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Confussed? - 8/9/2006 6:32:45 PM   
cutelinygurl84


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Status: offline 		Greetings all!!  Here is my story and my question and concernes.  I have this friend who has a master and sometimes when they play and have their sessions I happen to be over her house.  Well just the other day her master talked to me about either joining the d/s scene or eliminating myself from being there when they have their session.  He says its not fair to his sub if I am there clothed and just sitting there on the couch watching.  He says he wants to eliminate all vanilla ppl from his scene.  He has also mentioned to me that he has changed his scene some weeks b/c he knew I was going to be there.  My friends master has also made it very clear that he wants to be able to walk around nacked and he says he does not feel right doing that if I am clothed just sitting there. So he told me I got 2 options to either partake in the scene and have sub rules or eliminate myself and stand outside if I choose not to get involved.

My questions and concernes are that 1- I dont feel right getting nacked in front of them, 2- I am not his sub so why should I have to get nacked and partake, 3- He also says that if I dont obey I will get punished.  I do understand why he says its not fair to his sub and why he wants to elimiate all vanilla ppl from the scene.  I fully understand what he is saying.  But I am trying to work things out with my dom/bf and I feel this will only make things worse for me and him.  I also feel that what if its raining or freezing outside.  Should I have to sit outside in the cold?  Me and my friend will be starting college again on august 31st and we will be going together on tuesday and thursday so on those days I got to be at her house when they play b/c she is my ride to and from school.  My friend and her master say I got time to decide what I want to do.  Her master says he is not forcing me to do anything but in a way I feel he is.  Really what choice do I got b/c what will I do in the winter I cant possibly sit in the cold or rain. 

What should I do I am really confussed?

Cutelinygurl84
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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 6:55:41 PM   
utterlybutterfli


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Status: offline 		Sorry? What?!
I don't mean to be unsympathetic to your plight..but jeez, is this serious question?
Let them have their privacy. You can't just sit there on their sofa and watch! And what do you mean about sitting out heir in the cold. go to a cafe, don't go with your girlfriend..wait in the car? Wait in another room in the house? This isn't really his problem is it?

Don't be confused! Realise people need time to do what they want to do in respect of their D/s lives. Its probably confusing this guy a little as to why this person is in the house while he wants to walk around naked if you ask me.

Or am I going mad?

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 7:05:48 PM   
MistressDeAnnya


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cutelinygurl84
I have this friend who has a master and sometimes when they play and have their sessions I happen to be over her house. 
Cutelinygurl84


I take it you dont live there?
If you dont want to partake, then you could just stay home/go home when thier scening. Seems like a simple request to me.
You need rides to school? Okay then get there right before school, when its time to leave, and not before.

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 8:08:02 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		SOunds like he's making a quite inventive reason to get you one step closer to being a piece of meat for him.

Good lord girl do you EVER stay out of drama?  Last week you'd just broken up with the father of your child, fucked another man and then wanted to try and make it work.

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 8:16:19 PM   
Submotive


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quote:

he wants to be able to walk around nacked 


OMG - nacked? - gee - hope it didn't hurt. It's naked - not nacked. And sorry, but i really don't see why this is a problem. Just leave so you don't get nacked too. LOL
 
i can't help it - poor spelling just cracks me up and brings out all my sarcasm and feistiness.


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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 8:23:44 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry, I had a great idea for an answer, but it looked so silly to my own eyes I could write it with a straight face.
You must be kidding. sitting there while tey scene is like wsitting i a bedroom while someone screws.  If it bothers them, let them not start while your there... if you dont want to partake, then find somewhere else to wait. And if you think your Dom/bf might NOt have issues with this... you had best ask him. Thats not a decision you should even be considering without his input.

My oh so humble opinion(s)

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 8:26:19 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		another vote for Go Home .........

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 8:32:07 PM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with the Dom and most of the previous posts. Either join or but out and go away when they play.

If you know they are planning to scene then stay at the college and do homework/study.

He's the boss of his house, deal with it.

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 8:55:25 PM   
cutelinygurl84


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Status: offline 		Its a problem to me b/c how can I just leave where would I go.  I dont got a car to drive anywhere.  Well I cant stay at the college my mom works till late and wont go there to pick me up she rather come to my friends house which is 15minutes from my house.

Cutelinygurl84

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 9:05:11 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		When your Mom comes over to pick you up at this friends house will the Dom require her to take her clothes off to, so you all don't feel wierded out?   Really though, tell this bozo to take a hike, he can't tell anyone but his own submissive what to do. Leave your clothes on and perhaps you may want to seek some new friends.

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 9:10:11 PM   
porcelaine


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Status: offline 		It is your problem indeed as that is their home and the rules that would apply would be his not yours. Like others have commented this really isn't a problem at all. Surely you don't expect them to bend their rules to accommodate you? Another thing comes to mind. Are you upset because he said you have to join, or that your little voyeur sessions may be coming to an end instead?

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 9:41:56 PM   
cutelinygurl84


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Status: offline 		I am upset I have to join and I got no desire to sit there with my clothes off.  I do not want to be controlled by her master.  But if I got no choice I guess I will do it b/c sitting in the cold is no options when its winter.  I dont want to cause my friend and her master any problems.  So if need be I guess I will have to walk home after I get back to her house after school.

Cutelinygurl84

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 9:51:32 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cutelinygurl84

I am upset I have to join and I got no desire to sit there with my clothes off.  I do not want to be controlled by her master.  But if I got no choice I guess I will do it b/c sitting in the cold is no options when its winter.  I dont want to cause my friend and her master any problems.  So if need be I guess I will have to walk home after I get back to her house after school.

Cutelinygurl84


Are you really saying there is no where to hang out at your college until you can get a ride from another source? I find that extremely hard to believe. There are no buses to where your mother works? You mentioned you had your own dominant boyfriend, what is his take on you scening with another dom? What options does he think you should use? If you are going to get naked for someone else's dom to keep from sitting in a cold car for an hour or two I would suggest some real prostitution for those hours, not only will you stay toasty warm, but you would make some real money, maybe enough to buy your own car? I hope you understand I am being a smart ass and not at all serious...

Take a taxi home or something for crying out loud.. and get some new friends! Coersive sex isn't consensual.

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 10:01:17 PM   
cutelinygurl84


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Status: offline 		I got friends who drive ya but most are away at college in other states.  How can I take a bus if my parents wont give me money for one.  I got no means to suposrt myself and taking a cab or bus the money addes up every week.  Money I need for bills buying myself clothes and saving so I can move out of my house eventually.  But I guess I will have my friend drive me to school in the morning and just have to find another way home or walk somewhere after school till they are done.

Cutelinygurl84

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 10:12:45 PM   
marieToo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

SOunds like he's making a quite inventive reason to get you one step closer to being a piece of meat for him.



This was my immediate reaction as well.

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 10:15:38 PM   
cutelinygurl84


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Status: offline 		He says he has no desire to sleep with me and he dont want me for a piece of meat.  He is very happy with his own sub.

Cutelinygurl84

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 10:31:19 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		If that were completely true, then it wouldnt be a  "join in or get out" situation, it would be a "get the hell out and leave us alone" situation.  He obviously has some desire to have you there. 
However, why is it not an option to go into another room and close a door? They do have other rooms, dont they?  A kitchen?  even a bathroom? it its such an objectionable idea for you to serve with her or join in, then take a book or your homework and go sit your ass in the bathtub and get out of their way.

DV

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 10:32:08 PM   
quietdedition


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Status: offline 		why would he say you should get naked and join in if he wasn't interested?  who is kidding who?

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 10:42:44 PM   
enigmabrat


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Status: offline 		Ok all I have taken this one on personaly as I live very close to this girl and know her situation thank you all for your consern here and your sugestions Im gunna handle this one... And take care of this young lady.

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RE: Confussed? - 8/9/2006 10:50:14 PM   
Owned1


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Status: offline 		Honestly I just cant stop myself but this is the best whinning I have seen on here in a long time.  The Dom in question has every right to say get naked or leave.  I would not want a friend sitting around dressed watching when Master and I were busy.  If your house is 15 mins from your friends, have her drop you home after school. If that is not feasible try walking,  it would be great exersize and far more comfortable than sitting outside waiting for your Mom.  btw have you asked your Mom permission to chat on an adult site?   (sorry I just could not resist)

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