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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 9:33:25 AM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		This kinda contradicts
 
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I've long got past the stage of thinking every female is a slave,
 
this
 
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Having said this, I do beieve that for every woman there is at least one man sonewhere in the world, whose personality of other charactistics will at the very least make her uncomfortably aware of her femaleness, her sexuality and there will be at least a fleeting thought about submitting to him on her knees as a slave
 
and this
 
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That many dominant women never run accross this man is why they have stayed as they are
 
oh the ole, all women just want to be conquered and want nothing more to be under a man's rule kind of thinking ... her femaleness and her sexuality .. as defined by him, for him ... not bad work if you can get it ... but I've found defining it for myself is just as hot, if not better ... having had female domination, male submission, sensuality and control, female power desires/ideologies since I was in the school yard ... 

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 9:39:12 AM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		E. lol thanks for the chuckle

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 9:51:14 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Actually Jasmyn Nothing I said is contradictory especially if you read my later correction. I could argue it on psychological grounds but that would be a waste of both our times your views of me are well known. By Tthe way, your comment:

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oh the ole, all women just want to be conquered and want nothing more to be under a man's rule kind of thinking ... her femaleness and her sexuality .. as defined by him, for him ... .


That is your erroneous interpretation of what I said. I was very carefull not to say that but as usuall you head for the most negative spin with my posts don't you dear? I never once stated that the man would be defining anything I was refering to nature.

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but I've found defining it for myself is just as hot, if not better ... having had female domination, male submission, sensuality and control, female power desires/ideologies since I was in the school yard ..


How do you justify this when in a now deleted post in the Gorean Lifestyle Forum many months ago you stated unequivocally that you had passed you tesys for to become a red silk kalira and by posting that you proved two things. Firstly that you were role playing Gor, something which you had been denying, and secondly that you knew nothing about the Gorean Lifestyle..

However as usuall you will do and think what you like as is your right. It matters not to me.. 

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 9:57:42 AM   
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I have that happen a lot where male doms approach me.  They do so for various reasons.  Some are amusing some are wonderful and some are insulting.  The negatives I just pay no mind to and move on because they are not worth my time.  Male doms who like to be friends and trade info are great and I have a lot of appreciation for them.  Male doms who like to flirt and have a good time, I appreciate a well.  There's nothing wrong at all with sparring or having a sexual relationship with a male dom as long as there is mutual respect.  Teasing on both sides is fine as long as there actually is an underlying respect.  I don't submit and those who know me are aware of that.  They might teasingly try but it's not going to happen.  There are also doms who do it to gauge how strong you are because they will only submit to fem doms who are sure of their own dominance.  This can be fun too when a male dom seeks you out as one of the few people he'd consider submitting to. 

Then, there are the chest beating idgits who think all women should be submissive regardless of what they state as their desires.  I lump them into the generally rude and those people I don't care to be around.  I don't care if you are dom, sub, switch, male, female or trans.  If you are rude and disrespectful I have no use for you and I am not going to expend negative energy getting mad at something that is utterly ridiculous.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 10:18:27 AM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		IB ... yes, it was back then that I realised I could do this domination thing much better ... and have posted on these boards quite openly how I came to be myself...so sorry if I knew switching along the way is something one can would be later tar, feathered and slaughtered for...I might have bought my own chicken ... re the Gor, believe what you will...it seems you do anyway..  

< Message edited by Jasmyn -- 8/14/2006 10:19:29 AM >

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 10:28:46 AM   
BBWDomme1


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Status: offline 		I have no comment on the topic at hand.  I do however have a comment about Lady Hugs.......

LadyHugs,

I have lurked about these boards for a long time and would like to take the opportunity to thank you.  You consistently provide a voice of reason, a wealth of quiet experience and demonstrate that respectful engagement and manners is not a sign of weakness.

I find you wise, learned, kind and a realist in a community that is often defined by fantasy.  Thank you for consistently demonstrating that quiet power is often the ultimate form of control.

Once again, thank you for sharing yourself in this forum. If I grow to become half the dominant that you are, I shall consider myself very lucky indeed.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 11:10:32 AM   
RFlagg


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Status: offline 		In just the last few months I have been approached by two "Dommes" who wished to submit to Me in private but carry on as a Domme in public.  In the past 10 years, this kind of thing has happened to Me at least a dozen times.  While I can see how this could work for some, it is not My interest, so I have tried to politely tell them all that if and when I take a slave, she will be 100% slave, no conditions.

I do not believe I "chase" Dommes, but I certainly have no problem talking to them.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 2:42:03 PM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

IB ... yes, it was back then that I realised I could do this domination thing much better ... and have posted on these boards quite openly how I came to be myself...so sorry if I knew switching along the way is something one can would be later tar, feathered and slaughtered for...I might have bought my own chicken ... re the Gor, believe what you will...it seems you do anyway..  


No Jasmyn, I have no issues with what you do or don't do. I had issues when you were purporting to be Gorean and live the lifestyle at one stage and your comments proved otherwise.. Other than that I have no issues with you. You are just one of many who take perverse issue regarding anything I may say and use misquotes and then lie to make your point. I have you written off as being a worthless and dishonourable individual. I live my like as I always have according to my codes and culture and do as I have always done, stand to defend what I hold to be of value irrespective of cost. At least I am not a whore to popularity.


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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 3:51:24 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		I don't chase Domme's or sub/slaves for that matter.  I be who I am and those that wish to develop a relationship with me will do so because I demonstrate aspects of self that interest them.  I would suggest that I will develop relationships with others because they demonstrates aspects of themselves that will interest me.  It is a recipirocal situation for me.

As far as why some would be chasing you... I think the reasons and possibilities are endless and not neccessarily the encouraged by you at all.  If this doesn't interest you... then I suggest you just avoid such people.  Defend your boundaries strongly if they persist..... nothing wrong with drawing a hard line with regards to ones personal boundaries.



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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 8:51:01 PM   
Misstoyou


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Status: offline 		As everyone has said, it's an individual thing. I've had (but rarely) rudely-worded demands to submit from alleged Doms who said they could sense the "real" me between the lines of my profile text, lol. But I've also had two perfectly nice men as my submissives that self-identified as Doms on CM before they got involved with me, and went back to self-identifying as Doms here after they were released.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 9:01:18 PM   
LTRsubNW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

This kinda contradicts
 
quote:

I've long got past the stage of thinking every female is a slave,
 
(Now ya tell me!)
 
quote:

Having said this, I do beieve that for every woman there is at least one man sonewhere in the world, whose personality of other charactistics will at the very least make her uncomfortably aware of her femaleness, her sexuality and there will be at least a fleeting thought about submitting to him on her knees as a slave
 
(Well, I'm going to assume the grammar police are going to handle this one)
 
quote:

That many dominant women never run accross this man is why they have stayed as they are
 
oh the ole, all women just want to be conquered and want nothing more to be under a man's rule kind of thinking ... her femaleness and her sexuality .. as defined by him, for him ... not bad work if you can get it ... but I've found defining it for myself is just as hot, if not better ... having had female domination, male submission, sensuality and control, female power desires/ideologies since I was in the school yard ... 


Now just hold on here a doggone minute!!!!  There are a few fantasies I would like to hold on to, dammit!!!!  The whole female falling under the mans thumb (in an extremely sexual way) just COULD be the way it's supposed to be!!!! (said of course in the most submissive of manners).
 
(But I digress....)

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 9:04:32 PM   
MistressOfGa


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Happens all the time and it's irritating as hell--here is the latest:
 
"dom here has read your profile and likes what he sees, you may approach"
 
 yeah, right.
 
Many who do that seem to have this anger that a woman cannot be Dominant---tsk tsk.

LOL! OMG MH, I got the same letter. What an idiot.  

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/14/2006 9:39:07 PM   
WhiplashGirlChld


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Status: offline 		Depending on your natural bent, I think approaching all others from your personal point of view "I'm dominant so I dominate" or "I'm submissive so I submit" is akin to canine butt-sniffing.  "Here!  Check me out while I check you out."  In a casual sense I don't mind it - expect it in fact.  I often do quite like the charm and assuredness of other dominant people - in play and out in the world.  However, some are stuck on this old tired paradigm that bores me to tears, and some people in this "scene" are pretty much in it as a free license to be assholes.

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/15/2006 12:02:41 AM   
Jasmyn


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said of course in the most submissive of manners
 
lol of course

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/15/2006 5:28:44 PM   
Slipstreme


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at least one man sonewhere in the world, whose personality of other charactistics will at the very least make her uncomfortably aware of her femaleness, her sexuality and there will be at least a fleeting thought about submitting to him on her knees as a slave..


Depends on the woman. Femaleness.......interesting concept. Ask my slave and she would tell you I have none (aside from that I like shiny objects but that you can blame on the cat) :P

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/15/2006 7:41:08 PM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		Maybe some just like a good challenge.....maybe some think that "Dommes" are mythacal creatures that are really just head strong slaves in waiting....some may just like the rejection......who knows.  

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/15/2006 8:29:48 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear SirDarkside357, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I am seeing in my mind's eye, that indeed some male dominants consider a female dominant, as myself as mystical.  The inability to 'figure me out,' adds to the myth that we are mysterious creatures indeed.
 
My pleasure is in exchanging with other dominants, regardless of style, level, gender, race and age, is with mutual respect and the spirit that I identify with, as a mentor, teacher, educator, presenter and a member of the M/s community at large.
 
Perhaps what is most upsetting though, regardless of one's gender--is that other dominants cross the line of respect and acknowledgment of other dominants.  I find it just as disrespectful of a female dominant trying to out posture and dominate a male dominant as would it be disrespectful of male dominants trying to out posture or dominate a female dominant.  It really benefits the community's mentality if we removed the gender, gender preferences,style differences, race and just focus on mutual respect and sharing.  After all, it is the personal relationship we seek to enhance for our individual's state of happiness.
 
This is what is so endearing to me, as a member of the community, when we can respect one another for who we are, all unique and each having views of the same topic which are as wide as the universe.  Instead of clubbing others with bats, we can caress the mind as if petting the wings of a butterfly, with knowledge, opinions, inspiration, thoughts and or problems.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/15/2006 8:37:41 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Personally, I think its just that they like the challenge. I am sure there are Dommes just as guilty of chasing masters. There are always people who either want what they cant have, or what they shouldnt have. Ive also met people with the belief that everyone of a certain gender (a male that believes all males are, as well as a male that believes all females are) is submisive to some point and that a stronger Dominant can bring that out.  So, it becomes a battle of wills.
Those never work well, though.
Thankfully, the Dom I share my time with here and I dont butt heads.  we discuss our pets, and share ideas and have a really fantastic time together... and neither of us has tried to be the more dominant member of the relationship.  Thats when things get ugly. 

DV

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/15/2006 9:05:52 PM   
Najakcharmer


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ORIGINAL: RFlagg
In just the last few months I have been approached by two "Dommes" who wished to submit to Me in private but carry on as a Domme in public.  In the past 10 years, this kind of thing has happened to Me at least a dozen times.  While I can see how this could work for some, it is not My interest, so I have tried to politely tell them all that if and when I take a slave, she will be 100% slave, no conditions.


Hee.  I get the same from guys who want to be domly-doms in public but secretly be my submissive.  My reply has always been, "If you aren't man enough to be proud of who you are, you aren't man enough to be my submissive."

That sort of thing is really not attractive.  I don't mind playing with switches, but it's absolutely a turn-off to be around guys who are fundamentally ashamed of themselves, of you and of what they want to do with you.  Ugh. 

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RE: master chasing dommes - 8/15/2006 9:08:54 PM   
Najakcharmer


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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Happens all the time and it's irritating as hell--here is the latest:


Hee hee, same guy wrote me too.  When I laughed at him for not reading my profile, he said "how about a dom lover".  ROFLMAO

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