. They set the terms a certain way so that if you accept the terms the conclusion is not in dispute. It really isn't an argumentation at all. It is a kind of intellectual ambush for the unwary. I'm not calling you names or anything, because reductionist claims are often made by the unwary as well.

They look like ass-kicking arguments. But when looked at closely they yurn out to suck dead monkey dick. (It isn't that unmentionable practice if the monkey is dead, right? Or is that other practice unmentionable too?)

This is not to say that the claims made based on reductionist arguments are therefore false. They might just happen to be true. The point is that the argument made in favor of the claim is not actually supporting it. Like if I made some cockamamy theory about how my black rooster makes the sun appear over the horizon by crowing each morning, and then conclude that if my rooster crows tomorrow at first light then the sun will indeed rise. My claim about the sun's appearance may be right as rain but my argumentation is way fucked and lends no probative (proving-ish) force to my claim about the likely progress of tomorrow morning. (LASub4rEAL that digression was not intended for your benefit; please don't take offense.)

But if we're gonna dabble in analytic philosophy we had orta {I'll bet Hugh Laurie's character never says "orta," eh? though he may say aorta} confront its entire legacy, part of which is to refrain from accepting any truth claim on the basis of a reductionist argument.

I could just as well say that every time you THINK you're doing something for selfish reasons, deep down you are doing it to please someone else. If I decide to hold this, no counter-example will defeat me because what I call a conclusion is really just a premise appearing out of place and in a silly moustache. You can't wiggle out of it of my theory of altruism any more than I can wiggle out of your theory of selfishness. Not becaue "my" theory prooves shit--which it surely doesn't--but because it is no more than a little parlor game, a maze with no exit except the door you came in through, just like your theory.

I could reject your free-will universe in the same sort of way (as many have tried to do.)

We are made of physical stuff.
All stuff obey laws of physics.
Every thought and wiggle is the only thought or wiggle that could possibly follow the previous thought/wiggle, based upon the operation of those laws.

One can bring in post-newtonian physics to cloud the issue but it only moves the problem back behind one more curtain, to put it in FrankBaumian terms.

And it certainly holds no interest for me as a guy who rejects the theory of causation, but that's another thread.

Presented with two equally valid (?) arguments: your's for selfishness and mine for altruism, absent a good reason (objectively good, formally probative ... as opposed to "aligned with one's prejudice," for example) to prefer one we must either reject both or admit that we accept one for reasons that we might call pre-logical or supra-logical or whatever, but dispassionate reason, exercised to the extent of it's range, can't conclude that your reduction to selfishness is the deal.

The stab at argumentation which you and others make along your lines is as I said not an argumentation at all, in an important sense. Instead it cashes out as a statement of opinion dressed up in logical looking clothes.

So when we notice that both (your and "my") arguments are fatally flawed in their reductionist nature we must in good conscience reject them both--or admit to ourselves and others that we are taking the conclusion (which is really a premise, on faith.)

And this is cut and dried. The argument has NO probative value. It cannot even be entertained as one constructive element in an inductive proof.

The argument may serve to convince someone unclever or unschooled enough not to recognize its nature, but then a missionary's card tricks might serve to help convince a gullible convert. That doesn't mean that card tricks actually demonstrate the existence of God (though I could whip you up an unassailable reductionist argument to that effect if you are that masochistic.)

So you see, I also favor calling a thing what it is.

And yeah, this is philosophy we're doing now. And it is the crappy kind, in my opinion. I don't look to analytics for anything constructively worthwhile. But to use analytic tools to refute an analytic claim seems fair game. It is just good form to take your opponent on his own ground when you can, yeah?

By the way, we're doing analytic philosophy but some of us are trying to draw scientific conclusions about human psychology based on it. That's another sketchy enterprise, in my view.

But what the fuck; a subbie with a dexterous mind. That's the kind I like.
I'm confident that under the right hands you could be taught to think with precision--if your pride didn't get in the way. Since I've seen no evidence of anything but straightforwardness and a keen mind on your part I'd say the prognosis is encouraging {oops; that was probly way House-ian.}

I look forward to your future posts on whateverthehell takes your interest.


Aha! You HAVE been philosphying!! Brain's in a vat indeed... Descartes Demon revisited? Obviously the beneficiary of classical education. Unless of course, the low enzym levels in our brain cannisters are playing tricks on our minds, and we're not even having this dialog :-)

But I agree, of course, that we are now demontrating the weakness of philiosophical arguement. It all collapses in upon the language in the end and the context in which the language is both meant and understood. Is the sky blue? Or does the atmospher simply filter out the longer wavelengths from our eyes leaving us with a perception of blue? Is El Capitan solid rock? Or should we argue that it is more air than atoms at a sub-atomic level?

It puts us into the unfortuante circumstance of having to answer every question both "Yes and "No." So language becomes less meaningful rather than more.

Yes you like giving pain, but then, no you don't either (if you look at it another way).
Yes I like giving pleasure, unless of course, I really don't (because there's a whole other way to understand it).

So is it reality that is imprecise or is it just the language?

Thank you sir, for a rigorous intellectual workout!
I'll have to more careful when making philosophical arguments as I know you will always be more than ready to keep me honest! lol!

LaSub







marieToo -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/5/2006 1:47:56 PM)

I gotta get off this thread.  I keep backspacing.

lol.




KnightofMists -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/15/2006 9:11:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LASub4Real

So, to a degree you must be right of course, but also, to a degree, the theater lover who cannot go alone is watching two theaters--the one on stage, and the one in the seat beside him and it's the combination of the two that he enjoys best. And of course, if we can agree that we cannot enjoy one other's pleasure or pain directly, then we can also say that our motivations are self-motivated. I ejoy giving pleasure, because of what I get out of it. If I "sense" that my partner is getting pleasure out of it, then it makes me fell good (and that is the real and only motivation). I don't like giving pleasure, I like the feeling of giving someone else pleasure. In your case I might express it that you do not enjoy giving pain (since you certainly can't experience anyone elses pain) but that you enjoy the feeling that you get the emotion, the reaction. But I concede that that is probably drawing the line too close.

LAsub


your pain is but a perception.  An internal perception but a perception none the less.

I touch you... and you feel my touch... I feel your skin and feel my skin as I touch you.  we each have the perception of that touch.  But, is the perception of the touch the same.  I say no.  We touch each other but our perceptions are more than just the physical senses.. it also includes the emotional and mental thoughts that go with that touch.  Even our physical senses will be different.  I with my callous finger feel you smooth thigh... but your smooth skin feels my callous finger upon your skin.

Perceptions are unique to each individual.  When I say I enjoy causing pain.  I enjoy the perceptions I gain from inflecting pain upon a consenting individuals.  Perceptions that include external (your reactions) but also those thoughts and feelings that are internal generated.  All are perceptions of the experience.  Do I enjoy your pain.  NO.. For I do not percieve your pain.  I enjoy the causing of your pain and it is "Causing" your pain that I percieve.




captiveplatypus -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/15/2006 9:22:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HerTexasBoss

A couple of weeks ago I posted a message about my sub and how she was having trouble embracing the fact that she liked pain.  Most of the response centered on talking with her and getting her in contact with other subs.

As we have continued to talk, it is seeming to emerge that what is REALLY turning her on is not the pain...but the act of submission itself.  she doesn't get soaking wet because she enjoys the whipping or hot wax....she doesn't enjoy it....it seems she gets soaking wet because she is being dominated and submissive. 

Are there other subs on this board that that is true for....it's not the pain or the enjoyment of the activity, but the submission and domination that turns you on.  Perhaps you could careless about the bondage, whippings, etc....it's the sheer act of submission that does it for you??

If any of you could shed light on this or share your thoughts I'd appreciate it.

Thanks
HerTexasBoss


Without reading the rest of this thread I would have to say that pain has to do with being a masochist or not.  Submission is something seperate.  I am submissive because I like being dominated.  If I liked being in pain, I would be a masochist.




Slipstreme -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/15/2006 9:40:12 PM)

I'm in it for the pain experience only. I do not submit to anyone. In my family I am a Master of one, Dom to two. I just occassionally also need my dose of pain, something I keep reminding my slave, for when she moves in with me: She will have to become my Sadist, an act she is not in the slightest comfortable with. I equally enjoy inflicting, but she is the only person who gets to see the depth of my sadism, mostly for health concerns of playing with multiple bottoms, but also, because I know there are some things I can share with her, and no other.




SusanofO -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/15/2006 10:10:04 PM)

Noah, you are a lot like Dr. House (I think). Keep up the good work! (really).
[:)]
- Susan




MasterNdorei -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/18/2006 12:03:03 PM)

i am a mix of both... sometimes it is the helplessness i feel in the moment of impact, sometimes it is the sensation after the extreme pain that becomes yummy... it could be a mixture of both.





onestandingstill -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/18/2006 12:55:43 PM)

I too get hotter from the fact I'm pleasing a Dom and letting him enjoy me more than the actual whack's sensation in heavy play.
It's still incredibly hot for me, but not the same as it is for someone who enjoys the pain stimulation for it's own purpose.
Suzanne




KnifeCandy -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (8/18/2006 7:46:14 PM)

It is definitely a mix for me...some sorts of pain I enjoy very much (such as having my neck bitten), others I can manage to enjoy only because I see the evil grin they put on my Dom's face. The funny thing is, what led me to this experience in the first place was neither pain nor submission, but helplessness. I have often felt that I would do/endure incredible amounts just to be helpless. I suppose "helpless" is just another way of saying "submissive," to some folks, but for me, right now, they are still separate concepts, as I have been helpless (e.g. tied up) with non-dominant lovers, and very much enjoyed that experience too.




SlaveSubtoserve -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (1/20/2007 1:57:02 PM)

Well for me its both but primarily the submission, as i don't get a rush from the pain if i order it up ie in a bottom/top scene--- i need the submission to give it life---- and then it just becomes a live circuit flowing from submission to pain and back again climbing the emotional ladder!  Also pain accentuates the connection with my Domme so .... golly.... its so intertwined .....as it also serves as a way of control intense control so,,,,,,




SirPhotographer -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (1/24/2007 9:21:08 AM)

  1. In the anatomy of the brain, the center for pain is extrememly close to the pimbid region (pleasure center).  In some people the the two will be close enough that pain will stimulate the limbid region.  If done correctly a sub can be taught to associate pain wtih pleasure and enjoy the results. 




gypsygrl -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (1/24/2007 9:30:10 AM)

Pain, in and of itself, isn't a sexual turn on for me.   My best s & m scenes have been totally asexual and I had no desire for sex.  I really get into pain, but not in that way.  I can perform sexually after a scene, but I don't feel it sexually.  Its just an extension of the scene.

Submission is a different story.  It can be combined with pain or not, but, either way its a turn on.




Bearlee -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (1/24/2007 11:09:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HerTexasBoss

A couple of weeks ago I posted a message about my sub and how she was having trouble embracing the fact that she liked pain.  Most of the response centered on talking with her and getting her in contact with other subs.

As we have continued to talk, it is seeming to emerge that what is REALLY turning her on is not the pain...but the act of submission itself.  she doesn't get soaking wet because she enjoys the whipping or hot wax....she doesn't enjoy it....it seems she gets soaking wet because she is being dominated and submissive. 

Are there other subs on this board that that is true for....it's not the pain or the enjoyment of the activity, but the submission and domination that turns you on.  Perhaps you could careless about the bondage, whippings, etc....it's the sheer act of submission that does it for you??

If any of you could shed light on this or share your thoughts I'd appreciate it.

Thanks


quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

It is absolutely my submission to his dominance that does it for me.  There are many things he does with/to me that I would never ever subscribe to on my own.  They are not fantasies of mine in and of themselves.  They are not turn-ons for me.  However, doing them out of my submission to him...well that lights my inner fire and ultimately sets me at a wonderful sense of peace.  I am not a fan of physical pain, and not a masochist by any means.  But the deeper I submit to him, the more I seem to be able to endure, and when such acts are taking place, again - it is not the pain or the act that heats me up, but the deep feeling of submission and the overwhelming feeling of his power over me.

 
I realize I’ve already responded on this thread…but am pleased to see it has been revived; because somehow I missed ownedgirlie’s post.  Wow…yet another time, girl, you have said what I feel far more eloquently than I was able.
 
For me it is the power and control he has over me.  Odd, too, because I sometimes play very hard, much to the chagrin of the newbies who may be around.  I cry and I cry hard; I sob, I beg him to quit; I tell him ‘no, no, no, no’.  He laughs and ignores me; we both know neither tears nor ‘no’ are safewords. 
 
While I have learned that a ‘beating’ does not have to leave marks, it is the existence of those marks that remind me for days later how much I enjoy enduring whatever it is he sets for me.  Sometimes it is merely humiliation, (merely?  Ha!) that he uses to express his control over me…and I still get wet, yet there is no physical pain at all.  It just amazes me…
 
When I’m asked for my fantasies, to state the kind of things I enjoy during play…I can hardly come up with a response because it is pleasing him that I enjoy. I love the Sadistic twinkle or smile he shows when he embarrasses me or torments me physically.  I want to do what HE enjoys…not so much something that he thinks pleases me.  I want to be the vessel…or the target; I am a pleaser.
 
HerTexasBoss…thank you for a wonderful thread.
 
owned…thank you for this summery:  “- it is not the pain or the act that heats me up, but the deep feeling of submission and the overwhelming feeling of his power over me.”
 
I agree wholeheartedly,
b




akisha -> RE: Is it the Pain or the Act of Submission??? (1/24/2007 11:43:29 AM)

~FR~
In simple terms

Submitting makes me feel comforted and calm and like i'm finally in the right place.

Pain to a certain degree is what turns me on and makes my body humm





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