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Is it possible to cheat on your partner with something other than a person? What should I do?


Yes, Paying more attention to a game to that extent is cheating.
  13% (10)
No, Its not cheating.
  24% (18)
Dump him.
  39% (29)
Keep him.
  0% (0)
Other ( Please reply to the thread if you have other advice.
  2% (2)
Need more info.
  20% (15)


Total Votes : 74
(last vote on : 2/4/2008 3:03:18 AM)
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Is it possible to cheat on your partner with something ... - 8/5/2006 10:35:28 PM   
tygereyes2006


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Status: offline 		So here's the deal ... I started dating my man/dom about 3 months ago. We were trying the distance thing and we were ok at first and then I showed him this game I play sometimes and he got hooked, now its all he talks about and all he wants to do! We are both out of work, and while I look for work easily 12 hours a day 7 days a week and he plays the game and not much else. If I want to talk to him I have to go into the game and chat with him there or call him and if I want to see him I have to go there! My long distance bill is through the roof  and I just can not afford the gas to keep going there every time we want to see each other! Its a good 3 hour drive there!  I'm going to go broke trying to keep this "relationship" together. Sorry about the rant, but I don't know what to do! What I want to know is what ya'll think about the situation, I'm doing a poll and a thread to get advice! Yes I have talked to him about it, and he says nothing's changed, that its all in my head, and its ok that I pay for everything right now because he has no income and I at least have unemployment and that includes all the phone bills, gas food, etc .... But things have changed, the game is like a drug to him, he's forming an addiction to it, and he treats me completely different than he did before. I feel like an idiot for ever sharing it with him.
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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 10:46:54 PM   
enigmabrat


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Status: offline 		Iv had this happen and it makes me wonder is there a coralation between Dongen and Dragons  adict and Domanance (LOL hey we have tried the abuse and its coralation to BDSM why not this) it hurts comeing secent to a game I know

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 10:51:23 PM   
tygereyes2006


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Status: offline 		Yeah we play GuildWars, its fun, its cheap and its ailienating me from him.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 10:58:19 PM   
Kedikat


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Status: offline 		HAHAHAHAHa....
I am single, but the sorta vanilla couple friends has this dilemma. He loves his vid/pc games.
I am sort of the alternate husband in many ways ( all nonsexual ) at these times and in many aspects.
I just had to chuckle. I wonder what you girls without alternate hubbies/Doms do. And what she will do if/when I find My sub.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:01:28 PM   
amaidiamond


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Status: offline 		I had a very similar situation only I was luckily in work, my Dom was not and all He did was sit around and game all day, or chat online, D+D, VtM, online games the lot. I always called him, I always visited him and it felt so one sided, Eventually i had to end the relationship simply bacause i could not afford to keep on paying for everything and also it felt as though he didn't care, had tried talking to him etc and honestly felt it was the last option, only option aside from him getting a job and putting in a fair share and couldn't see that happening, on this occasion he proved me wrong, got a job which he is getting full time hours in at the moment and also started to visit me and share the cost of a long distance relationship with me so in my case, ending the relationship made him rethink things so it all worked out.
Whatever the answer you decide to try i hope it works out for you.

dia

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:04:25 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I know my best friend's husband threatened to file divorce papers becasue he found out she was cheating no him... she owned a vibrator.
Granted, this vibrator was one I had given her when we turned 16, it had googly eyes and a bow tie glued on it (which after 10 years were STILL there, she had never used it).  He said that it was a sin to get sexual plasure from anyone but your husband, and that she was cheating.  He also forbade her to see me ever again becasue I was a bad influence. (If he only knew how bad... )

DV

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:11:14 PM   
tygereyes2006


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Status: offline 		My thing is I don't have an issue with him playing; Its a fun game, and once in a while if you are in a tough spot on a mission or something it can get a bit addictive. I have an issue with him playing in lew of other important stuff, like finding a job, getting his own place (as in not his bedroom at his parents house), and showing me at least a few minutes of attention here and there that do not involve the game. I mean i turn 24 one week from today trying to make it on my own with out any help and minimum college, and he turns 30 next month with two batchelors degrees and he lives at home.   I'm really lost on what to do here!

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:16:17 PM   
tygereyes2006


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Status: offline 		Wow a vibe ... such a sin. You know if only more people knew that before christianity sexual pleasure was ENCOURAGED by everyone. I hope your friend is doing well and I hope you two still get to see one another and/or talk!

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:16:26 PM   
amaidiamond


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Status: offline 		To be totally honest, if he still lives at home with his parents and he is almost 30 then there may be deeper issues than an over addiction to a game, it shows a lack of adult behaviour to me and unwillingness to take responsibility for oneself, also can't be much fun for you!

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:22:30 PM   
enigmabrat


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Status: offline 		yes it sounds to me he hasnt Masterd himself.. then how in the world can he be a Master to you??

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:23:13 PM   
tygereyes2006


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Status: offline 		Yeah definately no fun. Especially with the toy closet he has that we rarely get to use ....... hell I'd be happy with a good spank once in a while! But the game is more important lately. I mean at one point before we met he had a nice place, but he had moved back in while finishing his second degree, which I can understand, but come on ...... There is a point where it becomes overkill.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:26:49 PM   
VandalHeart


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Status: offline 		As a hardcore gamer, my first response to seeing this was, "Jesus, it's a fucking video game!  How can you get jealous over a fucking piece of electronic distraction?"  Then I see the whole story.  Let's get something very clear right from the start - when I said I was a hardcore gamer, I meant I play:

Warcraft III
World of Warcraft
Final Fantasy XI
Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas
Shattered Union
Halo 2
Every Final Fantasy I can get my grubby little gamer hands on
Dungeons and Dragons, both tabletop and computer based

I love my games, and it is a hard limit to ask me to get rid of them.  I will always be on a gamer's side if I thinhk he's even got a little bit of a right to anything, and I'm telling you, this guy doesn't deserve to have a love interest until he removes cranium from rectum.

< Message edited by VandalHeart -- 8/5/2006 11:30:15 PM >

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:32:24 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		You really have to ask what to do? How hard do you need to be slapped by reality to get it? I hate to sound mean, but come on!

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:33:14 PM   
MistressLorelei


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Status: offline 		Instead of looking for work, he is sitting home playing video games, while you go out and seek work while supporting him?  I would call this a problem.

Maybe there is hope...  that's your call... but if it were me in your position, I would want to cut my losses with a guy who lacks  ambition/motivation, is irresponsible, unemployed and not bothering to seek work, but expects you to support him; who is also a video game junkie who isn't even being very nice to you.... yet tells you there is no problem.

Good luck


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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:40:31 PM   
tygereyes2006


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Status: offline 		See thats the thing ..... I'm a "gamer chick" I love video games ... a lot. I play all the time, but not to the extent that I shut out everything else ... I mean say you are visiting your girl for a week (keeping in mind you only get to see her every few weeks) and you were playing for a little while while she was in the shower or reading or something. And after you had been playing for like and hour in the living room she struts in in just her robe, climbs in you lap and sticks her tounge down your throat ............... what would you do? ...... HE goes " I'm pretty busy right now if you couldn't tell."  And goes back to the game till he got hungry and wanted some dinner. He was sitting there just messing around, I know the game  well enough to not have bothered him if he was really busy doing a difficult quest or something. I was furious and he was like "Whats wrong its just a video game!!!"

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:40:47 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		It's not cheating, it's basic neglect and lacking skills to make a healthy relationship.

You deserve this?

Get your own life together, with steady income and savings.  Then maybe you will be able to find someone who is secure and mature enough to value what being an adult is.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:43:30 PM   
Estring


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tygereyes2006

See thats the thing ..... I'm a "gamer chick" I love video games ... a lot. I play all the time, but not to the extent that I shut out everything else ... I mean say you are visiting your girl for a week (keeping in mind you only get to see her every few weeks) and you were playing for a little while while she was in the shower or reading or something. And after you had been playing for like and hour in the living room she struts in in just her robe, climbs in you lap and sticks her tounge down your throat ............... what would you do? ...... HE goes " I'm pretty busy right now if you couldn't tell."  And goes back to the game till he got hungry and wanted some dinner. He was sitting there just messing around, I know the game  well enough to not have bothered him if he was really busy doing a difficult quest or something. I was furious and he was like "Whats wrong its just a video game!!!"


Is this a "Candid Camera" stunt? I can't believe this could be a serious post.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:45:28 PM   
amaidiamond


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Status: offline 		I'd agree with LA on this one, this man is not an adult and you deserve far more,
Personally I'd choose a living breathing partner over one made out of pixles any day, then again, thats just me.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:46:38 PM   
VandalHeart


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Status: offline 		If you were that much of a gamer chick, then this wouldn't even be on the boards as a question.  And besides, going back to that whole hardcore gamer guy thing...

COMPLETELY SANE MEN WOULD KILL NATIONS TO BE IN HIS SHOES!!!  HE HAS NO IDEA WHAT HE'S IGNORING!!!  THE FACT THAT HE DOESN'T APPRECIATE YOU IS ONLY BROUGHT INTO SHARPER RELIEF SINCE THIS ISSUE IS AT HAND!!!  FUCK, I DON'T EVEN KNOW THE GUY AND I WANT TO SLAP HIM AROUND, SCREAMING (MUCH LIKE I AM NOW) "WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?  YOU'RE DATING AN ENDANGERED SPECIES, YOU DIPSHIT!!!  GET OFF YOUR ASS, PAY FOR SOME FUEL AND GO MAKE THAT GIRL FEEL LIKE THE GODDESS OF MALE FANTASIES THAT SHE OBVIOUSLY IS!!!"
 
But that's just my opinion.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:49:58 PM   
Estring


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ORIGINAL: VandalHeart

If you were that much of a gamer chick, then this wouldn't even be on the boards as a question.  And besides, going back to that whole hardcore gamer guy thing...

COMPLETELY SANE MEN WOULD KILL NATIONS TO BE IN HIS SHOES!!!  HE HAS NO IDEA WHAT HE'S IGNORING!!!  THE FACT THAT HE DOESN'T APPRECIATE YOU IS ONLY BROUGHT INTO SHARPER RELIEF SINCE THIS ISSUE IS AT HAND!!!  FUCK, I DON'T EVEN KNOW THE GUY AND I WANT TO SLAP HIM AROUND, SCREAMING (MUCH LIKE I AM NOW) "WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?  YOU'RE DATING AN ENDANGERED SPECIES, YOU DIPSHIT!!!  GET OFF YOUR ASS, PAY FOR SOME FUEL AND GO MAKE THAT GIRL FEEL LIKE THE GODDESS OF MALE FANTASIES THAT SHE OBVIOUSLY IS!!!"
 
But that's just my opinion.


He doesn't need to do anything. He is getting what he wants right now. Not his problem.

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