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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 6:08:56 PM   
LotusSong


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God, Lotus!
That "Elvis" needs to go to "Elvis Bootcamp!"
If you look at the picture real close he's got "Camel Toe" of the balls!!!
LOLOL


If  you think for one minute that I could have POSSIBLY missed that... ya don't know me :)

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 6:12:37 PM   
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God, Lotus!
That "Elvis" needs to go to "Elvis Bootcamp!"
If you look at the picture real close he's got "Camel Toe" of the balls!!!
LOLOL


my darling, one does not have to look "real close"...............trust me


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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 6:14:19 PM   
BuxomGoddess714


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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

That damn Depakote.  13 years ago I did the Jenny Craig thing and got down way too thin.  Anyhow.. I had to occasion where I had to take Depakote.. and within ONE month... it had put 20 pounds on me!  And I haven't been able to get it gone since. 


Yes, LotusSong... DAMN Depakote.  8 years taking it, 80 pounds gained no matter what I did.  I have epilepsy so I had to take it for seizure control.  Tough choice, seizures or weight gain?  But my seizures were life threatening.  There is a new drug now (Topamax) and others being studied so I do not have to take Depakote anymore, thankfully.

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 6:36:46 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		Spankmepink, lol, I was in pretty good shape when I was in the military.
All the CG Stations had excercise equipment and you were "encouraged" to use them.
I was between 200-210 lbs then with a 33 waist and I did do a lot of walking whenever I could.

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 7:41:17 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with some..it does get discouraging when you come across a profile that states height and weight proportionate..and you wonder, is your idea of proportionate the same as theirs.?...Then you come across their pic, if they have one..and you think..sheesh!...and who convinced you that you are gods gift?...appearances IMO come and go with age , or illhealth or whatever..but a personality, mind, demeanor..goes a long way to make a nominal appearance become an extremely hot desireable partner....Tempting

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 8:36:59 PM   
Homestead


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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 8:40:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		As a BBW sub, I can understand the doms that appear to be physically healthy and athletic who want subs to be height and weight porportionate.  However, those who are overweight and advertise they only want subs to be under a certain size is just too much!  While appearance is very important to a majority of the male population, I would like to be considered more than just a trophy girl or someone's arm candy and I would not care if I dated a dom who was skinny or overweight because I look at how they treat me. 
 
Popeye, you have very good advice for recommending those who need to go to the gym and I am going to include that as part of my program.  Not only is this beneficial to me physically but this program is also a good stress releaser and you have to love those endorphins!

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 8:56:50 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		If they can find it then they should get what they want, no? There are plenty of thin men that do not mind a BBW like you, and there are heavy men that want someone slim, it all works out in the end.. you would only want someone that was truly attracted to your body type and not just settling because he was like you are, right? There are many many dominants out there that like a big gal.. I wouldn't sweat the ones that don't if I were you, life is just too short.

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 9:01:15 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Perhaps the lack of defensiveness is because they aren't constantly being harrassed about their weight the way that females seem to be.  I know that none of the guys I went to high school with who were overweight went through anything at all like what I and the other overweight girls went through - so they wouldn't get so bitter about it, thus, not so defensive.

I don't know about the others, but I've been fighting with my weight for 15 years (that's over 1/2 my life, to put it into a bit of perspective), and had people harrassing me about it for many more years than that.  I've been called all kinds of things, from kindergarden on; the most recent was from an annorexic offender at the facility I work it ... it started with "you fat ass heifer hippopatamus" and ended with "you're so fat you look like an elephant, elephants won't ever be extinct as long as you walk on the planet" ... which was rather creative of her, considering her education level and mental illnesses. 

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 9:05:13 PM   
Sinergy


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ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

LOL Add me to the list. I like them cuddly and big.


I have avoided allowing myself to become cuddly and big
for most of my life.

While it would be nice to say that I keep in shape to please
my partner, it really boils down to the fact that every extra pound
of flesh on my body is something I have to lug around doing
gymnastics, covered with foam, getting kicked in the head.

So I stay in shape :)

Sinergy

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 9:11:59 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear Vancouver_cinful, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Lass, well done for putting this topic up for all to read on. 
 
I know I am not a slender lass like I use to be however, I've had medical and medical drug treatments that just wreck the body.  I'm lucky to be walking and that is a fact.  But, I agree most hardy, that men have double standards and unfortunately, don't practice standards imposed on others.
 
Indeed, there are men who seek arm charms.  When the lass gets a few pounds she is dumped to the curb and another young lass takes her place.  You see a lot of men in this area who are in their 50s who seek only low 20 somethings.  How sad for them all.
 
A good many lads have petitioned my attention.  Some lads are in more overweight condition than I, to which cannot handle the tasks of being my slave.  I fear they will have heart failure if they work a bit, like hauling my many toy bags.  I don't mind a lad a bit overweight really but, I also do not wish to be the one towing them in addition to my own things.  I judge the heart and spirit first though.  Their package is the last thing on the list but, their health and welfare is always in the front of my concerns.
 
And, yes Vancouver_cinful, I do see many of the lads, especially dominant men who are first to point out overweighted women but, hide behind a cartoon icon or no photos at all.  Perhaps the mental thought that holds weight, no pun intended, is that those who are on the attack of other persons; what they see in them they see in themselves.
 
Medically, stress causes chemicals to release and causes belly fat on women.  So, with all the stress women endure, it is a wonder we've not become much larger.  With the weight harassment, that increases stress, perhaps those pointing the fingers should pay for their deeds of giving stress and should be held accountable.  Interesting thought to those of the legal minds among the list--would those with intent to add stress on others, be worthy of court jurisprudence.  Otherwise, it remains in the court of public opinion.
 
I briefly tuned into a program with host Tyra Banks, a former model and creator of the show; America's Next Top Model.  She wore a fat suit and was shocked, upset and made it known that this was something that overweight people should not have to endure.  I totally agree; especially in our community.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 
 

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 9:23:24 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: Level
*sits back in psychiatrist's chair...... puts pipe in mouth, bubbles come out......* Und so......some vould say these men are bad.....

 Good try but NO. Men like that have body issues of their own; usually they feel their private parts are decidely less than adequate. They're just behaving badly out of insecurity, ignorance and fear.
Well I didn't want to say it, but I agree.   If all women were confident enough to be their bad selves (like me), we wouldn't have this problem of hypocritical men at all.  Oh yeah I could stand to lose a few pounds?  Let me count the ways you come up short!!!  
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ORIGINAL: Skier
I've seen as many overweight male doms as  male subs, female subs and female doms. I'm glad you started this thread because turnaround is fair play. Fat is an equal opportunity killer.
Skier anyone ever tell you that you're a little walking killjoy?   Bet that you don't get invited to a lot of parties even though your h/w proportionate.   You are so incredibly preocupied with death, that it's going to kill you.    Get used to the idea that none of us is going to make it.   M

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 9:30:39 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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ORIGINAL: Homestead

It's interesting to note the lack of denial and defensivness of the overweight men posting here.
As someone stated..Women have been harassed about weight for more years than not whereas men not so much so...why?..because women are more tolerent for the most part on appearance,that criteria is not the be all end all for women usually...whereas with the majority of men it is all about the "look" and no matter what is said the "look" is a top priority for most of the males.So hence lack of defensiveness and denial is not so surprising..they have not been subject to rejection IMO as often as women who are overweight. Their sense of confidence and attractiveness has not been chiseled away day by day year by year by those of the opposite sex...Face it men are turned on by the visual..women on the verbal..Please remember this is just my opinion..Tempting

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 9:34:53 PM   
Sinergy


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Medically, stress causes chemicals to release and causes belly fat on women.  



Stress causes an adrenalin response in your body.  The response of the body to quell this is to release the substance(s) which are commonly known as "cortisol"

Cortisol causes weight gain, organ damage, premature aging, etc.

It is gender-aspecific.

The other issues in your post are relevant.  I am always amazed by the 300# Dom(me) who insist they will only consider size 2 women or male models for GQ.

As I have stated, I keep myself in shape for nobody but myself. I suppose the person I end up with would get to enjoy the fruits of my labour, but I dont do it for them specifically.

Sinergy


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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 9:35:31 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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It's interesting to note the lack of denial and defensivness of the overweight men posting here.
And BTW I have noted only about 8 men who responded in 5 pages worth of postings...Tempting

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 10:00:33 PM   
SexyRed


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It's interesting to note the lack of denial and defensivness of the overweight men posting here.


Oh, you find it interesting? Really...well perhaps that is because the overweight men on this site and many others don't get emails saying, You fat fucking bitch, or things to that effect.

Perhaps it is because of the ludicrous double standard for weight, that has men who have no photo, yet their weight is perhaps 300 lbs, asking a woman who has up to 4 photos, "so, do you have any more that actually show your whole body" or "what are your statistics and size" and the aforementioned, height/weight proportionate.  Then, if you ask them why they are asking for such details and where is their photo, they say, you are not really submissive.

A friend of mine courageously posted her photo on her vanilla ad on Craigslist. She is lovely and about a size 16. Among her replies were such gems as "fat cow, elephant, how dare you even ask for a guy, stop eating, go to gym fattie, you must smell, etc. etc."

It is truly disgusting and boring to keep discussing weight issues, who does it really help?

I am sick of the  casual cruelty masquerading as advice or discussions on weight that crop up here and elsewhere.



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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 10:05:29 PM   
Homestead


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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 10:09:02 PM   
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It is truly disgusting and boring to keep discussing weight issues, who does it really help?
No one except the self righteous ***** who think it's their jobs to delight us with unrequested info in case we're unable to read or decide for ourselves how to live.

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I am sick of the  casual cruelty masquerading as advice or discussions on weight that crop up here and elsewhere
So am I girl, so am I.   M

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 10:11:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Frankly... I think this thread belongs exactly where the other thread went.... I read only  a few of the posts the last thread... and I have read only a few posts of this thread....  This is a very emotional sensitive issue and is not likely to be very productive... which is unfortuante.... since there is some real issues that could be seriously discussed if a little kindness and sensitivity was used.  However, I don't expect it... and will move on to more productive threads.

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RE: Overweight Male Doms - 8/12/2006 10:15:06 PM   
SexyRed


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But I see that the usual suspects are more than making up for it.


Usual suspects? Oh, please,  forgive us all for reacting to the bullshit.

What a stupid comment.

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