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OsideGirl -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/6/2006 8:39:38 AM)
Haven't you posted this question a few times before?

MHOO314 -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/6/2006 8:42:17 AM)
I'd agree, I wonder if it is a request or an opprotunity to get an ad slipped through.

SCORPIOXXX -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/6/2006 8:51:38 AM)
Re: Profile... Yes, some details are good, lol, you need to say something about yourselves... But you know what: long, short, medium length -- but different readers like different approaches, and you just can't please everybody... Tough tanoogies, ha ha! Patience is the name of the game... Meanwhile, to get by, try Costco's "sub 12-pak"; just add water and stir...

pyrojody69 -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/6/2006 9:58:32 AM)
My wife and I are in the same boat as you. And it seems we are all up a creek without a paddle...as it were. (no pun intended). After our third moved away 3 years ago, we've been searching. I tried numerous on line sites. I am a member of a local group here in the Detroit area, and I left it for a couple of years because of all the drama. I just went to a munch last month..and found..guess what... The drama never goes away. I've tried ALT, Friendfinders, Bondage.com and found mostly fakes..and players. The ones that did respond..if I got a offer to meet..I'd set up a time and place..and they never showed up. It's all a game to some of these people. I'll keep searching.. but.. it's frustrating. I did have a unique experience here with one that sent me a E-mail. After contacting me, we corresponded a few times. In trying to find out a bit more about her... she said she really did want to meet.. told me she was a model and was on assignment. If she wanted to meet with me..she'd have to have me pay for her airline fair back from South Africa for only $400. And when I refused she accused me of not being a sincere Dom. Sounded to me like a scam. And since there is no place on here to voice a complaint against players and scam artists like this one.. I felt at least it kinda fell into this venue. So, take it for what it's worth. It is hard to find a 3rd. Good luck with your search. Sir J.

wild1cfl -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/6/2006 10:09:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kinkyohiocpl Hi there we were curious to see if any one had any ideas about how to find a serious female sub or slave. We have been looking for about a year now and it seems we must be doing some thing wrong at this point. If any one has any tips or any thing that would be great. Only been looking a year, trust us yo have only begun. Our first slave took us 4 years to find and that was prior to the internet. Our second slave only took a year and a half to find and then we moved and she wanted to stay in Florida near her family, very understandable. We now have searched for 6 years and while we have met with about 10 different people both male and female we have only just recently met 2 that we would consider. The first is under a training collar to give us time to get to know each other much better, and the second is under consideration. It takes lots of time, you're not going to meet somone overnight or within a few months. Take your time to get to know them and make sure they are compatible with both of you. By the way we met both of them on Collarme, and I find this site to b the best as far as finding people in our area. Best of luck

LadyHugs -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/6/2006 10:10:26 AM)
Dear kinkyohiocpl, Ladies and Gentlemen; Serious in one's person's mind is different in another person's eyes. There are a lot of serious slaves/submissives/servants out and about. However, other than creating a poll or census, what experience in a poly relationship do you have to bring to the table per se. What experiences have you to offer and with just one or many. What skills have you as to manage a household, as to give fair treatment to the amount of slaves you acquire, how to you adjudicate complaints, conflicts and time to them. What means of security, meaning home, financial stability, bonds between the dominant and submissive/slave. A few things to think upon. And, like another poster stated, it isn't about kinky sex or kinky fun in total. People have other needs to be addressed. Just some thoughts. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

deltadawn -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/6/2006 10:24:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kinkyohiocpl Hi there we were curious to see if any one had any ideas about how to find a serious female sub or slave. We have been looking for about a year now and it seems we must be doing some thing wrong at this point. If any one has any tips or any thing that would be great. I sometimes feel like a broken record, but ......Have you looked locally? Outside the internet? If so then patience pays off big time. If not maybe it is time to begin.\ dawn

LaMalinche -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 10:35:12 AM)
Ya know. . . this gets annoying. . . Hmm. . there are all these people ready to call everyone on this site "Fakes and Players" and yet not ONE of them has emailed me. Why is everyone so desirous of a relationship anyway? Yeah, yeah, I know and have posted about it before. . . it is the cultural conditioning. . . But still, NO EMAIL from you people seeking? BTW. . . thanks for the fodder for the dissertation. . . And what do you mean by serious? Not humorous? Not flighty? What? Oh wait, you just wanted to complain and whine. . . sorry, I thought that you were seriously asking a question. I will know let you get back to that bemoaning of your fate. Oh, and as a note, the freezer section of the grocery store has subs two to a box. And they are on sale right now. I need to go check my coat pockets now. . . MH. . . I am glad to see you, I had been wondering about you. . . of course I have been spending a lot of time in the Random Stupidity section. Do these cry-babies even go back and read these threads? You have to love the stupid people, because I am not going to do it!

Powerman40 -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 10:44:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyrojody69 My wife and I are in the same boat as you. And it seems we are all up a creek without a paddle...as it were. (no pun intended). After our third moved away 3 years ago, we've been searching. I tried numerous on line sites. I am a member of a local group here in the Detroit area, and I left it for a couple of years because of all the drama. I just went to a munch last month..and found..guess what... The drama never goes away. I've tried ALT, Friendfinders, Bondage.com and found mostly fakes..and players. The ones that did respond..if I got a offer to meet..I'd set up a time and place..and they never showed up. It's all a game to some of these people. I'll keep searching.. but.. it's frustrating. I did have a unique experience here with one that sent me a E-mail. After contacting me, we corresponded a few times. In trying to find out a bit more about her... she said she really did want to meet.. told me she was a model and was on assignment. If she wanted to meet with me..she'd have to have me pay for her airline fair back from South Africa for only $400. And when I refused she accused me of not being a sincere Dom. Sounded to me like a scam. And since there is no place on here to voice a complaint against players and scam artists like this one.. I felt at least it kinda fell into this venue. So, take it for what it's worth. It is hard to find a 3rd. Good luck with your search. Sir J. LOL, I beleive I met the same SA model. At least the pics were Model quality.

LaTigresse -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 11:48:05 AM)
I just had an idea!!!!!!!!! I always find good stuff in handbags I have not used in awhile!!

michaelGA2 -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 11:50:19 AM)
should i pass out cards or something? maybe i need to get some business cards stating "good subbie" on them.

LaTigresse -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 11:52:31 AM)
Ah HA!!! I just happen to know a good print shop too!

prdslave -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 12:03:42 PM)
the wraps at subway are much better than the subs :p less carbs too

subexec -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 12:09:39 PM)
i believe it is as possible to meet people on here as in the r/l groups. have met several people throughout the years on alt, here, and various internet channels. quit and tried vanilla for a couple years, then back i came. lol. it's a crapshoot at best. although you can find several people looking for the same thing, then you have to narrow it down by mutual attraction, lifestyle, etc etc etc. meeting face to face early on i believe is key. although several doms in the past did not work out, in most cases we remained good friends and are to this day. people can be serious and want same thing, that doesnt mean u are going to want to serve them or vice versa. it's tough trying to date in the lifestyle. the very qualities we love in a dom, (possessive, controlling, etc) can make it difficult to see who is out there. also, it seems like everything is magnified...but at least u dont have to go through the humiliating experience(not the good kind)of having to explain to vanilla guys what u like and see if they are ok with it. lol.

littlesarbonn -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 6:47:35 PM)
I was taking a creative writing course nearly a decade ago when a young freshman girl read a line from one of her poems that went something like: Why is it people always think they'll find A friend A lover The perfect person For a perfect relationship Within 30 miles of where they live? What if I lived in San Francisco He in Kalamazoo Would we settle for An imperfect person Within 30 miles of where we live? =========================== For me, the search for a dominant partner can't be any easier than the search the OP talks about for finding a submissive. There are a lot of game players on both sides of the equation, and unfortunately, a serious, sincere person(s) is always going to be stuck with the reality of having to search harder than someone who is going to throw a net and grab whatever falls through. For me, I'm now rediscovering this because I've actually started looking again. I'm moving to California in two weeks, and I've started inquiring with potential dominants, although I haven't made any serious inquiries yet because it's just really hard to make contact and be taken seriously. There's a lot of chatter you have to get through before someone even takes you seriously. I used to be one of the infamous complainers about this process, but I'm not anymore. I think it's important that there are so many people out there creating noise that we have to be heard through. I consider myself a stellar submissive. Yeah. It's not very modest, but why should I have to be. I'm not playing any games with the women I'm speaking to, and I won't. When the noise starts to settle down, I expect that I have a better chance of being heard than the game players that keep humming the same tunes. I think that's what the OP kind of needs to face. There are a lot of people making noise. You have to rise above the noise with a voice of your own. Otherwise, you'll never be heard.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 7:47:31 PM)
It took me two years to find a good one, a Master that is. Sometimes good things come to those who wait. Internet is a great communication tool but it can bring out all the wannabes. Just have to be patient and keep searching. Good luck to you.

Tamerofwild1s -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/7/2006 8:12:14 PM)
if you want a serious sub I would suggest checking a naval yard . maybe near florida .... a serious slave .. well santa might be easier to search for . lmaooo really ... tell everyone exactly what your ideal person is ..... set your ideals out on the table .. make sure you got everything you want there . then take the TIME to figure out thru talking if they are truely what your looking for .... just because they say they are doesn't mean they are for you

sierraflowr -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/8/2006 12:49:54 AM)
That has to be the BEST comment i've heard yet. Very Very well said and concise. The same question, and answer to some degree can follow for searching for a Dominant. Thank you flowr quote: ORIGINAL: openmindedslave The same search efforts in finding a relationship will need to into finding a slave. I mean that you don't always luck out finding the first person you date to have a ll the qualities you are seeking at first. You have to go through several people sometimes to beable to find the one that brings with them a trust and care that the others lack..And ,yes lets be honest with ourselves. As a Dom, are you confident of the qualities you are seeking .Are you (with out insult ) mature enought to exhibit a strong presents to a slave . Because As many have said before, a slave/sub can many times end up running a relationship with a dom. Limiting play or telling you the dom what they will commit to or not in the line of service. The magical place in which all real slaves hang out and wait to be scooped up has not been found. I would say that the more public you are in your needs and lifestyle, the more people will be drawn to you. Like most out here, many hide their true interest until they feel its safe enought to talk openly.Then that is when they find out whether the person leaves them or stays. I think, And correct me if others disagree, please...but being involved on here with the message boards is a start. . Secondly, understand as mass markers do, that the law of numbers will get you some choices. Contact slaves profiles that seem to have similar intrest to yours. Dedicate a set amount of time a week to contact and respond to potential slaves. Be polite if they are not what you seek , becasue maybe they have a friend that they can put you in contact with..The munches are always good because you know they are somewhat interested . But being open to others around you, will get you even more attention... Good Luck

aleshaDreams -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/8/2006 1:22:24 AM)
i Will probably get blasted for this but i am going to ask it anyhow. What does a 22 and 23 year old have to offer in the way of life experience, knowledge, sound judgement to consider offering a second sub/slave a place in their lives, and also stating that the incoming sub will answer to existing sub. Is she going to become alpha and the incoming going to be stuck with all the shit work the alpha don't feel like doing. These are just a few of the immediate thoughts that came to mind when reading your profile. Nothing that was too attractive in contacting you at all, as nothing is clearly defined and the age well that is something beyond me expecially since my own children are the same age as you folks, i could hardly see that being sub to younger folk to be very appealling. I am shooting at a truth here, not with real intent to insult....... just a reality from a submissives view point as your profile leaves alot of unanswered questions and questionable ones at that. Your listing of what the sub will be required to do in the order of 1. have a job, 2 do chores then 3. needs to be honest. Now in my own interpretation i wonder why these items where not in reverse order. Paramount be honest, care for the household and then work outside the home. My immediate analysis of your listing adds questions are you just looking for someone to supplement your income, clean your house and then be honest (honest how reporting their income to you). It is just the way i read into your profile, if that was not the intent.... i am sure if i question it there are others that do the same as well.

obis -> RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? (8/8/2006 1:26:59 AM)
I suspect that if anyone ever discovered a reliable way to find new masters or slaves, they would keep it a very quiet secret. If there ever was such a place to go or method to use, and word got out, it would be bled dry in a few days...

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