Question?

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Question?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Question?

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Question? - 12/15/2004 10:53:05 PM

sbjb123

Posts: 4
Joined: 12/13/2004
Status: offline

Hi i'm new to all of this and have gone through alot of profiles. I found one that basicall said that not interested in any one as far as sex. Now I realise that there is more to this life style than sex It's a whole world on to it self, but sex is a part of it! Isn't it?
It seem to me that if any one is here for sex and the happiness and or release it brings is wrong?
Understanding? I mean me? To understand!
Yes, I'm defently looking for sex in what ever perverted ( to the out side world ) way that I can find it! But not just sex! In this time in my life sex is more than the phisical! It's the mind along with the body? Not enought!!
Am i wrong in thinking this way? Help!

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Question? - 12/16/2004 12:38:19 AM

MystressAna

Posts: 33
Joined: 6/14/2004
From: Sacramento California USA
Status: offline

You are not wrong in needing what you need. Nor is the individual who does not want sex. Each of you have different needs. The most that can be said is that the two of you are probably not compatible. Their needs do not reflect on you nor yours on them.
Ana

(in reply to sbjb123)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Question? - 12/16/2004 8:26:37 AM

MistressFire70

Posts: 378
Joined: 7/25/2004
From: North Carolina
Status: offline

It's all about being a good match. If sex is an important factor for you, then the profile you read isn't a good match. There's nothing wrong in needed what you need and looking for it.

Fire
Who is betting that it's HER profile that was read!

< Message edited by MistressFire70 -- 12/24/2004 8:58:06 PM >

_____________________________

you have come to a great chasm. Jump. It's not as wide as you think.

(in reply to sbjb123)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Question? - 12/16/2004 10:27:46 AM

MaitresseEden

Posts: 477
Joined: 8/8/2004
From: Houston, Texas
Status: offline

Sex is an intregral part of BDSM for me. If I can be lovers with my submissive, I find I am quickly bored and have no desire for anything long term or committed. It is all about balancing real life with kinky life, and the ability to fit in both is crucial.. not to mention a whole lot healthier!

Ms. Eden

_____________________________

"If I didnt define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other peoples fantasies for me and eaten alive. - Audre Lorde"

(in reply to MistressFire70)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Question? - 12/17/2004 2:36:56 PM

BeachMystress

Posts: 2156
Joined: 4/3/2004
From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California
Status: offline

For me, not all BDSM involves sex. I am a hetro female, but I have no problems topping a woman. That is power, not sex. I do find all BDSM I'm involved with erotic. My preference is for my sub to be my lover. Not all men are worthy of being my lover so I often will be non sexual with a sub for several months before determining if they are worth my body. There have been two times I've know a sub was worthy of all of me from the very beginning; but usually I'll hold back for a trial period. BDSM turns me on a LOT. At the end of a session I want to f**k someone. Fingers, tongue and such aren't going to do it. I want penetrative sex. When a man hasn't met my criteria for having sex with him, I'll put him in a strap on and have him pleasure me with it. (Last guy I did that to cried. I'd not understood dacrophilla before that. *evil grin*)

_____________________________

Beach Mystress
*Do not threaten the weak. Intimidate the strong. ~ Stevenson*
http://beachmystress.jigsy.com
http://www.flickr.com/photos/beachmystress/

(in reply to sbjb123)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: Question? - 12/17/2004 2:45:09 PM

alwayzron

Posts: 234
Joined: 9/23/2004
Status: offline

I spent a Saturday once shopping for light fixtures with my Domme and then hanging them for her ~ all w/o any promise of play time. I enjoy spending "vanilla time" with a Domme, because it makes the "play time" even better ... imho. Plus ... it's fun to escort her in public, opening her doors, carrying her bags, walking slightly behind her, etc, etc. All very submissive activities that the world thinks of as just "gentlemanly"!