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ORIGINAL: SusanofO
The woman is desperate.

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ORIGINAL: pebbleskajira

Okay...a BIG problem.
i am owned and collared, and live with my Owner. Well, He ignores me completely, we fight all the time, apparently has no concept of how to handle money, so that we are always flat broke and have like next to nothing..no heat for the winter, no phone, etc. The only thing he has managed to keep on is the electricity. And i understand that it is sometimes difficult to run a household, but i make enough to do it. I've been here for a year--sometimes working two jobs, and for several months he got fired and made no attempt to get another job, even though we had no money, and i was working myself to death. Finally, i managed to get him a job --a paper route--(in my name, not his) and now he wants to quit it (after only 6 months), with no notice, which leaves me in breach of contract. And i'm having alot of problems with his ex-wife--who lives next door to us, since they are like the best of buddies--since she came over to our house and assaulted me. He wasnt there, i called the police, and he was mad at ME, who was injured, for having her arrested. It has caused lots of arguments. Anyways, she wants to kill me, i'm not safe, so we made the decision that i am moving back home (another state) and he is joining me in a couple of months. Of course, when we fight, he is all like "go there and stay alone" and i am tired of being ignored ALL THE TIME, and then there is like no intimacy between us, so extreme that i have to ask for kisses, and even then its all quick, chaste, mwah. And he has no grooming habits. Seriously. He has long hair and its allways matted to the point where it puts itself into missmatched dreds, and he hardly ever changes clothes or showers. I know it seems like i am ranting, but this is really the state of affairs here.
Now, inadvertantly, i got another offer to serve another Master, who has a squared away life (not a paperboy) and is offering me a job, a place to live, training (which my Master has never done--weird). It seems like the better option, honestly, but i feel really bad about going kinda sorta behind Master's back about it--even though He looks for other slaves.

So...any suggestions? Help!

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ORIGINAL: pebbleskajira

Okay...a BIG problem.
i am owned and collared, and live with my Owner. Well, He ignores me completely, we fight all the time, apparently has no concept of how to handle money, so that we are always flat broke and have like next to nothing..no heat for the winter, no phone, etc. The only thing he has managed to keep on is the electricity. And i understand that it is sometimes difficult to run a household, but i make enough to do it. I've been here for a year--sometimes working two jobs, and for several months he got fired and made no attempt to get another job, even though we had no money, and i was working myself to death. Finally, i managed to get him a job --a paper route--(in my name, not his) and now he wants to quit it (after only 6 months), with no notice, which leaves me in breach of contract. And i'm having alot of problems with his ex-wife--who lives next door to us, since they are like the best of buddies--since she came over to our house and assaulted me. He wasnt there, i called the police, and he was mad at ME, who was injured, for having her arrested. It has caused lots of arguments. Anyways, she wants to kill me, i'm not safe, so we made the decision that i am moving back home (another state) and he is joining me in a couple of months. Of course, when we fight, he is all like "go there and stay alone" and i am tired of being ignored ALL THE TIME, and then there is like no intimacy between us, so extreme that i have to ask for kisses, and even then its all quick, chaste, mwah. And he has no grooming habits. Seriously. He has long hair and its allways matted to the point where it puts itself into missmatched dreds, and he hardly ever changes clothes or showers. I know it seems like i am ranting, but this is really the state of affairs here.
Now, inadvertantly, i got another offer to serve another Master, who has a squared away life (not a paperboy) and is offering me a job, a place to live, training (which my Master has never done--weird). It seems like the better option, honestly, but i feel really bad about going kinda sorta behind Master's back about it--even though He looks for other slaves.

So...any suggestions? Help!

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Just tell "Master Paper Route" you're leaving or just leave!
How old is this guy that he's delivering papers???
He sounds like a bum. A "Loosah without a Pazooza."
No heat in the winter?
Ex-wife assaulted you? Why? Because she wants him *BACK*???
Paul Simon wrote a song about this.
"Get on the bus, Gus."
" Find a new plan, Stan."
"Get a new key, Lee"

SHEESH!!!

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ORIGINAL: eroticangel

JessieMe....i think you said it all...or at least my very thoughts.!!!

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

My take on this: Maybe that's true. But- this isn't a relationship of any real quality - it takes two people to create one, and this guy really seems like he doesn't even really know he's in one, frankly. He seems like a blatantly uncaring Loser (to me), and as such has pretty much tossed his "rights" out the window, along with his said 'Masterliness'.

If Dominant two knows the score, and why she is leaving, isn't that important to consider as well? The woman is desperate. I think she might want to not make any promises to Dominant number two. If said Dominant is worth his salt, he may just be helping her re-adjust to life after this bozo has helped ruin it for her - maybe it will work out, maybe not. Anything  sounds better (to me) than where she's at now. But, you're right about not blindly leaping - and Dominant number two - well, she might want to find out just what His expectations are going to be of her (and try to make sure she knows if she can live with them).

That being said - I think the advice about just being alone and taking time to 'regroup' is very valid also.

- Susan