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master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 2:24:15 AM

mons

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greeting to all

i has a simple question this is it why do master chase dommes. maybe i am giving off a scent or maybe my writing back is to nice or do i need to be hard. but why do some master and or doms chase me, i am proud to be a domme and i am a very good one i am sure it is just a man thing to see if they can change my mind on who and what i am or hey i am just fun but someone please answer this for me oh yes no i do no think i am better then anyother person her on the cm boards i am nice to everyone i gave and get respect so tell me anyone?

(i am dyslexic so excuse my writing i am doing much better) but i do have one i do adore

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 2:44:54 AM

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A) some masters and doms will chase anything and everything that fits into their genetic sex match

B) some masters and doms illusion themselves that it's attractive to try and convince someone they aren't who they say they are (I think they learn this from going after novice subs and realizing how easy it is to make them believe whatever you want), or worse, enjoy the "challenge" of making a dom into a sub

It doesn't matter. Take what works for you and leave the rest

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 2:48:15 AM

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Some Doms thing that all females should be subs its a sexest thing most times

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 3:19:35 AM

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they like the chase *smiles* the hunt ....

and yes it seems very common ...I wonder if it goes the other way ?.. I know for me I have found many dominant males quite sexy, cute or charming... but they dont quite do it for me *smiles* other than to enjoy them as people

now will I tease them at times *smiles* ... lightheartedly yes I will .. but I dont seek to convince them of anything

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 3:24:57 AM

gandalf0297

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I enjoy talking to them for thier insight and experiance, but chase? why waste my time ?
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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 3:26:19 AM

Focus50

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Usually I find a clue or two in said Domme's profile, but your's is quite brief and to the point - no real room for misinterpretation....

Next most likely are the physical attributes of the sexes - that men on average are bigger, stronger and more confrontational and some of the knuckle-dragging doms amongst us are incapable of accepting females as dominant.

If it's just email, I'd suggest you politely point them to your profile and block them - don't get mad; just ignore the ignorant. If it's real life, most women know how to shake off unwelcome male advances anyway. But don't assume describing yourself as a Domme automatically wards off unwelcome advances in the mistaken belief that the role grants you respect.

The majority of aresoles in the lifestyle are male doms - I've heard it several times yet I've NEVER propositioned a Domme! So I have my own mystery to solve.... lmao

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 4:49:53 AM

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I've had them come after me and I asked the reason why? I'm a naturally Dominant female I explained. I was given a smile and told "I can bring the real woman out in you. All women are naturally submissive some just don't recognize it." to which I replied "I have tits and a pussy I am quite a real woman. I can also apply my foot to your back side, so the best thing for you to do is move on scooter."

I think they see female Dominants as a challenge and if he can conqueror her into submission he then feels he is King of the Dom's or something ridculous like that.

~Lashra

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 5:02:34 AM

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Here's an atypically male answer (from, well, you know).

Perhaps it is because they want to encounter the force of a woman, but certainly not just any woman, that could bring them to their needs.

They are foolishly attempting reverse psychology. Foolish only because our men-are-assholes radar (of which I generally share) are taking them at face value.

Just a thought.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 5:20:48 AM

IronBear

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I've long got past the stage of thinking every female is a slave, however, If I am confronted by a female who treats every male like he is a worthless piece of garbage, makes every attempt to dominate all men, or attempts to play rough house with me, then all bets are off and she'll find that I'm a celtic barbarian who will, if she tries to get physicall, take a handfull of hair and bitchslap her to her knees untill she appologies and behaves herself in an adult and good mannered manner. (Frankly, if the law allowed, I'd lock steel about her throad and chain her to the dunny for a day or so). Certainly there can be the thrill oif the hunt and a trophy but personally I've grown out of that stage some 30 years ago.. Having said this, I do beieve that for every woman there is at least one man sonewhere in the world, whose personality of other charactistics will at the very least make her uncomfortably aware of her femaleness, her sexuality and there will be at least a fleeting thought about submitting to him on her knees as a slave.. That many dominant women never run accross this man is why they have stayed as they are.. It is all part of nature and being human.. However I have seen more than one dominant woman submit to a dominant male and do so proudly, happily and without drama. The ones I know have still solid relationships.. I just let other people be who they are provided they are not rocking my boat or causing disruptions.. Everyone is welcome to their choices..

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 5:26:23 AM

DualControl

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Interesting - a domme chased (and eventually caught) me! I'm not complaining.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 5:27:17 AM

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i generally get hit by two different types of doms..one is the usual knuckledraggers that think they are the superdom to make every woman submit to their mighty power....
and the other are the ones that are truely switches and want to explore their submissive side...i have no problem with that...

the ones in the first category just make me laugh..and the ones in the second category will get some chat and indepth discussion...but so far i haven't met one that i personally want to explore that sub side in person...

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 6:03:28 AM

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quote:

...if she tries to get physicall, take a handfull of her hair and bitchslap her to her knees untill she appologies and behaves herself in an adult and good mannered manner. (Frankly, if the law allowed, I'd lock steel about her throad and chain her to the dunny for a day or so).

Hair pulling, bitchslapping, et al Now there are some new definitions to behaving in an "adult and good mannered manner." Excellent leading by example.

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Having said this, I do beieve that for every woman there is at least one man sonewhere in the world, whose personality of other charactistics will at the very least make her uncomfortably aware of her femaleness, her sexuality and there will be at least a fleeting thought about submitting to him on her knees as a slave..

How exactly does being aware of your "femaleness" and sexuality make a Woman uncomfortable?..are We all just in denial of Our gender and sensuality that only a man could understand and point out to Us? And why would having this oversight rectified, make Us need to express it on Our knees? If nothing else, this was an amusement to My morning heheh

MMNH

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 6:09:47 AM

kiska

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No offense, Iron Bear ... But any man who can't think of a better way to control a woman than to 'bitchslap' her ... Kinda falls into the knuckle dragging category of males, in my opinion ... Maybe that has something to do with the fact that I still cringe when a man raises his voice or moves too quickly in my general direction. I've been 'bitchslapped' enough times to know that not only does physical violence *not* make me feel submissive towards someone, it just breeds pain, hatred, fear and more violence.

Yes, men are usually bigger than women. Yes, men are usually physically stronger than women. This has jack plus shit to do with whether or not men should be submissive or women should be submissive. Women are softer and more physically suited for the one thing we do that you guys can't do; carry and deliver babies. Men, in turn, needed to be bigger and stronger to protect the females and their offspring.

This doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out. But you know what? A submissive male can be just as protective and caring over his female as a dominant one can. So, to sit there and go on about all the women you've seen submit without drama once they found 'the right man' is kinda silly unless you're also willing to admit that its just as possible that you have not yet met 'the right woman' to make you submit without drama.

Chances are, she probably wouldn't have to resort to bitch slapping you either.

Anyway, now that I've totally expressed my PMS this morning ... lol

Mons, maybe you could just be flattered that these men find you so irresistable. :) And if they really bug you, its ok to just ignore them but otherwise, I'd enjoy the attention ...

Edited to add ...

I didn't see the 'if she tries to get physical' part initially, but still, if you're bigger than she is, and you probably would be as big as you are ... Is it really necessary to resort to such a degree of physical violence? Can you honestly tell me you'd find yourself helpless to do otherwise?

But then, I've seen a lot of comments from you regarding outbursts of violence, especially concerning your reactions to PTSD triggers. This may simply be another aspect of that, which I do understand, having had to deal with PTSD myself for the past three years.

I've only ever physically struck someone once when he literally had me backed into a corner and refused to let me go. I do not excuse this action ... Just because I have PTSD and just because he refused to stop pushing me, didn't give me the right to lash out. It was an immature reaction, which I am personally still ashamed of.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 6:18:20 AM

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Good question, Mons!
I have a few theories about doms who chase dommes.

1. They admire the Dominant female and want to share ideas and become friends with those they perceive to be a peer, or at least an equal.

2. For those dom males who attempt to top a Domme- they are not very smart, or have a limited view of women.

3. Some who claim to be doms are closet subs.

I have never had any dom attempt to make me submit to him, so I cannot address this phenomenon. Perhaps they consider sub females to be "fair game" or "easy" and want to try to top the ones who seem unattainable.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 7:25:10 AM

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Hmm..DualControl.....chased and caught from Bristol....gee...that sounds so familiar, and that body....hmm...methinks I've got that one in my art portfolio....hey babe!

Ok...on topic. I'm a Domme and I love to play with submissive men but to be honest I'm not attracted to them for LTRs. I am attracted to Doms and switches...not because I want to dominate them but because I enjoy the interaction. There are quite a few Dominant couples out there, and they manage their need to dominate by playing with others....all above board and legit.

I do find that Doms tend to want to make me submit...conquer me, so to speak, and I lose interest in that type really quickly because it smacks of insecurity and that's a really unattractive trait in a Dom. Personally I'd love to find a Dom who would be willing to walk side by side with me down this life path. There's nothing sexier to me than a Dom who sees me as an equal and doesn't want to enslave me.

I have to add that in my experience most Doms do want to explore their submissive side they just don't want to admit it...like it will make them less Domly or something whereas I think it can be a little bit easier for a woman to admit that. I know a few Doms who strated out as subs..some for as long as ten years and then they became Doms who say they would never submit, that it isn't who they are....hmmm.....and it took them ten years to realise they didn't like what they were doing?

I think exploring all aspects of ourselves makes for an informed and mature person....and if we are confident of who we are then who gives a crap whether someone else thinks we aren't a "twoo Dominant"?

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 7:48:52 AM

IronBear

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiska

No offense, Iron Bear ... But any man who can't think of a better way to control a woman than to 'bitchslap' her ... Kinda falls into the knuckle dragging category of males, in my opinion ... Maybe that has something to do with the fact that I still cringe when a man raises his voice or moves too quickly in my general direction. I've been 'bitchslapped' enough times to know that not only does physical violence *not* make me feel submissive towards someone, it just breeds pain, hatred, fear and more violence.

Read my words in full and not just choose what you think will suit your purpose:::::

quote:

however, If I am confronted by a female who treats every male like he is a worthless piece of garbage, makes every attempt to dominate all men, or attempts to play rough house with me, then all bets are off and she'll find that I'm a celtic barbarian who will, if she tries to get physicall, take a handfull of hair and bitchslap her to her knees untill she appologies and behaves herself in an adult and good mannered manner.

Seeing that you obviously are in the same boat as MMNH and only live or have lived in areas where people are the "Nice" suburban midle class people.. Got news for you more than half the people I have had to be involved with or deal with carry weapons of some kind and eat thge candy assed "nice" people for breakfast (male or female). People of any gender who want to get roufg with me are looking at a fight and bitchslapping (to either gender) is a tame form of treatment.. No one gets rough with me or mine and walks away unscathed.. Nice Person? Who the hell ever said that I'm a nice soft person? Barbarian who will and has killed in the past and probably will again? Hell yes in the need is there. I do have to be pushed to an extreme level top provoke anyphysical responce but once pushed there there I will react. You stay in your nice secure home or neighbourhood and never walk into areas I used to work in for as sure as I'm writing this the chances of your survival is small indeed..

Go and re-read my entire original post and if you don't like it then ignor all my posts I couldn't give a flying fuck either way.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 7:48:57 AM

Homestead

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Ego trips, or they are subs playing games.

Any woman who flags as a top immediately loses my interest.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 8:14:24 AM

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fast reply.

I have seen many domme profiles that state they want male slaves but will only have relationships with male doms, and they are looking for male doms to dominate other people with. I have seen a few of these relationships on this board, and it makes sense to me.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 8:22:41 AM

WinterWolf

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I will contact Dommes for the soul purpose of talking, shareing experiences, getting new insights on what it's like on their side.
Though the prospect of having an alpha female for my little girl is appealing, I'm not going to chase one unless she makes it known that she would consider that.
I do think that there are those Doms out there that go about seeking the alpha female in the wrong way. Instead of combining as a top couple, he tries to top her and make her submit.
I think all of use should respect the person when contacting them, no matter if they are Dom, Domme, sub slut, slave or whatever.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/12/2006 8:25:20 AM

Homestead

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

fast reply.

I have seen many domme profiles that state they want male slaves but will only have relationships with male doms, and they are looking for male doms to dominate other people with. I have seen a few of these relationships on this board, and it makes sense to me.

I'm not poly, even in play-so this sort of thing would never work for me. And sharing power is just too vanilla.

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