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Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 1:05:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		Recently, a friend of mine told me about something i find interesting:

the slave, her Master and Mistress are in a 24/7 and  are on Collarme, searching for another to add to the family.  her Master contacted someone on this site, and when the girl messaged Him back, one of the first things she did was insult His slave for using "cyberprotocol" in her profile (the W/we, Y/you kind of stuff, it's the way she was taught a long time ago and it's just stuck with her), the Master messaged her back, she shot off a not-so-nice message and then blocked Him.  He went under His slave's profile and messaged her a reply, she sent another message back and blocked Him....ok..you get the idea....in all, a total of 5 messages i  believe were sent by Him to this girl in a span of about 30 minutes.  In her last message, she said she was going to report Him to her local group.   (yes, i agree that the whole thing could have been handled a little differently maybe by Him, but that is neither here nor there at this point.) 

Now, here's the good part, another friend of mine (that knows i am friends with the slave) told me that the girl then went to her "submissives group" meeting (face to face r/t meeting), took the "messages" with her and showed them, saying He scared her and that she had to delete her ID because of it and my friend's Master is now on a "Dangerous Master"  list of some kind.....saying He is a "Stalker" and not to be trusted.  Now, i've dealt with a stalker before, r/t, and it consisted of a LOT more than a few emails over 30 minutes....i've even had problems online before, but "ignore" and "Block" work wonders for those people.  This wouldn't be a problem, except that my friend and her Dominants live in the same state as the accuser and occassionally attend functions in that area.  Now they're worried that the next time they try to attend, this girl is going to get them banned over a few messages (she claims to be a  member of a few groups in that area and said she was going to report Him to all of the groups). 

Does anyone else think this is going a bit too far for Him to be labeled a "stalker" or is this a new generation's definition of stalking? 

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 1:39:17 AM   
Mavis


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Status: offline 		LOL> Poor guy.  Seems like He has that "Other" fault common in big D's.  "in ability to not have the last word or admit to being wrong"

Why in hell did He continue to harrass the girl after she blocked Him once?  (said with a amazed shake of head, not angry offended tone, that's diff)  i do think it's overkill she is flipping.   so He might not be a stalker  but maybe He kind of deserves to be object de ridicule for a month for acting like a jerk.  If she does report Him to her local group, maybe they could just suspend Him, like corner time for Dominant in bad form.

i do think half the community would be understanding if T/they hear the whole story...  most know that if one attacks Masters property, He (or She) is going to get reactive.   The whole thing will probably die down even if she does manage to spread it around the state.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 1:50:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		He was harrasing her after she'd blocked him, When someone blocks you from contacting thema nd you use many other nick names to go pester them that's not Dominant apropriate behavior.


But to say he scares her and she had to leave is Balogney.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 1:59:17 AM   
JustaDom


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Status: offline 		One would hope that as an adult oriented lifestyle the people involved would act like adults.  If this is what is actually going on, and at best this is second and third hand information, I'd suggest if they love unnecessary drama this much to leave the scene and direct their energy into community theater.  If these people met at at an event or party I was hosting and brought this kind of drama in my home or a venue that I was responsible for, I'd ask all of them to leave.

Your post ends with the presuming question that the girl is at fault for over-reacting.  Both parties decided to go to further than is necessary and on more than one occasion.  If this is what they feel is appropriate behavior, I doubt they would be much of a loss to their communities.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 2:02:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sounds like drama.  Obviously she was not interested and would therefore no longer be of  interest to him so that's just weird and silly for him to continue to message her.  Why would he be so riled up over a girl he doesn't even know? 

She sounds rude and he sounds immature in his position.  They both need to drop it and get on with life.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 2:14:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		Obviously, they both need something to do with their time, just like we do for discussing this.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 2:48:14 AM   
CaveatViewAskew


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Status: offline 		The drama smells like so much kiddie doo-doo so, I'd say "Off with both of their heads!"

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 3:04:25 AM   
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She sounds rude and he sounds immature in his position.  They both need to drop it and get on with life.

Gosh if people in the scene actually lived like this, we really WOULD be able to say we're better than vanillas.

I completely agree- running to a subs group with freakin EMAILS that made her all squishy and get on some rubbish "bad dom" list...conveniently forgetting her initial insults to start with...how lame ass middle school can you get?

Sure, the dom was stupid also- but together they created a drama shit storm and both need to get put away in the corner until they can learn how to act like adults.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 4:34:33 AM   
bignipples2share


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Status: offline 		Okay, if the person got blocked the first time, maybe I could see them trying to go for a second shot to rectify what may have been taken wrong in the original letter, beyond that, it is harassement.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 5:30:12 AM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		Yes, it is a little overboard, they need to shake hands and drop it.
She sounds like a drama queen seeking attention.
Some people have all the fun!
I NEVER get "stalked!"

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 5:36:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Based solely on their reported behaviour....
she is a pathetic little drama queen.
he is an idiot who got what he asked for.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 5:38:57 AM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		She drew first blood and didn't expect a reaction? 

He faulted himself in being hell bent on getting the last word. 

They both are in the wrong.

Let's just give cyberville it's due.. which is NOTHING :) 
(just a bunch of perturbed pixels!)

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 5:41:55 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		All of you people are scaring me and I am going to report you all...............
You are all dangerous people.

Oh, the fuckin' humanity................

This is worse than the Hindenburg disaster.  My psyche is forever damaged.

The whole fuckoree needs to do kindergarden all over again in that bunch.

Ron

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 5:42:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		He should make copies of all the emails, his and hers, staple them together and put them in a drawer and forget it. If the time comes that he needs some kind of proof of his side of the story he has it.

Goodness! You mean none of them had any REAL problems that day?

TN

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 5:48:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ah, I was going to post something here, but realized benji was right.  What everybody said!

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 5:51:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Without knowing what he said to her it's impossible to say whether or not he's guilty of stalking. He did use another profile to contact her after she blocked him (what part of  NO did he not understand?). Did he threaten her? Did he make accusations about whether or not he thought she was a real slave, etc? Since we don't know I'm not going to pass judgement on either of them. Sounds like a lot of high school drama to me.

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Does anyone else think this is going a bit too far for Him to be labeled a "stalker" or is this a new generation's definition of stalking? 


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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 6:02:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		This sounds to me like both of them went way overboard. The Dominant should have stopped after being blocked the first time, I mean after all what was the person trying to say to him when she blocked him. The submissive although she had some reason for being upset about receiving more messages, should not have reacted so harshly to it. Outing someone to several groups for 5 e-mails is going a bit overboard unless there was something in the e-mails that was threatening.  

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 6:26:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, this doesn't even come close to "stalking."
Boy, that's an overused word these days isn't it? Almost like ***RED FLAG*** lol
Also, she should be carefull about accusing someone of that in the way she did.
There is an overabundance of lawyers out there looking for any type of lawsuit like this and someone who does what she did is putting themselves in legal jeopardy by accusing someone of that based on only 5 e-mails.

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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 6:31:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		~pauses, gets some popcorn and sits down to watch people talking about people that have drama, which is almost as enjoyable as just watching the people have drama, but with zero trans fat~
 
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RE: Is this going a bit too far? - 8/4/2006 6:33:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah, but the pocorn????  Trans fats galore!

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