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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/16/2006 8:25:11 PM

DelRey

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Make sure your skirt is not tucked in your underwear

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/16/2006 9:42:41 PM

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Try to pattern yourself after Otter in Animal House.

[in the supermarket vegetable section]

Eric 'Otter' Stratton: Mine's bigger.

Marion Wormer: [looks questioningly at him]

Eric 'Otter' Stratton: My cucumber. It's bigger.

Eric 'Otter' Stratton: I think vegetables can be very sensuous, don't you?

Marion Wormer: No, vegetables are sensual. People are sensuous.

Eric 'Otter' Stratton: Right. Sensual. That's what I meant. My name's Eric Stratton. People call me Otter.

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 12:52:52 AM

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Say please and thank you.

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 12:56:30 AM

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Yeah, that's it. What cloudboy said (what a great movie. A true classic).

You could also be Benjamin, and she could be Mrs. Robinson...

Benjamin: "Are you seducing me, Mrs. Robinson?"

Mrs. Robinson: "Yes, Benjamin, I am"

...actually, I forget what exactly Mrs. Robinson said after Benjamin asked this question - But - we all know what she did, don't we?...and that's what really counts - have fun!

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 8/17/2006 1:05:19 AM >

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 9:25:32 AM

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I suggest.

"Back to back drop it down real low
I'm such a lady but I'm dancing like a ho
Because you know what, I don't give a f***
So here we go!"
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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 11:41:44 AM

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If you are in a vanilla setting, dress and act to blend in as you discuss your personal involvement privately.

Relax and just be yourself... demonstrate to the Domme what you have to offer.

Observe courtesy and don't forget to turn your cell phone off during your meet.

Pick up the tab, tip well and don't overly flirt with the server.

Good luck

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 11:48:41 AM

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Just be yourself - don't try and just impress but be true to yourself and just treat it like any other 'date' or meeting.

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 1:11:28 PM

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Don't be late !!!

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 5:06:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ABeric

Well, I'm having my first ever meeting with a domme tomorrow at a local cafe/bistro type place. I'm totally clueless on how I should handle it - should I handle it like a blind date? Like I'm just meeting a friend? Should I bring up the sex stuff right away, or talk about other parts of out lives first?

Any advice would be appreciated!

She's the dom. Allow her to drive the meet.

Clearly, blurting out sex in a bistro, much less doing it there might get you a punch in the face or the non-consensual introduction to a cop's handcuffs. I generally advise against that on a first date LOL

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 5:17:44 PM

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LOL, he's probably tied to her bed right now getting the 'Be-Jasus beaten out of him with a cane by this Domme!
LOL "Hit me with that rythem stick!"

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 5:20:19 PM

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Ok, a few tips that I always thought were important:

Don't bite or pick at your nails

Make sure you use the proper utensils for your food

Chew your food with your mouth closed

Use good manners

(BTW, these are some of the things I looked for in my vanilla relationships as well.....they can be instanteous turn offs)

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/17/2006 5:23:46 PM

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LOL, you guys kill me...........

He is meeting her and been there for awhile now, now you come out with the big guns.....don't pick your ass and shit.........

Gawd, Del........I hope he don't tuck his diaper in his skirt.......(that was valuable advice)

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/18/2006 1:07:32 AM

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greetings

now she is a woman too as well as a domme my gosh man woman love flower, perfume candy chocolate mmm no lord no now sex toys you moving to fast. honey be you and bring someone she would like what did you say it would be remember be you the person she spoke to the one who is taking in consideration as her submissive and relax she will like the shy part of you something small rose are nivce but no sex toys that would be crazy oh there will be a chance to bring that soon enough now good luck

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/18/2006 2:10:52 AM

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ABeric

Nothing more to say that what almost everyone told you, treat it easy like a friendly meeting.

I hope that the "domme" will not being as perverted as Mine when i met Him. We (as you will do ) met in a bistro in my City, it was my first dom/sub encounter.i've answered before meeting my "BDSM list". We were going through it and everytime the waiter passes us by, He (my master) was shouting words like: Sucking, whip, etc it was very embarrassing, so embarrasing that after this meeting I thought about now seeing Him NEVER EVER but a few weeks later, i gave Him a second chance and Now we are together (i m collared) since 4 years.Happy ever after.

All this not to worry you about this meeting (if i did worry you , it was not my point) but to tell you that even if it s going not as well as you wish, it s not a very big deal, let it settled for a while before making your final decision.

Tell Us how it works and good luck
Chloé

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/18/2006 6:53:34 AM

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SO HOW DID IT GO?????

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/18/2006 8:48:21 AM

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/18/2006 9:27:09 AM

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Felt good to get that out.

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/18/2006 9:41:33 AM

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hmmmmm no sign of Aberic, wonder how the meeting with the Domme went. Did either of them get celery stuck between their teeth or decide to discuss politics only to find that they have diametrically opposing beliefs? Please put us.... well ok, me.... out of my misery, post an update. I do hope it went well for you.

wanders who is wondering.... grins

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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/19/2006 8:40:38 AM

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i know a true subissive when they already have a envolope with nice card and complenting the mistress. + it' is customary to also have the mistress;s trubute placed in the card as soon as possable. hopfully the surprizing the mistress before any questions are asked . a gift is resonable gift is also a compliment to your mistress . with this advise i can almost garrentee your session will be a succesful
let me kmow if my training helps
with all respect
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RE: Meeting my first domme tomorrow - give me some advi... - 8/19/2006 8:42:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cybergoddess

i know a true subissive when they already have a envolope with nice card and complenting the mistress. + it' is customary to also have the mistress;s trubute placed in the card as soon as possable. hopfully the surprizing the mistress before any questions are asked . a gift is resonable gift is also a compliment to your mistress . with this advise i can almost garrentee your session will be a succesful
let me kmow if my training helps
with all respect
cybergoddess

He did not mention anything of meeting a Pro Domme. There are those who are actually in this not just for the money but for the relationship and possibility of the future together

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