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Is it possible to cheat on your partner with something other than a person? What should I do?

Yes, Paying more attention to a game to that extent is cheating.

13% (10)

No, Its not cheating.

24% (18)

Dump him.

39% (29)

Keep him.

0% (0)

Other ( Please reply to the thread if you have other advice.

2% (2)

Need more info.

20% (15)

Total Votes : 74

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:50:29 PM

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LOL. I am dead serious. I just really care about him, but I'm starting to think that just isn't enough. And yes he really did turn back to the game with me in his lap foe all intensive puposes naked and in the mood in the middle of the day with the whole afternoon free. I guess I feel partially at fault because I'm the one that showed him the game in the first place.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:54:11 PM

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Don't blame yourself for that, it's not like you told him "Go play with this, I'm sick of you"

And Estring, as stated, it's just an opinion, and mine is the guy's a dumbass.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:55:57 PM

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I agree totally with you Vandal. But he is getting what he wants. Why should he change? She might be more of a dumbass in this case.

< Message edited by Estring -- 8/5/2006 11:56:15 PM >

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/5/2006 11:59:25 PM

tygereyes2006

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VandalHeart

If you were that much of a gamer chick, then this wouldn't even be on the boards as a question. And besides, going back to that whole hardcore gamer guy thing...

COMPLETELY SANE MEN WOULD KILL NATIONS TO BE IN HIS SHOES!!! HE HAS NO IDEA WHAT HE'S IGNORING!!! THE FACT THAT HE DOESN'T APPRECIATE YOU IS ONLY BROUGHT INTO SHARPER RELIEF SINCE THIS ISSUE IS AT HAND!!! FUCK, I DON'T EVEN KNOW THE GUY AND I WANT TO SLAP HIM AROUND, SCREAMING (MUCH LIKE I AM NOW) "WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? YOU'RE DATING AN ENDANGERED SPECIES, YOU DIPSHIT!!! GET OFF YOUR ASS, PAY FOR SOME FUEL AND GO MAKE THAT GIRL FEEL LIKE THE GODDESS OF MALE FANTASIES THAT SHE OBVIOUSLY IS!!!"

But that's just my opinion.

*Blush* Thank You. I'm glad someone that into games sees it my way. I truly thought I was hearing things when he said that to me. I was thinking "hello does anyone hear this? he's lost it! most of the guys I know would move mountains for there girlfriends/wives/signifigant others to be like that" and that's me 24/7. I love spicing things up like that.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:03:23 AM

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Actually, he's already made the choice for you. If you've already talked to him and nothing has changed...that's your answer. I had a simular situation, I allowed this idiot to stay with me to give him the break he said he needed. He stayed on the net all night, then during the day while I was working, he slept, and on the couch at that. He always had some excuse for checking out of life....this lasted two weeks, then I drove his happy behind back to his moms and didn't look back. He will probably try to get you back with promises, especially if you get a job, he'll want to cash in on that, but until he actually "shows" you something, I wouldn't even consider it.

just a suggestion, from been there done that, and the t-shirt sucks

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:03:52 AM

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OK, here's what I suggest: schedule a time for both of you to play online together, and stick to the schedule unless both of you want to keep going. That gets two things done. One, he'll be away from the game when you are, and two, it will keep your character levels nearly the same, and you'll have a coherent party on an almost permanent basis.

If he can't do that, remind him where the door is.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:05:15 AM

tygereyes2006

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Estring

I agree totally with you Vandal. But he is getting what he wants. Why should he change? She might be more of a dumbass in this case.

Thanks! Nothing like being called a dumbass to make your day a little brighter. I was asking for advice not insults. About me OR him. I thank you for your opinion but you don't here me calling names and I'm the one IN the situation. And I bet if the tables were turned and your signifigant other became utterly into to something else you'd be singing a slightly different tune.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:07:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TxBlkMistress

Actually, he's already made the choice for you. If you've already talked to him and nothing has changed...that's your answer. I had a simular situation, I allowed this idiot to stay with me to give him the break he said he needed. He stayed on the net all night, then during the day while I was working, he slept, and on the couch at that. He always had some excuse for checking out of life....this lasted two weeks, then I drove his happy behind back to his moms and didn't look back. He will probably try to get you back with promises, especially if you get a job, he'll want to cash in on that, but until he actually "shows" you something, I wouldn't even consider it.

just a suggestion, from been there done that, and the t-shirt sucks

Thanks for the input. I really appreciate the feedback I'm getting. I don't feel like I'm the bad guy so much as I did before.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:14:06 AM

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Thanks for the input. I really appreciate the feedback I'm getting. I don't feel like I'm the bad guy so much as I did before.
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No you are not...but losers like that are good about making you feel like the unreasonable one. Let his momma take care of him...go find yourself a real man

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:14:43 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VandalHeart

OK, here's what I suggest: schedule a time for both of you to play online together, and stick to the schedule unless both of you want to keep going. That gets two things done. One, he'll be away from the game when you are, and two, it will keep your character levels nearly the same, and you'll have a coherent party on an almost permanent basis.

If he can't do that, remind him where the door is.

Sounds like a plan to me, I'll bring that up to him tomorrow and see what he says, unfortunately the game is like yahoo in that you can go invisible and appear offline to everyone so I'd have to rely solely on trust. His characters are almost all maxed now(7 out of 8) (yes, he plays THAT much) and my one good character is 3 levels away, so we make a good team, when he wants to team. But I will definately suggest that idea. I'd just hate to break up something, that could be very good with a little effort, over a video game .... It seems so ... pointless.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:18:44 AM

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Ok Ill share my esperiance now....

Ok I was involved in a relationship for about 3 years with a Dom well a top It was a long distance poly thing which was hard on me because though i was his first sub I seemed to be the last on his list of priaritys, anyway we at least would hang out on bondage.com and r/p there together when we couldnt be together realtime. And that was good for me it made me happy it was fine and i exepted it. Then he found darkmyst.com and man if I hated comeing secent to his other subs I fucking resented comeing secent to the game. He started playing there and refuseing to come to the other chat.. no matter how I peaded with him that I got NONE of his attention at all he told me he wouldnt change it because he liked the game and saw nothing wrong with what was going on. I toled him I missed my Dom and that even though it was fine hanging out on the other sight with him i hated that he no longer acted as my Dom unless it was because I was anoying him and he wanted to play then he would pull atharity and send me to a corner so he could play (this happend r/l as well as when we played online)

So dear I know were you are comeing from... I love this man and always will and I guess thats why it hurts so much to have a game put befor you and your needs!!

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:24:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: enigmabrat

Ok Ill share my esperiance now....

Ok I was involved in a relationship for about 3 years with a Dom well a top It was a long distance poly thing which was hard on me because though i was his first sub I seemed to be the last on his list of priaritys, anyway we at least would hang out on bondage.com and r/p there together when we couldnt be together realtime. And that was good for me it made me happy it was fine and i exepted it. Then he found darkmyst.com and man if I hated comeing secent to his other subs I fucking resented comeing secent to the game. He started playing there and refuseing to come to the other chat.. no matter how I peaded with him that I got NONE of his attention at all he told me he wouldnt change it because he liked the game and saw nothing wrong with what was going on. I toled him I missed my Dom and that even though it was fine hanging out on the other sight with him i hated that he no longer acted as my Dom unless it was because I was anoying him and he wanted to play then he would pull atharity and send me to a corner so he could play (this happend r/l as well as when we played online)

So dear I know were you are comeing from... I love this man and always will and I guess thats why it hurts so much to have a game put befor you and your needs!!

Wow that BLOWS! But thank you for sharing ..... Thank You to everyone who is sharing. I don't feel so out of line for asking for just a little bit of time. I guess it's probablly going to be over between us. It just hurts you know cause it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me, when I know there isn't.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:27:19 AM

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I said you might be the dumber ass. You may not be one, but you are behaving like one. He is getting what he wants, and you are getting nothing. What more do you need to know?
And by the way, my slave plays online games too. When I allow her.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:28:24 AM

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I know the feeling I know the pain... I wish he had never found the game.. and i wish I didnt love him LOL i wish I wasnt his least favorate sub... maybe then it would have worked... maybe... best thing to do is move one... I stuck around way to long.. I still have the fecken collar too....

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:31:33 AM

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OK now I need to know Estring why does it say Mr.Smarty pants over your paddles??

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:38:48 AM

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OK now I need to know Estring why does it say Mr.Smarty pants over your paddles??

Those damn whales did it!

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:43:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: enigmabrat

OK now I need to know Estring why does it say Mr.Smarty pants over your paddles??

Because he is.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:48:00 AM

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ARGGG that aint no answer damn it!!!!!!!! STOP CONFUSEING ME PEOPLE

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 12:52:51 AM

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I wouldn't call game addiction cheating but I would call it a problem if it interfers with his responsibilities and his attention to the ones he loves.

I was totally addicted to pogo games ( and my then online dom on pogo) for a few years and it did keep me from getting all my chores done. It took me awhile to recognize the harm it was doing. I still play but i make sure everything that needs doing gets done also. My puter is right next to Hubby's recliner so i do interact with Him while He watches TV in the evenings and i'm playing games or reading CM.

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RE: Is it possible to cheat on your partner with someth... - 8/6/2006 1:11:27 AM

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Where's the "he needs to grow up" option?

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