3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye !

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FLdomCouple -> 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/16/2004 10:15:42 PM)
Not kidding about the $6000, I figured it out. What the hell am I talking about you ask, well here ya go: Tonight was the last straw, the slave we have been talking with for a fing month and whom accepted our 24/7 offer just told us it will be 15 months before she can arrive as she does not want to break her lease. We are a couple, seeking a 24/7 fem slave for 3 Fing years now. We are tired of the enormous amount of wannabes, liars, fakes, and moronic females that say they want 24/7 but never really thought about it. Your all insincere little B-ches. Yep, this is a rant, a big one, our final one as we bow completely out of the BDSM world on the internet. For some reason every F-ing female on the net seems to think they can be vile rude B-ches. They dont reply to emails but read them, some just delete unread, and some take the time to write back some nastiness. (MAYBE 1 out of 100 may write back something polite as they say no thanks) We found that any profile with poetry on it contained a very rude person, so we started to steer clear of those. WHile we were searching for the ONE, we kept coming up with 'No Poly, No Men, No Nothing, Not seeking a damn thing' profiles, which is a complete waste of our time to even look at; why are you profiling here anyhow? Go F-ing chat on IRC so we dont have to look at your waste of space. So heres the skinny on the $6000. 3 years x 2000 hours a year x 1 dollar an hour. We spend about 6 hours a week trolling alt.com, bondage.com and collarme.com, also include the time spent traveling to meet a sub, gas spent on long trips, first meeting dinners with a sub, and the cost of revamping the room for a 24/7 slave. The average is 1 dollar an hour of our time. So after 3 years and $6000 spent, we have NOTHING except a lot of really bad memories and filthy emails from females. Yippie, this makes us so happy. Well, dont bother to even reply or flame, this account is cancelled about 10 seconds after I hit SEND, and we are never coming back. We're DOMS, were supposed to give abuse, not take it. Well, to all you lying females out there, Kiss out collective BUTT!

SherriA -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/16/2004 10:19:20 PM)
ROFLMFAO...someone pissed in your wheaties, hm? Just a thought, but has anyone ever told you that if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got? Perhaps you need to change your approach if you're tired of getting the same response over and over again. Just my $0.02 worth (not worth a buck, since it wasn't an hour of my time, I guess.) -- Sherri

sub4hire -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/16/2004 10:26:15 PM)
I have to agree with Sherri on this. You are'nt acting very Domly at the moment. I realize you are mad and you need to rant. Is this really the place to do so? OBVIOUSLY there is something seriously wrong with your approach to submissives. If it isn't working don't we usually try to fix it? You have to give the potential some type of security as I said earlier today. They need to feel secure. Submissives are'nt just meat. Yep it is the internet there are many poser's here. We all know that. That's why we also go out and socialize with others. As I tell people who attend my munches, you just never know who you may meet. I have to ask this. Were you going to waive the hourly fee if the woman just up'd and left her entire life for you? If you seriously think "doms" are supposed to give abuse you really don't know anything about the lifestyle at all. That could be a potential red flag for any submissive you are negotiating with as well. Anyway, I could go on and on but I won't. It would be very nice to have considerate coversation here where we can all learn. Perhaps in the future you could prevent someone from making the same mistakes you have.

baddestca -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/16/2004 10:45:40 PM)
it is sad that ones seeking a part of this lifestyle are driven from it by posers and the like i hope for them they find waht it is they seek and for the ret of you that you see in this what i have maintained from the begining . That is those of us serrious are forced out by the game playing oterhs who seek for amoments diversion to to play with hearts and minds of others simpley cause they have the aninominitey here to do so

EStrict -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/16/2004 11:12:01 PM)
What's the old saying about dominants like this? Don't expect to control others until you can learn to control yourself. If this is how they rant after one day of asking questions on the board, is it any wonder they couldn't find anyone wiling to serve them 24/7?

inyouagain -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/16/2004 11:59:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FLdomCouple ...We spend about 6 hours a week trolling alt.com, bondage.com and collarme.com... Perhaps those you are trolling are also recognizing you as being trolls? Perhaps your interest in monetary value could be refocused so that the remodeling of slave room is considered a good investment for the slave you ultimately own? Not a single one of those you complain of asked you to remodel the extra bedroom as their slave room, correct? I thought so... that was your decision, not any of their's. You trolled a lot of ground in three years, so consider your own words, please. You are blaming your failures on those who chose not to choose you. Did you offer to help pay out the lease for the one girl, or to have a new leasee take over so she could run to your remodeled slaveroom? Be creative, alter your approach, re-evaluate what does not work instead of trying the same thing redundantly, as you mentioned... the odds are not in your favor. You are your best salesman, and hope none of your prospects were given the tude and language of your rant post... if they had any reason for not sealing the deal. If so, you would be the one giving them the final straw concerning you and your approach as lifestyle dominants. Inyouagain

GoddessMarissa -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 12:08:44 AM)
If you are looking for a 24/7 slave you should consider that this person is leaving everything, and probably everyone to stay with you. That is a big step for someone to take. Finding someone takes time maybe even a few years in your case. I personally think if you talk to someone a couple of times and mabey meet them once, that is not enough to say, " hey I dont really know you, but I want you to come and live with me." My addvice is dont give up if that is what you want, but at the same time know that being patient and understanding will bring you what you want.[;)]

velvetvixen -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 5:01:20 AM)
My time is worth more than a dollar. Perhaps if you valued your time more you would find a person who valued it more as well. Or is trolling cheaper by the hour?

MistressDREAD -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 5:38:19 AM)
2 Things struck Me as on this post as a (hmmmm) One- its obvious that they were looking at subs not slaves in their words and dident have the skills to determine the differance. ( sad ) Two- Were not what I concider Dominant if Their collective Opinion of what a Dominant is, is an abuser. Maybe the suplicants they had contact with seen sumthing We dident after conversing and meeting this Couple........ Sorry I am a Dominant whom Dominates not abuses, and even as a Sadist gives pain for the end results of pleasure not abuse which I know is a thin line but one that can be Mastered or Mistressed if You so prefer and even humiliation can be practiced to a aggrivation without crossing the line to abuse by Sadists.I really love to meet these kind of Couples at My Munchie Meetings ~smiles~

perverseangelic -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 8:10:31 AM)
(i haven't figured out quite how to get it to stop saying "in Re: to MistressDREAD" MistressDREAD, this reply isn't dirrected at you :) it's for the original post. i appologize) "'No Poly, No Men, No Nothing, Not seeking a damn thing' profiles, which is a complete waste of our time to even look at; why are you profiling here anyhow? Go F-ing chat on IRC so we dont have to look at your waste of space. " well, i have a "no nothing" profile up here. the reason i put it here? to meet people, to expand my horizons. i'm very shy and anxious in social situations. the internet, and it's anonymity, has been a -godsend- for me when it comes to meeting people. in my life i can't/won't walk up to someone and say "hey, are you into beating people or being beaten?" etc. this service provides a community of people doing just that. sure, i'm in other similar communities (livejournal et. al.) but why should i feel the need to restrict myself just because i'm not activly seeking? yup, i've got my real-life group of interestd people, but i want to learn more. yes, i read websites, but often i want real-person interaction. it's difficult to find the authors of some texts you read to ask what they meant, or why they said what they did. collarme has given me the opportunity to open dialog with new people, of all orientations and roles. that's why i listed here, even when i'm not looking for anyone. these profiles -clearly- state what the seeker is seeking, and waste no one's time by missleading readers. why get upset when somoene lists something you don't want? don't contact them! and for goodness sake, when someone replies to you with a polite "thanks, but i'm not looking right now. are you at all interested in simple discussion of ideas and ideologies?" do NOT tell them they're a waste for listing, a bad submissive for not submitting, and generally berate them for repling negativly, even though the profile says it straight out. oh and Re: trolling- i've heard the word 'troll' to mean simply cruising chat rooms to pick people up, not always baiting people.... i don't know if that changes anything. i'm very sorry for the long rant, but this post rubbed me the wrong way

MistressDREAD -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 8:32:05 AM)
HAHAHAHAHA My Gawddd I know the masses tend to levitate AWAY from Me but hahahhaaha perverseangelic that is the way the forum is setup to be a continuation of the last persons comment! If You dont want Your words to follow Mine simply dont comment on the boards that I do.... Problem solved!!! ~smiles~

sub4hire -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 9:00:31 AM)
Perverseangelic, You merely reply to the post you are referring to. That is what I do. If you notice each and every post has a reply function, quote function on it. That way its more directed at which person you were answering.

perverseangelic -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 9:50:21 AM)
Gloria- thanks. i probably should have thought of that, but all message boards seem to be different MistressDREAD- oh no, that wasn't what i meant! i was trying to say that my post wasn't in -reply- to yours. i didn't want you to think my words were dirrected at you. i'm sorry if i wasn't clear.

GoddessMarissa -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 11:36:12 AM)
I am not trolling, if it looked like that I did not intend for that.

EStrict -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 11:44:43 AM)
quote: I am not trolling, if it looked like that I did not intend for that. Marissa, I don't think she was talking to you. She just hit post reply on the bottom left of the page and it says reply to who ever posted last (as discussed above).

velvetvixen -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 11:52:00 AM)
It was a general reply. I did mess up with the button. That is why I am a new user. This might be messed up too. Sorry.

Voltare -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 12:44:09 PM)
It could be more then just a poor approach. I am the first to say the internet is a terrible place to find any sort of long term relationship. On the flip side, its been really very good for starting short term, casual relationships. Perhaps that is where the mistake is being made, in that you are trying to buy a whole farm, without first learning how to keep houseplants alive. Start by making friends in the area in the lifestyle, and from there long term relationships can grow. Beyond that, the time and effort could be spent doing things to make yourselves and your home, more pleasent. Anything from exercise, to cooking lessons, to evenings strolling along the beach would probably have been far better time spent. If you feel that you are wasting your time online, then you've probably answered your own concerns. I can say this with a bit of authority, because I myself have gone from nearly 8 hours a day on the internet, to about 15-30 minutes maximum, and the change has been dramatically positive. Stephan

inyouagain -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 1:25:48 PM)
Hi and welcome to the board velvetvixen and GoddessMarissa. Some information which may be helpful for all. [:)] Definitions of terms used below: thread - this is the "Topic" in any forum, or subject area, which receives posts from other readers. post - a reply from any reader to a given thread, or a reply to any post within a thread Each post within any thread will have 4 buttons displayed: Reply, Quote, Forward and New Messages. Your own posts within any thread will have 5 buttons in them when you see them (other members see same 4 above), but you'll also see "Edit", to allow you to edit your posts in any thread. If a reader wishes to reply to the entire thread (thread starter post), they scroll up and click the "Reply" or "Quote" button for the thread starter's post. If a reader wishes to reply to a particular post within the thread, they scroll to that particular post and click the "Reply" or the "Quote" button for that particular post. As has been the case here, people have replied to the thread by clicking "Reply" in the last post of the thread... unintentionally, not actually commenting to that particular post (or poster)... as their intent was to reply to the subject, or thread. Hope this may help everyone. Inyouagain

MizSuz -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/17/2004 5:19:05 PM)
As I've said before... The first red flag is the individual who believes their upset is reason enough to behave poorly. It would seem their game has been called due to excessive red flags.

iwillserveu -> RE: 3 years and $6000 later, its goodbye ! (4/18/2004 9:25:15 AM)
Dread, It is common problem. If you hit reply it automatically says in reply to the post you hit reply in. There are more than one "I didn't say that" posts. (And an almost equal number of "I was replying to the originol post". Gotta run, non-spellchecked

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