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MistressOfGa -> RE: Today I____fill in the blank (8/20/2006 8:14:44 AM)
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All you can do is love them uncondtionally
Ok, why? Why would you love someone unconditionally if they cause you so much pain and heartache? Because you gave birth to them is not an answer to me. There comes a time when you simply have to say "Enough is enough". My life is important too. I think that time comes when the child is old enough to be out on their own. If they are not financially able, then let them do what all adults do, get a job. If they can't get a job, let them do what other adults do, get financial aid. But not from you.
I don't believe in this "Love them unconditionally" crap. Unconditional covers alot of ground. If they decide to start taking their fist to your face, are you still going to love them unconditionally? If they steal from you? If they kill your other child?
And, since we are talking about unconditional love, what about their love for you? Do you expect them to love you unconditionally too? Simply because you carried them for 9 months and then gave birth to them? I say hogwash. They owe you nothing. You owe them the opportunity to be raised in a safe home with hopefully sane parents, who will guide them and nourish them to adulthood. Hopefully not heaping all of your past bullshit and baggage upon them, to the point of making them afraid to venture out on their own.
~Hush, my baby. Baby, don't you cry.~
~Momma's gonna make all of your nightmares come true.~
~Momma's gonna put all of her fears into you.~
~Momma's gonna keep you right here under her wing.~
~She won't let you fly, but she might let you sing.~
~Momma's gonna keep Baby cozy and warm.~
I'm sorry to throw such a serious question into all the fluff.
**Song Ref: Pink Floyd-Mother**
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