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RE: Tell the truth.. - 8/4/2006 7:13:41 AM

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Interesting topic. I don't have much to contribute since I haven't gone through menopause yet. The bad news? My mom hit the change when she was 35. I don't know if I want to follow that pattern or not.

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RE: Tell the truth.. - 8/5/2006 11:44:17 PM

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Thanks to all of you who responded with a lot of truth, best wishes, and suggestions. I'm relieved to hear that there are many of us currently going through this and some who have already laid a trail ;) It's good to not feel alone in this. Obviously many super ladies have survived it and I believe I will too; at least many of you have given me hope that I will and perhaps you've helped my dominant believe that he will too. lol.

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RE: Tell the truth.. - 8/6/2006 4:19:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: themischievous1

For the rest of you ladies and gentlemen who haven't experienced menopause or who know nothing about it, give me your thoughts on how you would deal with a submissive/slave who is being affected by mood swings, hot flashes, mild depression, anxiety, serious irritability, and headaches for the first time in her life.

Two words: Duct Tape.

On a serious note, I have been with several women in my life who were going through / went through menopause. The first of these seemed to paint her various symptoms (hot flashes, etc) on me and then attack me verbally for how she was feeling. The second of these was afflicted with the complete loss of all sexual desire.

For me, the most heartbreaking aspect of dealing with a person going through a medical or psychiatric issue is when they fail to take responsibility for what they are feeling, as well as failing to communicate with me as to what she is feeling. I have nursed damaged or ill people back to health, and the feedback I have received is that I am caring and easygoing and do what needs to be done. I have also been the recipient of exactly the opposite sort of treatment when I was recovering from a nasty illness years ago.

Accordingly, I know how not to treat somebody going through a rough time.

To answer your question, I would ask her to a) tell the truth about how or what she is feeling and b) take ownership of her feelings.

Then we can work through it as a team.

Just me, etc.

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RE: Tell the truth.. - 8/6/2006 9:55:20 PM

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Greetings......

i am happy to be able to announce that i have survived menopause.....in the most intense part of the process.....i seemed to lose my coping skills...to a great degree....i had a very unique way of handling the emotions i was unable to manage in my usual manner....it got me through those days.....with most of my sanity....and kept me out of jail for physcial assault.......*jk*.....see....i even got my sense of humor back....

i have to say...that i am glad it is behind me.... every woman has a different experience......just as they do with pregnancy and childbirth......all part of life's journey...women are strong and resilient creatures....and in the end......this too shall pass.....

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RE: Tell the truth.. - 8/7/2006 6:02:25 AM

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Excellent thread, and wonderful varying opinions and advice. i just recently (2 weeks ago) went through the last of medically induced full blown menopause. The doctor immediately put me on HRT (despite my worry over them), and i am scared to death of them. i am researching other options as well HRT benefits versus the downfall's. i suffered with endometriosis and perimenopause for years (8 yrs), so i think i can handle this compared to that pain and hell. i am just scared to death, of the side affects of the dreaded "M," but even more scared of what HRT can cause. i will continue watching this thread, and thanks to all that have posted here.

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RE: Tell the truth.. - 8/7/2006 10:22:31 AM

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Hello themischievous1,

The menopause crept up on me at around 37 yrs...it took a while before I realised what it was, as I'd not long had my 5 th baby and had just finished breast feeding.

I chose the wrong day to go to the Doctors with my queries, as they were very rushed and I was handed a video to watch at home.....which was about a silver-haired couple coping with all these seemingly horrific symptoms.

I remember being curled up in an armchair watching it and sobbing with a houseful of children and babies.

To cut a boring story short......... I took the video back and was advised to take HRT, which I did.......and life went on pretty much as normal.

The positive things.....the hot flashes stopped, the night-sweats stopped. Annoyingly, my periods returned....I became a little more forgetful than normal, but as I've always been a scatty person, it didn't make a great deal of noticable difference.....lol.

I read somewhere, around that time, as my libido lessened, that having orgasms was quite important to keeping libido alive and well...........I took that extremely seriously and looked after that side of things in the best ways I could........LOL

I don't know if my moods were affected to a huge degree.....it was a busy, time with four children anyway, so at that time I didn't attribute any rattiness to the menopause, just to being run ragged by a large family etc.

I remember as the eldest sprogs hit their teens that we decided that if Mama couldn't behave badly because of HER hormones, then nor could they. So *hormones* weren't allowed to be used as an excuse for bad or stroppy behaviour....lol.

Anyhow, I've been on HRT for around 9 yrs........I'm healthy, active and nothing too shocking or traumatic occured through it.

My Mum had an early menopause, but so far, I'm the only one of her three daughters that has been affected. My sisters are 41 and 46 yrs and there's no sign of it for either of them as yet.

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RE: Tell the truth.. - 8/8/2006 4:35:15 PM

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Got this as part of an email on aging, love it:

"I don't have hot flashes, I have short private vacations in the tropics"

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RE: Tell the truth.. - 8/8/2006 4:40:48 PM

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I don't know.

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