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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/6/2006 4:27:16 PM   
cheshireboy


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Status: offline 		don't actively look...but leave your self open to the chance of a "maybe" and if a "maybe" come along....grab on to it, even if it won't work out, everything can be learned from....
 
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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/6/2006 4:32:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		it wasn't till I stopped searching that I started finding .... after a few times of trying to find one girl who would satisfy all my animalistic and sadistic needs that I found one who could .... so stop searching .. keep your eyes open but stop searching .... eventually the right will come to you

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/6/2006 4:39:33 PM   
Rule


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Status: offline 		They are out on the street, lil. If you truly desire so, the universe will provide you with an 'accidental' opportunity. You must recognize this opportunity - someone who regards you, someone who looks into your eyes and soul, if only for a moment - and not let it pass you by. Then do whatever is necessary to engage the other in a converstaion and to introduce yourself.

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/6/2006 5:01:23 PM   
lilserenity


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Status: offline 		 Thank E/each O/one of Y/you for Y/your comments that helped me see Im not just being a disappointment to A/anyone.. I appreciate  A/all's words.. I will just stand back and let things happen if they do, I can only hope they will one day.Thank Y/you A/all again hugs and blessings to A/all....serenity  

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/6/2006 5:45:13 PM   
cloudboy


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Good expriences breed optimisism. Optimism then becomes self fulfilling.

The trouble is, things going badly can lead to pessimism, which can lead to depression, which can accelerate one's downward cycle.

When things are going badly, all that you have left to fall back on is faith. To me, you have to keep the faith, otherwise you are doomed to self fullfilling pessisimism.

As Sir Kenin noted, you are in control of one variable. You are in control of yourself. No matter what, you can always improve on yourself in one way or another: fitness, diet, skills, hobbies, reading, sense of humor, gaining experience etc.... As he said, if you take care of yourself, maybe the other things will come to you.

I hope you meet with some good fortune, but overall, I agree with Sir Kenin. Take care of yourself, that's the best favor you could ever do for your prospective partner when you don't have one.

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/6/2006 6:04:33 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		I'd rather meet someone through this site as I "know" that they're interested in the lifestyle.
There are plenty of single women, good looking  too, at my gym but it's awful awkward to ask them if they like to be tied up! lol
("Hey you! Yeah you, with the dumbell, you like handcuffs?")

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/8/2006 11:45:34 AM   
impishlilhellcat


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Status: offline 		I wasn't searching when I found my Daddy. Daddy fullfills all the needs I have and takes me to new levels everyday. I was actually involved in another relationship at the time and he approached me strictly as friends. In fact before hand we even talked about how neither one of us thought that we would be compatible and so that friendship would serve us well because there was nothing to get in the way. Somewhere along the way it became something more and I couldn't really tell you when the change happened, but I do know that neither one of us was "looking" for someone else. So my advice is see where a friend might take you talk often and frankly with those around and somewhere you may find the one that is exactly what you are looking for.

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/8/2006 12:08:29 PM   
porcelaine


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Status: offline 		I'm sincerely sorry to learn of your loss. It is never easy to part with one we care deeply about. Rather than lament what was and the negative lessons you've experienced. Look upon these moments as preparation for what's to come.

You are now free to pursue the things your heart desires. How do you envision yourself as a submissive? Where are you now and where do you wish to be? What skills and attributes do you bring to the table? Have you determined what is missing as well? This is an opportune moment for you to grow and gain a greater sense of self and purpose. I would encourage you to do these things and prepare the vessel for the owner you truly seek. I wish you happiness and peace.

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/8/2006 12:13:27 PM   
SirKenin


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Status: offline 		All My girlfriends, My first wife, this wife, all came to Me, and there were quite a few of them.  For example, My common-law wife and I met in My chatroom.  We started talking on MSN for some time.  I held a halloween event at the local gay bar and hearing that I was going to be there, she had to come, even though I was involved with someone else at the time.  She wanted to meet Me.  Well, I had her cuddled into Me all night under one arm, My girlfriend under the other and had a great time.  Shortly after, My girlfriend had a tiff (for the life of Me I can not remember what it was about) and ran back home.  Veronica said that she was interested in Me.  We went from there.  The girlfriend called and said that she wanted to come back, but I told her it was too late.

One girlfriend I had begged for Me to escort her to one of My parties.  She wanted to be My date for the night.  She literally hung off Me all night.  I have pictures of it.  I took her home that night and dated her for probably six months. *sigh*

The one I mentioned had a tiff approached Me after I broke up with her.  We had been talking on MSN and she came out and told Me she wanted to date Me.  It was a long distance relationship at first, but she ended up being My sub for some time.

I actually have not told Veronica this, but there are three more women that have indicated an interest since.  I am not interested in them, I am only interested in Veronica, but I tell you this to make a point.

So yeah, it happens all the time.

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/8/2006 1:54:54 PM   
SexyRed


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Status: offline 		I always find it amazing that people continue to say "don't look, it will just find you", which I think is complete nonsense. If you don't put yourself out there in an attempt to make it known you are single and looking, then nothing will happen.

While it is great advice to continually improve yourself and your life and not to wait until the ONE comes along, there is a distinct possibility that you or I or anyone else may never meet the right person.

I am not advocating giving up, or putting your life on hold or in not trying different channels for growth, I am simply saying STOP telling people that the Universe will deliver unto them what they desire.

I am all for positive outlooks, but the reality is, you need to put yourself out there to find someone compatible.

So, do not give false hope to people by saying, stop looking. No one just knocks on your door as in a dream. You do have to use every option available, especially the older you get.

When you are young, you run into more prospects, as you get older, you have to try harder, not less.



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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/8/2006 2:01:13 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		sometimes putting yourself out there doesn't work (i know i've ruined any chance of finding "The One" due to my attitude, but that attitude comes from years of frustraion). if there was a "snowball's chance in hell" that "The One" were to find me, 'without' looking...i'd just sit here on my butt (which is what i do anyway) and wait for Her to come along and take me. i'm glad someone out there believes the search should not continue.

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/8/2006 2:35:31 PM   
raiken


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lilserenity

So I would like to get E/everyones' output on this. What happens when you get N/noone to step in Y/your life. I guess perhaps dreams are peoples reality after all...... smiles   serenity
I'm not a quitter only a doer but it does make a person wonder what will happen if it dont happen for Y/you... be well and take care to A/all.

 
You just HAVE to stop focusing on the things you DON'T have and learn to enjoy being grateful for what you DO have.  It is a learned behavior.  Gratefulness is a wonderful feeling, even if it just directed toward something small or what seems insignificant.  It is hard to feel sad or lacking when you are busy feeling grateful.  That is the first step to changing your energy and becoming like the energy of a one you wish to attract.  Work on becoming you, and the type of person you would like to be, shift some of that energy and focus around, and then you will attract that type of person.   Universal law of attraction: Like energy attracts like energy, it really does work.  It all begins on the inside.*smile

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/9/2006 3:54:50 AM   
ExSteelAgain


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Status: offline 		I’ll give you practical points from my experiences. The internet is a giant sifter that works well, but you have to set your sifter right. Don’t waste time by getting into heavy discussions with someone that you will see at best 2-3 times a year. Draw a circle on a map around your house with a radius of about 200 miles and if the person does not live within that, don’t get into serious conversations. Do not waste your time which could be better spent building friendships with those whom you can possibly see often and on a regular basis.
 
On the other hand, if you find a person within that radius, go out of your way to talk and keep the person around, even if things are not exactly right, early on. People do grow into relationships for different reasons. It may be any number of things that will eventually attract someone you desire… your passion for D/s, hobbies, intellect, eyes or your sensitivity. Who knows?

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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/9/2006 4:35:43 AM   
CuteIrishM4F


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lilserenity,
Ta bron orm. i am sorry for your loss.
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I ,myself will always be searching but not as much anymore


Never Give Up. Take your time, move at your own pace. But never Give Up.


Oh yeah,

i'm stealin that avatar first Yang4yin!


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RE: When is it time to stop trying? - 8/9/2006 4:58:31 AM   
enigmabrat


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Status: offline 		Ill stop looking when I have found my one... I may have already

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