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ORIGINAL: MistressMaamNH

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On Males not sharing emotions...
Okay, I'm going to let you into a little secret that women don't seem to know or they know but deny it.

A lot of guys have learnt not to share their vulnerable side with women. Women do lose respect for men that appear vulnerable. They start to distance themselves, become unavailable and want to break off the relationship. Anything you tell them will be used as a weapon in future. They will share your innermost secrets with their friends. They will whine about you not sharing your emotions with them then will abuse you when you do ie That's not fair or You shouldn't feel that way. They will try to make you feel bad for having feelings that they do not approve of.

It doesn't matter if not all women are like that, the ones that are don't think they are either, so guys learn not to share. To share yourself and be abused in return will mean you will be very reluctant to share again as you know no matter what the woman says she may not be able to deal with your emotions being different than what she wants them to be.

Being human means you have emotions. Not being respected for your humanity as you just shared, is a very sad thing. It is clear how it has colored your view of an entire gender.  Sad to see that kind of damage to a person's psyche.
Never once have I lost respect for a male who has shared his feelings and innermost thoughts..in fact, just the opposite. Being human, I know just how tough at times it can be to let yourself be that vulerable.  I have more respect for someone who expresses themselves on that level.

MMNH

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I may have come across as if I was talking about all women, which I wasn't. I just meant that if a guy did share his emotions and was punished for it, he wouldn't share easily again, if at all.