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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: FLButtSlut
So my question is this....How many of you doms out there are so unsure of how much control you want or what you want to control in a sub's life, that you can never give a straight answer to such a question?

There is a big diffrence between insecurity and dealing with reality. Every girl is diffrent with diffrent circumstances. I am far from insecure but until I have talked through in detail with any prospective girl I don't know exactly where the lines will be drawn.

If she has children, those are HER responsibility. I will support and advise, but I am collaring her, not them and her duty to them HAS to take precident.

Her career if she has one is also an area I will never know well enough to be able to make the correct level of informed decisions on. The limits of any control in this area have to be carefully discussed.

If her family (Outside of children) are vanilla then likewise it is not an area I will meddle in.

Those are the three main areas likely to come up but if a girl gives me damn good reasons why something else NEEDS to be outside of the D/s framework it can be looked at, discussed and probably agreed too.

All else is MINE

No insecurity but as you can see, at the start of any discussion with a prospective girl it is vague, I need to know their circumstances before it can be more specific. These are parts of discussing compatability. If she is looking for too many 'exceptions' then we do not end up moving toward a collar, If it is a situation I can be comfortable with then we can do.