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Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 8:39:42 AM   
gentlesubmissive


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Status: offline 		Is it just me, or do any of the other submissive males out there have doubts about contacting a supposed dominant female that has absoloutely no command of the English language? I see that most of the dommes, can't spell or form a logical sentence. How can a sub respond, when they can't understand what is being asked of them?
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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 8:48:04 AM   
GoddessJules


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most of the dommes


I'd like to see the sample set for this experiment. By the way, what is the standard deviation on it as well?

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 8:49:56 AM   
MistressFire70


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Status: offline 		If what they say or how they say it is unappealing to you, just answer, "I don't think we are a match. Thank you for your interest." Simple.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 9:09:12 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		Funny how this person slams the Dommes on this site for their grasp of the English language and yet his post is full of commas that should not be there. He splits his sentences with commas that do not belong.
I could pick it apart and give examples, but will only do so if someone is actually interested in seeing it

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 10:19:03 AM   
gentlesubmissive


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Status: offline 		I see that it is the same on the message boards. Ask a serious question, and the creeps have to degrade what you write. When will we ever be spared the people like him?

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 10:21:07 AM   
gentlesubmissive


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Status: offline 		Excuse me, I just looked at the profile. Her. I do understand better now. I was 21 once too.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 10:36:31 AM   
perverseangelic


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ORIGINAL: gentlesubmissive

Excuse me, I just looked at the profile. Her. I do understand better now. I was 21 once too.



Good lord.

She made a very valid comment, no? Of course that comment is wrong because of her age. Makes perfect sense.

Incedentally, I've found that there are as many spelling, grammar, and construction errors in submissive or male dominant profiles as there are in female dominant profiles.

What was the point in coming to a board to rip into the members of said board?

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 11:51:26 AM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		I simply feel that before ripping on others you should take a look at yourself. If that makes me wrong then heaven help those who are right.

And thank you for the support perverseangelic, I have noticed the same thing as you in the profiles. And I don't get many e-mails from women that are half a sentence with as many spelling errors as words.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 1:20:56 PM   
gentlesubmissive


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Status: offline 		It wasn't my intent to rip anyone. All I asked is if there is anyone else out there that has a difficult time associating with a domme who claims to be intelligent, yet has no grasp of the language. Holding a dual Masters', I can't get over the way people ( and I have not looked at either male dominants or submissive profiles, because I have no interest in either) chop up our language. I find that women from other countries use better language, and have better command of it than American women do. I guess it is me, but I still can't trust a women that claims to be intelligent, and shows by her writinf that she definately isn't. The comment about politely saying I'm not interested may be the right one for me, but we find so few women that truly fit our needs, that it is ashame to have to give up on one.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 1:30:10 PM   
alwayzron


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I still can't trust a women that claims to be intelligent, and shows by her writinf that she definately isn't.

gs ..... your line of thinking proves that you're a product of our college education system. Education and intelligence are two separate creatures. I'd rather have a Domme who knows what she's doing (but is unable to write 'intelligently' about it) than one who doesn't know what she's doing (but can write a dissertation on the subject).

And btw ... I have a BA and am working on a Masters myself .... so don't think this comes from a member of the uneducated masses.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 1:36:49 PM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		But if language is that much of a focus for you then clearly a woman that cannot use language to your standards would not be right for you anyway. Am I correct?

(By the way, the stab about my age did not do much to convince me that you aren't here to rip on people. Did you think that I cannot see it?)

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 1:47:55 PM   
gentlesubmissive


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Status: offline 		Yes, I think you are correct. I want a woman to control and dominate me, but I also realize theat there is a big vanilla world out there, and I want to be able to converse with her intelligently. I like to do other things, like go out to dinner, and go th the theatre. I am in business, and I would bring her with me to certain functions. Alas, maybe I'm being too critical, and my expectations are too high. On the other hand, I do wish I was Whipinrods date for dinner. I wrote to her, but she didn't respond. Such is the life of a sub.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 1:59:43 PM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		This is a very good point. I can (and have) written beautiful papers about things that I have known nothing about and can also hold an intelligent conversation about topics that I would fail at being able to write about.

My last post was in response to what you (gentlesubmissive) said:
quote:

but we find so few women that truly fit our needs, that it is ashame to have to give up on one.

A person that does not use language up to your standards is clearly not right for you so why worry about it? It's like saying "oh, that person is perfect except for (height, weight, age, etc.)." Clearly they are not perfect, so what's the point of saying they are?

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 3:28:45 PM   
GoddessDenetra


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Status: offline 		gentle submissive:

I am a 100% American Dominant now living in the United Kingdom. When I decided to rejoin Collarme.com, I also put in a request to receive portions of this Forum.

I decided early that although I might not always choose to respond to each post, I would read them.

It was hard to pass over yours however. Still, I thought it prudent to read each and every response to your initial post, while also reading those you posted in rebuttal.

In addition, I felt compelled to review your profile. My mother ( a very Dominant Woman in her own right) used to say:

"People shouldn't throw stones if they live in a glass house."

You repetitively tauted things here that I personally feel should have been kept to yourself. I make this comment because you never know who might be watching, reading, and subsequently responding.

I took a look at my Webster's Dictionary prior to posting this message. Not only here, but also in your profile, you misspelled the word 'definitely' twice over. The word 'writing' is also spelled incorrectly in one of your posts.

So...perhaps, you need to keep your thoughts, and brags to yourself.

Most Forums are equipped with a "Preview" button, which I feel all need to use before they push the "OK" button.

I have seen, read, and responded to some of the most poorly written messages ever imagined. Like you I wondered who the heck is this person?

However, I've gone on to reason that any given message, profile submission, (or in many cases email), may not accurately reflect the author in their true light.

It does suggest however, that they need to take more time if they want to truly impress, rather than distress an otherwise captive audience.

If you find the manner of a response unworthy of your attention, simply ignore it. Obviously, judgements are being formed which damper your desire to continue pursuit of particular contacts.

I personally enjoy the written word. My dictionary is the best Xmas present I ever demanded!!

Let me suggest you buy one yourself, that is; if you don't still have one from your--Double Master's-- days!!


Goddess Denetra

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 3:49:25 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		I know proper use of language is important to a lot of people. My first r/l dom couldn't spell worth beans and i almost didn't meet him for that reason. I took a chance, and i am very glad i didn't judge him entirely on his poor writing skills. Some people just plain can't spell and some haven't had the privilege of a good education. I guess it depends what is important to you.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 4:21:47 PM   
darkinshadows


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If one does not like what one sees, then move on...
If one does not like what one reads, move on...

A Dominant is not a Dominant because of the way they spell or write. There are many people, Dominants, switchs and submissive/slaves... whos' gifting may not be in the written, but in the spoken or even in another form... songs... poetry...painting.

A few words on a screen or a piece of paper do not make a person who they are. You can read a map and see where the hills and mountains may be, but You can only discover if they are beautiful or bland to your taste, once you visit them yourself.
quote:

It wasn't my intent to rip anyone. All I asked is if there is anyone else out there that has a difficult time associating with a domme who claims to be intelligent, yet has no grasp of the language. Holding a dual Masters', I can't get over the way people ( and I have not looked at either male dominants or submissive profiles, because I have no interest in either) chop up our language.


Your question was a simple one. It was honest and open and You received replies sweet, gentleone... however, if you are not open to all types of replies, the good and the negative, then why ask? There is indeed no reason to respond so sharply to a persons open response. I am sure your question was not meant to 'rip anyone', just as the responses of others where not to devalue yourself, but only to help explain the point... consider how a Dominant Female(whom you say you are open to) may view the question and the way it was asked by yourself?

Angel has no 'Masters degree'. She writes only from her heart.
Just because one owns a masters, does not make them more than what is already inside.
A man may own a crown, but that does not mean He is a king.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 5:54:23 PM   
Jasmyn


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From: New Zealand
Status: offline 		I would have a ball with a sub like you gentle...you'd be talking in text/cyber speak simply because it would amuse Me to put you that far outside your comfort zones...stripping you of your ability to verablise your intelligence would be an interesting exercise.

Jasymn

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 7:26:17 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		It's you, and here is why I think so;
I'm fairly new to this lifestyle, but I've never seen an English test one has to pass before becoming a Domme...
So, as it is you, and since it is a consensual relationship, you pass on the ones you feel aren't up to your required standard.
Ms M

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 8:25:02 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		If you can't understand them, then you can't trust them. You have to go with your gut when decideing who you can trust in doing so many naughty things to you.

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RE: Question for Dommes - 12/15/2004 9:31:16 PM   
sterlingsweet


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Status: offline 		Hello, I happen to be a submissive and don't mean to just rudely jump in here...But as I was reading this thread, I began to think that ""gentle" submissive" has succeeded in what i think he set out to do, maybe because of his problems with getting any well written Domme to respond to him.....Well I believe I count 7 Dommes here, who reponded and even a few sub's. All were very good literati!
Too bad you just blew any chance with any of them.




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