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RE: New Dom - Please Help - 12/19/2004 12:57:47 AM

roughleather

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I can't believe that people take on-line "domination" seriously. That's pathetic.

Real life games are much livelier. The "Gorean" thing can be fun. And edgy. Show her the collar. Tell her that while she wears the collar, she can't say no. Then ask her to kneel to be collared. Once she accepts the collar, use her as you wish, and don't worry too much about her feelings. That's the kick of Gorean. From the man's side, it's the kick of power and casual cruelty. From the woman's side, it's the kick of losing control. If you have compatible turn-ons, the sex can get out of control. It's not nice. It's raw. It's animal. It's really good.

This is something you do with a lover you know and trust. And someone who's sane, cold sober, and not insecure. With a strong woman, it's an incredible experience. Sometimes it won't work out, and you need to accept that it might not. You need to be able to laugh together about the mess when it doesn't.

But "Gorean IRC" is silly.

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RE: New Dom - Please Help - 12/19/2004 1:33:12 AM

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someone, anyone, 7 Long Island Ice Teas and a pack of Lucky Strikes before I can reply to this. Good stuff on the things the rest of you have written

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RE: New Dom - Please Help - 12/19/2004 4:00:01 AM

heroslilone

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Just a couple of facts,comments and questions I have on this subject:

Doesn't any experiance, good or bad, qualify as experiance?

Does being an Experianced Dom\me give you the right to be rude to a not so Experianced Dom\me?

There are a few people in life that can't leave their home for one reason or another, but can still attend an Emunch (as I'd like to call chat rooms on bdsm sites) and meet someone they don't know but want to get to know them.

I'm NOT perfect. Are Y\you?

I've heard several people say "there are NO dumb questions" Is that true?

There are those that have advice to SHARE, and those the choose to make themselves look better.

Who here has been NEW to something?

Thank you for your time.

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RE: New Dom - Please Help - 12/19/2004 4:38:54 AM

MemphisDsCouple

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Frankly, in reading the message board I've noticed a goodly measure of that on here.

In fairness, and to maintain a balance, I have also observed that there are some regular posters who are thoughtful, considerate, polite, knowledgeable and well-written. In fact, I think this is one of the best discussion boards around.

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My advice to some of you; don't judge before you know the facts.

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RE: New Dom - Please Help - 12/28/2004 6:59:08 AM

OrientalMistress

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If you like, you may contact Me...a Domme of many years experience at [email protected].

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RE: New Dom - Please Help - 1/16/2005 1:49:49 PM

DiamondDiva

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Wow Jules,

I knew you were extremely outgoing when it comes to conversation but "creative in storytelling too?" LOL

LOL You know I love you Jules and you are absolutely right, there will be a story to tell.

I don't particulary knock online D/s relationships but I don't entertain it. Only because there really isn't any way to have the key element [control] over the sub.

But to each his own.

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RE: New Dom - Please Help - 1/17/2005 1:54:27 AM

Samizdat

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My best advice to you, Lazlo, without presuming to lecture someone but a year younger than myself, is:

Don't waste the spark of life online; don't waste the spark of life online; and most of all, don't waste the spark of life online.

Be well

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RE: New Dom - Please Help - 1/17/2005 1:40:06 PM

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i started reading E/everyone's replies, and started to get confused. So i am going to simply reply to the new Dom.
From my experience, thinking on when i was new, i had enormous amounts of curiousity. The first thing i did, incidently the day that i new this lifestyle was for me, i was in a chat room. i asked about where i could go and read about the life i was wishing to begin, there was i believe Mistress Fire, that posted some very good sites. i would read those. They will indeed give You a good grasp of things.
But as with everything, reading..online.. is much different from doing things in real life. Much harder...whatever it is O/one may find it to be.
Perhaps, as some have mentioned that You may not present a true picture to the sub....very likely she , he ..whoever is sitting on the other end...and not "really" doing the things You have set her to do.
Interaction: the line that is to be drawn to determined by the involved Dom & sub. You go as far as You and she are comfortable with. Does it require that she call You when she wakes, what to eat, wear? Or simply an evening exchange of what did You do today? Did You accomplish the things i set you to do?
Assignment ideas: This may get repetitive, and i apologize... but it drive this point home... You choice of assignment ideas are as varied and open as Your imagination lets You be. wash the baseboards....take a long bath, preparing herself, as if You where really coming over or she going to You.... Online, is for imagination if nothing else. So go ahead and use it.
Punishment: Again, imagination... silly, embarrassing, to painful, strict, and creative. It really depends onn her and what she dislikes. Example... my Master would never (says He) punish me by spanking me....i like that. Therefore, it is not much of a punishment now is it. Because no matter how it hurts my heart, or is harder than normal.... some little part...likes it. However as silly as it sounds i have been made to simply put my finger on a wall. i must be totally quiet until told i may stop. This is embarrassing and very hard for me. It's mental, you are staring at your finger..thinking about what you have done, and being quiet (as O/one can tell by the length of my reply

) is very very hard for me.

All said i wish you luck, i found online in the end, unfullfilling, but that is just me. i can't pass judgement on what fullfills You, that is just for You to decide. Though i think that if Your wife was ok with reg. socializing.... You may enjoy finding and connecting with the community. But i mention this only that i made a lot of really good friends this way. And not everything is play... movies, dinner out also.

Good luck!!!

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