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Attractive married men cheating on their wives...


are a turn off because of dishonesty
  37% (39)
are more attractive than the same man if he is single
  3% (4)
are a turn on, but I would not date one myself
  1% (2)
used to turn me on until I slept w/ one
  1% (2)
neutral, would sleep w/ him & keep his secret if I liked him
  7% (8)
should divorce & become poly if they seek variety
  14% (15)
used to turn me off until I dated one who told me he was single
  0% (1)
are a turn off for another reason
  7% (8)
are great for sex because they don't get clingy
  9% (10)
are the majority of dominant men that I have met
  10% (11)
r a big% of the responses I get, tho I asked them not to reply
  4% (5)


Total Votes : 105
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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/16/2006 11:24:07 PM   
Crake


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Status: offline 		thanks for a useful story. much more refreshing than the opinions of whether or not one should cheat others have posted. would you say he was more attractive than a single man because you knew it would be sex only with him and that's all you wanted at the time?

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/16/2006 11:29:25 PM   
Crake


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Status: offline 		doh!

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/16/2006 11:32:51 PM   
Crake


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Status: offline 		good idea, i added that to the poll

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/16/2006 11:48:32 PM   
Crake


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

IMHO...you should Not date a married woman....nothing good will come of it.


It is not possible to have good sex with a married woman if you are not her husband?

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/16/2006 11:58:55 PM   
Crake


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Status: offline 		and what about the men and women they cheat with? what do they find attractive about liars and cheats?

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 12:00:58 AM   
Crake


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Status: offline 		obviously a cheater is a liar, tell us something we do not know. tell us what is attractve about a cheater and a liar. the poll shows a percentage of people responding that are okay with being the other woman.

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 12:25:05 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		If you are looking for validation for cheating or for assisting someone else to cheat, you will not find it here.  Past experience on these boards has shown that people around here mostly follow SSC - and that means that all members affected must consent.  To consent, he/she must be aware.  If you are cheating, that cannot possibly be SSC. 
Not to mention that it's dishonest, and a relationship cannot be built on dishonesty.  As someone else said, if they are cheating with you on their SO, then they are probably going to cheat on you as well.  I have been cheated on - I have never cheated on any of my partners.  I can't imagine what would possibly lead me to do that to another person.  I was depressed, suicidally so ... I will not do that to someone else, and I won't participate in someone else doing it either. 

I know that there are many people who protest that there are reasons they can't go to their spouse with what they want - but cheating is never the right option, in my opinion.  There are always better options.

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 2:01:48 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		I don't care what 'excusses' they use or what gender they are, bottom line: If they will lie to a primary partner then they will lie to ANYONE... I don't like liers and won't tolerate them even as friends, let alone be involved with them.

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 2:47:10 AM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		When I was much younger....yes..I did, I didnt have a clue about things tho, hell I grew up a teen of the 70's free love and all that jazz, I didnt always ask,I am sure some were probably married.
I never cheated on a husband...3 of them
I had one open relationship..was discussed in the very beginning he was mono
I slept with another in another relationship but I told him not long after we all went to the movies together and we all good friends

I would now only go outside the relationship if this was what a partner wanted. I have not had one tho in 10 years...I mean NO zero nadda  I have had sex tho
With my best friends husband. I lived with them, she always knew. It wasnt often but it did happen.  Was not a poly relationship either. I had her blessing tho.

Okay does this make me a cheater or not?

I would like to know.
RavenMuse have I now lost all your respect? I thought about not posting this, but to not do it is paramount to lying...I do not have it in me to lie.

This really bother me, this in the first time I have even looked in this thread.

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 3:06:47 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		No dear, you see it isn't the actions, it is the LIES that make the diffrence.

Even *I* can't say I have NEVER cheated... But I can say that since the age of 15 I have never cheated. I saw the damage the lies do. Since then I've had enough experience of being on the recieving end of those lies. Not something I will accept or condone.

Mono isn't the only kind of relationship style and frankly I don't care what style people have, so long as it is open and honest with everyone involved.

I am Poly. helen knew this before she submitted, she knows I am seeking a second girl. she knows when and who I am talking to. I don't OWE her that as a Master to a Slave, but it is the way I work, honesty means she knows what the situation is, no worrying, no imagining the worst because she KNOWS the truth.

The girl I am talking to currently is a switch, she already knows that should she end up submitting, she will have permittion to have pets of her own so her Domme side has a way to be expressed (Because I don't switch).

It isn't involvement with others... it is the fact that I don't like liers and someone who will lie to a partner WILL lie to ANYONE.

But no dear Faerie, I do not see you as a lier or a cheat, but as the same honest, sweet girl I saw before your post!


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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 3:32:37 AM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		WhewwwwwwI was fixing to email you.

Thanks.


I am a switch btw, I dont lie, I can relocate. I would submit

any chance here? LOL

okay I had to ask

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 3:40:55 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		Whilst it says in My profile I am looking for someone younger, it isn't a hard limit dear, but a reflection of the fact I have found the dynamic stronger with an older Dom/younger sub. But from past experience I do know there are always exceptions to that

Alas you are not local dear (And I don't dive into live-in without building a relationship first, hence I look localy) else believe me, you WOULD have had a mail along those lines from me by now


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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 3:51:41 AM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		This is wicked good enough for me Sir.

btw...I like the younger ones too.

men my age are well just....too damn old.

yes I know too there are exceptions.


btw....you do have mail from me. ROFL

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 4:33:28 AM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		Okay I have a kink in all this now, having thought and pondered and emailed ect.

A person is getting a divorce or is legally separated, technically they are still Married

Would you sleep with this person?

No there is no lying involved either.

But as I said technically the person is married.

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 4:37:19 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		Where there are no lies, I see no problem!

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 7:18:34 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Wellllllllll, for me to answer this in a multitude of ways would be quite hypocritical.

As I have not hidden, I am married. I still share a house with my husband. We are about as different as night and day but remain good friends considering we do not have an active sex life with one another. My interest in the fairer sex has not been any secret with him, he has met several, and spent time with one prospective that came for a visit. I think he may have enjoyed her company more than I even. (NO, not that way, gutter brains) He and I do alot of things socially very seperate from one another, weekends away..etc. I have no idea what he does when he is off doing his thing and I don't have any need to know. If there comes a point that we feel sharing the same abode is a problem with our private lives then I am sure we will change it. Considering the nature of our relationship and the lack of sneaking around or lying I do not consider that either of us would be cheating to be with another, someone else may see it differently as is their perogative.


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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 7:21:54 AM   
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quote:

Where there are no lies, I see no problem!


I have to disagree RavenMuse. If attractive married men are allowed to screw around, then how are the ugly old buggers ever going to get laid? Its bad enough having to compete with the attractive single guys!!

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 7:35:02 AM   
swtsouthernsub


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Status: offline 		In my younger days i dated married men because they were'nt as clingy but as i got older i realized it wasnt as fulfilling as I wished it to be was madly in love with one  we still have remained good friends but I wouldnt ever go back to dating one In all likely hood I'll die and old spinster for my sins

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 7:44:01 AM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		swt..bear in mind I am totally overthinking

I see your point but can you positvely say you would NEVER do it again?

ignore me folks.

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RE: Attractive married men cheating on their wives... - 8/17/2006 7:46:32 AM   
Bearlee


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Status: offline 		Okay…I have dated men I knew were married.  I found them ‘safe’.  I’m ashamed I used to do it…I do not any longer.  I agree with Raven, lies bring nothing but trouble and pain, although I don’t believe any wives found out about me.  While I have never had an affair while I had a partner or husband…I don’t think I am any less guilty for being single and dating married men.  At least I don’t do it any more.
 
As far as attractive men who cheat…isn’t that a little like asking why white men cheat?  Or…what ever adjective you might want to use?  I used to say I am not attracted to ‘Ken-dolls’.  And while it is sorta true, I prefer a ‘craggier, more interesting’ look…to say pretty boys are shallow is like saying pretty women are stupid or blondes dumb.  I outgrew that kind of talk a long time ago.
 
To get back on topic…I do not find cheaters of any kind attractive.
 
But, that’s just me,
bear

Edited to add:

Exactly what swtsouthernsub said; they weren't clingy!  Perhaps it's also why I dated 'bad boys' too...  I think the whole idea was about trying to find 'Dominant' men...in all the wrong ways!  Very wrong ways...

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