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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 8:12:03 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		If there was an incident with my profile that caused my dominant to send an email and my name was brought into it (nonconsensually I might add) then I would feel bad that something involving me had been used to ridicule my dominant. Sinergy wouldn't do this anyhow, but if this were to happen I would feel terribly. If you wouldn't feel that way, well that is how you feel about it. I would and I can imagine that if other submissives put themselves in this submissive's shoes they would probably feel embarassed too.

He nonconsensually involved her in puffing his chest up and ridiculing her dominant... I will reassert, this is possibly the most tacky thing I have seen on this forum. He calls it a red herring even though it crossed his mind it was against TOS when he did it, again this shows his disrespect for the rules of CM and the submissive in question... if you have to ask yourself if something is wrong it usually is..

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 8:13:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s

ok so if I read the journal right . I should allow my slave to speak and grow from other dominants?

now if I train my slave to act a certain way .. believe a certain way .. and you come along and decide your gonna insite your growth upon her .... now what if it contradicts my beliefs . I should allow you to make her think differently ... you got a screw loose my friend .... I have been around long enough on this site to see "Doms" who pass along their wordsof wisdom to slaves that are owned ... all they are doing is being a snake in the grass trying to steal another mans property .... your logic is totally confused .


Shouldn't you then as said slave's owner be exercising more control over her? How about not allowing her online? Or sitting right next to her every moment she is online?

Frankly I think the idea of allowing someone online and then bitching cause others contact them is insane.

If you want to control what a slave sees, hears and who they interact with then you must actively work to have that control. Allowing them to be online without constant supervision is not doing that work.

Or you could just trust that your property is intelligent enough to ignore folks or to block folks.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 8:16:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: aleshaDreams

All points bulletin and in respect for others in the lifestyle, spare yourself the grief and do not add a submissive and/or slave that is spoken for, owned, or stating that they are not looking in your list of admired, or whatever unless you have consent from their owner to do such or their profile indicates that they accept such contact.

This topic can be argued till everyone is blue in the face, but the fact of the matter is there is a reason for the 'collar' and the acceptance of such by a sub / slave or that they are in consideration, etc. Respect that, and don't quibble cause you have been put rightfully in your place.

hummm and we wonder were all the courtesy, and honour etc has gone...... yeah okay



I have an alternative: Dominants who are so worried about this should forbid their slaves or submissives from being online.

You have a right to control your property and your submissives if you've negotiated that. You do not have a right to control the rest of us.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 8:18:55 AM   
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And should be used as the filter through which all else is processed. If a girl connot show enough respect and common sense not to be swayed from her duty by outside influences, she has no business being with me.

If she was so easily led away, it's probably for the best-for both of us.  And I would allow it to happen, rather than worrying over it.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 8:20:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
He nonconsensually involved her in puffing his chest up and ridiculing her dominant...


See I see it a bit differently. I believe HER Dominant involved her non-consensually by sending out that email in the first place. If my Dominant does something that makes himself look like an ass...the embarassment and responsibility is HIS to bear...not mine. If He gets ridiculed as a result of it, then maybe He will learn the lesson behind it. It's not my lesson to learn.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 8:55:22 AM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
He nonconsensually involved her in puffing his chest up and ridiculing her dominant...


See I see it a bit differently. I believe HER Dominant involved her non-consensually by sending out that email in the first place. If my Dominant does something that makes himself look like an ass...the embarassment and responsibility is HIS to bear...not mine. If He gets ridiculed as a result of it, then maybe He will learn the lesson behind it. It's not my lesson to learn.


There are TOS for this forum, this person disrespected them and thought twice beforehand, showing he doesn't give a rat's ass about rules, his journal entries show he has nothing but contempt for other people's dynamics, and his posting this drivel in the first place shows he has very deep seated ego problems. You may not think there is anything wrong with humiliating people on a public forum, but I think that the TOS state that there is, according to the owners of CM we are not supposed to do what he did....Very wise of them.

It isn't a red herring, it is a pattern of behavior. He looks worse to me than the dom that emailed him in the first place... yes the dom that emailed him was a little strange to get bent over this... it is even more pathological to get bent out of shape because your actions offended another. The original offense was inadvertant.. he didn't intend to piss this other dom off I most likely.. but this thread is a statement that he knows he pissed this other dom off and now he is going to add to the original offense by calling attention to it. If I offend another unintentionally I apologize for the offense and move on. I do not add to it. That is juvenile behavior. His journal entry, that he posted here, shows that he had an agenda to post it in the first place, that he doesn't care if he offends people in their dynamic.

He looks extremely bad to me... my opinion, Im allowed to it.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 9:06:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
He looks extremely bad to me... my opinion, Im allowed to it.


Of course you are...but that doesn't mean that everyone else has to agree.

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his journal entries show he has nothing but contempt for other people's dynamics  


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He questions dominants on their dynamics 


Aren't you really doing the same thing? Aren't we all? You are questioning and showing contempt for his actions. Giving your opinion. Others, including myself, have given an opposing opinion. That is what we do here...give our opinions and express whether we agree or disagree with another's actions, thoughts, dynamics or ideas.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 9:08:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		While I agree in theory with Julia and Tamer's stance of a dominant making orders that please themselves, and its not someone else's place to necessarily question that - I don't agree with the mindset that *I see at work behind this particular TYPE of order. (Ie, telling a submissive he/she is not allowed to be in any sort of contact with other dominants.)
 
I personally won't tolerate someone issuing that type of order to me. I consider it juvenile, weak, and a distinct display of insecurity about themselves and their ability to control me without resorting to abuse.  There are several issues behind my disagreement. 
  • If the dominant is that secure in himself/herself - why aren't they also secure in what they're teaching their partner?  Are their beliefs so weak as a concept that they are going to be shown as false when compared side by side with someone else's POV?
  • If the dominant trusts their submissive enough to be online, why not trust them not to jump ship simply because someone else issues an offer?  If there is past evidence to show that they're likely to bail, are they really worth keeping as a partner?
  • Isolation tactics are a known and often used method of abusers.  For myself at least, if someone attempts to isolate me from contact with others, my first instinct is to run like hell - because it has consistantly been a prelude to them abusing rather than dominating.
  • It is insulting to my intelligence and loyalty for someone to treat me like I'm going to bail like a rat from a sinking ship, simply because *gasp* some other person contacted me. If you don't trust me to uphold my end of a relationship agreement, then you're screwing us both to begin with by even starting the relationship, and we've got bigger issues than simply whether or not someone else happened to say hello and/or expressed an opinion.

Now, all that having been said - I also see a distinct difference between a dominant isolating their submissive by issuing non-contact orders - and a submissive Actively Choosing For Themselves to eschew contact with other dominants.  To my personal perspective, one is a matter of insecurity while the other is a matter of personal ethics and loyalty.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 10:56:07 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		While I have also chosen a dominant that does not have contact restrictions, I have imposed them on myself. If I was emailing other dominants that sent me come-ons, that would be on me, and I would suppose this would send a strong signal to my dominant that I have questionable loyalty to him. He doesn't check on me, he hasn't asked for my password. If he asked for it at this stage I would give it to him though. I have nothing to hide after all, and I have given him certain rights to direct my behavior.

I know if a male emailed me in a stalking manner, changing their names, making new accounts to harass me, he would attempt to address this also, that may have occurred in this circumstance, but unless the dom that sent this email in the first place posts his reasons for his possessive behavior I guess we would not know. If I had an extreme amount of trouble I would hide my profile and make it inaccessible to send emails to me, but not all people believe in hiding.

In essense I understand your opinion, and somewhat agree, but it really is none of my concern why dom Y emailed dom Z, it really is a bunch of stupidity. I could witness this bullshit in bars I used to work in, and that is why I do not bartend anymore, no matter how good the money was... It is not amusing to watch some man drooling in his beer over a married woman that is obviously with her husband, only to have the husband get very irate about it. Both in this circumstance are "wrong".. civil people do not gawk at married women like they are having sex with them, and men that have civility would not get into a fight over their behavior, they would handle it is a more mature manner.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 11:07:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s

ok so if I read the journal right . I should allow my slave  to speak and grow from other dominants?
 
now if I train my slave to act a certain way .. believe a certain way .. and you come along and decide your gonna insite your growth upon her .... now what if it contradicts my beliefs . I should allow you to make her think differently ... you got a screw loose my friend .... I have been around long enough on this site to see "Doms" who pass along their wordsof wisdom to slaves that are owned ... all they are doing is being a snake in the grass trying to steal another mans property .... your logic is totally confused .

I again side with the OP & think people need to READ WHAT HE SAID HE DID. No one even talked to this girl so your whole forced growth theroy is bust as no one tried to establish contact.
Whew people need to really read things before they form these kind of off the mark responses.
Admiring someone from afar in no way can affect the Dom or his sub unless they have internal issues. Besides if she's not willing to have someone like her profile enough to read it and mark it for future references than why was she allowed in here to start with?

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 11:18:36 AM   
IndigoDadesi


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Status: offline 		Aww, thats so cute. The little Dom is flexing his muscles....hee hee.

I always have to laugh when a Dom/me contacts my boy in the attempt to lure him away with promises of dominance and whippings. He is the first to admit that he submits only to me (and those of my choosing, of course). But the funniest thing is the proverbial ego deflation he includes in his responses. Im quite sure he would overpower more than half the Dom/mes who contact him if given the chance.


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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 11:48:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		All this conjures an image of Al Pacino wearing lots of leather standing in front of a mirror and  practicing... 'Are you admiring MY sub? Are YOU admiring my sub? Are you ADMIRING....' you get the idea.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 1:08:25 PM   
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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 2:06:50 PM   
zenofeller


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ORIGINAL: NastyDaddy
Insecurities?????????? Whose????????????????????????


if i had to guess, i'd say insecurities, yes, whose ? whomever uses 50 question marks.

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Dedicated???????????  Dedicated to what??????????????


what, we're doing handle mocking now ? puberty pill ?

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After reading and re-reading your single instance perceived "little gem" problem, it indeed appears to be something you dwell on and now perpetrate further by including re-postings of your earlier propaganda and wisdom of defending open communications with owned subs/slaves... "good for growth"...


whats a "perpetrate further" ? a sort of pertinate forthwith ? like perpetuate foregone ?
what's "propaganda and wisdom" ? sorta like murder and assistance ? do you offer manslaughter and pedicure services ?

communication is good for growth, indisputably. the only people who stand to lose in a scenario where subs communicate with dominants freely are incompetent dominants. censorship is always deployed by incompetence, remember that.

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There definitely appears to be a rather obvious recurring cycle of  "your perceived problem" of  "open growth communications" with owned or taken sub/slaves... seems to happen regularly over the long haul.


would you go as far as to say there probably seems to exist a somewhat blatant pattern ? or is it just a case of a possible perception of a virtual state wherein events repeat themselves ?

what's your gibberish supposed to mean ? you trying to sling mud, is the guy a sub stealer, that what you mean ?

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Your ultimate answer is to come step up high on your soapbox and yell, "Looky here everybody....  what another stupid Dom!"....

and by your you mean, ofcourse, your.

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You got one thing right.... it can be a pissy problem when 12 year olds try to act 40...
Thanks for bringing this elusive belly crawler issue to everyone's attention...  now we are all straight on it! 

certain 12 year olds are well advised to observe most 40 year olds took at least a year of logic in those 40 years, even if they had to be coerced.

other than that, right on dedicateddom. don't let idiots impress you, they abound here for some reason, make a lot of noise and are a lot of fun.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 3:12:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Mavis

The excuse of tagging a profile to come back to later won't wash.. If you copy and paste the data, it won't be lost if the profile owner edits the text in an hour. Fool Thyself, so at least someone is fooled.


Well, since I haven't seen Spinoza or Jean-Paul Sartre here, it seems to me that select, and copy and paste and store and file is a whole lot more work than I'm willing to do, when one mouse click will serve to hold my place for as long as I'm likely to desire. 

If somebody takes umbridge about being on my favorites list.  I'd say they are leading a blessed life, if that is the most pressing thing they have to worry about.
Washed, or not.


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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 4:41:11 PM   
NastyDaddy


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ORIGINAL: zenofeller

... don't let idiots impress you, they abound here for some reason, make a lot of noise and are a lot of fun.



Quite the epitaph for your last visits... or is it merely the bumper sticker announcement that you've found your way back?

What does the inside of your ass look like, you seem to always have the perfect view with your head always in it.

Everyone give the attention slut a little glance so he doesn't feel unappreciated... too funny poster child! 



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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/9/2006 9:55:11 PM   
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Or you could just trust that your property is intelligent enough to ignore folks or to block folks.


This is pretty much what I was thinking. 
 
I've never understood the whole thing with dominants not allowing their slave or submissive to speak with other dominants, though.  To me, it's something of an insult to the submissive, because it screams loud and clear that 1) they cannot be trusted to keep the discussion within the realm of what is appropriate to the rules of their own relationship, and 2) their owner believes they're so easily swayed that another point of view would have them rushing into someone else's arms.  If the Kaptin told me I was not allowed to speak with other dominants, I'd think He'd lost His mind.  I'm a reasonably intelligent adult, and no one is going to sway my thinking on anything, unless I want to be swayed.  I find it difficult to accept that what appears to be a rather large portion of the submissive population is not capable of controlling the tone and subject matter of a conversation with someone who has no authority over them.  

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/10/2006 2:50:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Mavis
The excuse of tagging a profile to come back to later won't wash.. If you copy and paste the data, it won't be lost if the profile owner edits the text in an hour. Bookmarking it is no guarentee that quote you can't just write down will still be there in a day.
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There is no legitimate reason to bookmark a "taken" profile you don't have interraction with unless you're expecting a sudden change in her availability status and you want to keep tabs on that. Fool Thyself, so at least someone is fooled.


A what what now? Seeing as how you're visiting a web site, I assume you have a web browser in use right now. It has, built-in, a tool for making bookmarks or favorites. You're suggesting that everyone should ignore that tool and instead just download every page they can find on the internet that they might want to look at again someday? That's just silly, not to mention a waste of time and resources. As someone else pointed out, a single click vs several, and then having to keep track of the files on your computer.

It also ignores the fundamental point of bookmarking rather than saving, which is that when you visit again, you want to see the most up-to-date information available. People maintain journals, they edit profiles, they add pictures. If you save a profile, you'll never know when people do any of those things.

I've bookmarked profiles in the past specifically because someone came on the forum with such an obviously horrific relationship problem that I wanted to check back in a few months to read about how badly it ended. Not very nice of me, but train wrecks can be entertaining. Saving the page as it existed then wouldn't accomplish anything, and I certainly wouldn't want to get involved with someone whose judgement was that bad.

If you don't want people bookmarking your profile, then don't have a profile. If you're so "taken" that others shouldn't even be allowed to look at you, then there's really no need for a public profile. You can control your own behavior (and that of your slave), but please don't try and tell other adults what they can and can't do.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/10/2006 12:21:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: obis

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ORIGINAL: Mavis
The excuse of tagging a profile to come back to later won't wash.. If you copy and paste the data, it won't be lost if the profile owner edits the text in an hour. Bookmarking it is no guarentee that quote you can't just write down will still be there in a day.
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There is no legitimate reason to bookmark a "taken" profile you don't have interraction with unless you're expecting a sudden change in her availability status and you want to keep tabs on that. Fool Thyself, so at least someone is fooled.


You're suggesting that everyone should ignore that tool and instead just download every page they can find on the internet that they might want to look at again someday?


Not really, but someone suggested "saving a quote" and that's very different.  If you're expecting the quote to be unedited, that's a silly assumption. "saving a quote" requires a static copy (save)  whereas the other reason You list below here would require the  live ongoing edits version, (bookmarking or Admirers listing)

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I've bookmarked profiles in the past specifically because someone came on the forum with such an obviously horrific relationship problem that I wanted to check back in a few months to read about how badly it ended. Not very nice of me, but train wrecks can be entertaining. Saving the page as it existed then wouldn't accomplish anything, and I certainly wouldn't want to get involved with someone whose judgement was that bad.


Smiles.  re-states: "you're expecting a sudden change in her availability status and you want to keep tabs on that"

That's the same thing, maybe different motives, but is still waiting to check the status of this relationship later. Not that it's a crime, but the OP didn't admit to either case. i think the other Dom involved assumed something like those motives and that set him off.  Nice or not, it's no diff from reading a post and thinking "let's see what other garbage this nutter has gotten in" and clicking to read their posting history. Been there, done that <grins>

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If you don't want people bookmarking your profile, then don't have a profile. If you're so "taken" that others shouldn't even be allowed to look at you, then there's really no need for a public profile. You can control your own behavior (and that of your slave), but please don't try and tell other adults what they can and can't do.


Complete agreement on that! i was just saying in this case, i don't think the OPs motives were so pure.  Normally, i wouldn't even attempt to devine others motives, but His post essentially said, "Lookit here, I'm a good guy and this guy is an ass, judge my behavior"  ..  so i did. 

What's funny is the behavior of both Doms is so not important, but once the discussion begins, it's much more about defending our stances than anything else.  i really don't want to do that because my stance is based on my reaction to this single scenario, and as You and O/others have pointed out, there are different reasons for similar events that i might view completely different.

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RE: All Points Bulletin - Be on the lookout for... - 8/10/2006 1:34:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: windchymes

There is a big difference in communicating with one's own sub/slave and telling her what or what not to do and trusting her to obey, and feeling the need to go into her Admirer's list and email people who have not even made contact with her and tell them to back off, announcing it loudly through a virtual bullhorn.

The former shows confidence, maturity and trust, the latter shows extreme insecurity and puffed up self-importance.  I can almost picture the big floating head, bellowing "I AM DOM, THE GREAT AND POWERFUL!!!!"


I'm inclined to agree.

My stuff gets browsed through when my Master is here, he idly reads my mails, my replies........there's a list of *admirers* that I've never spoken to and a few that I have.

I chat to other doms and always have. I chat to doms that are clearly interested in me. I sometimes  go out with other doms that are interested in me. Either my Master has an over-abundance of arrogance or he just knows that he only needs to trust ME.....lol

If he suddenly decided to shoot off  *proprietal* mails to  other chaps, I'd wonder what the hell had got into him.

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